In 2008, I needed to start this blog. Because someone (and that someone was going to have to be me) needed to speak about the truth. Someone needed to tell the truth, no matter how blunt, how painful or how terrifying that would be. Read more »
This was a video that I did which touches on the idea of pushing a girl off the fence. Normally, men are so afraid to offend, insult, or do something wrong in front of a woman that like …. that they end up leaving no real distinguishable traits in this woman’s mind.
Ultimately, this stems from a lot of different fears some of them like fear of rejection, disapproval and so on. In this video I share ONE idea that can help you overcome this and really set yourself apart from all the other men in this woman’s mind.
If you want to read more about this idea, check out a post I did on it too! Right here
Ever had the thought of giving up? Just throwing in the towel when it comes to women? Come-on I know that you have been there before.
So, what causes this? Why is giving up so tempting? Simply because you don’t have a compelling enough reason to have something. It’s hard to go for something when you don’t KNOW what you want or you don’t WANT what you WANT that badly.
You need a reason, an outcome that is so compelling, so emotionally attached to you that it will help you overcome any type of rejection, challenge or difficulty. It will be something so strong it will inspire you to move forward no matter what.
As part of this, how many things that you wanted to do … but have just never gotten around to because you were afraid of failing?
Here is a quote to remember:
Sloppy success is better than perfect mediocrity.
This means it’s better to move forward in an imperfect way than to wait for the right moment, the right opportunity and so on.
Focus on the improvement. Focus on “you” learning something new and moving forward on that. Don’t focus on how many mistakes you make. Look at it as feedback … a way to do things better!
The formula to success with women and in your own life is:
1) Take action
2) Evaluate what did and didn’t work
3) Course correct – do more of what does work
4) Take new action
I know you guys can do it!!! See you all next week =)
Understanding the masculine and the feminine energies and how they work together can be really important in ensuring that you have a stress free dating and relating experience.
Generally the more masculine you are and the more feminine your woman is, the more passion and connection you will have together.
In this video I cover some of the ways you men can learn to really embrace and strengthen your masculinity – to make her more open and receptive when she is around you.
You do this two ways:
1)Becoming competent in useful skills this includes developing your own sense of humor, learning a physical sport – all of it is to show that you are in indeed competent. Competency communicates to a woman that you are strong enough to protect her from outside threats.
2)Developing your own independence and initiative. You don’t please a woman by always giving in to her. You can actually please yourself and a woman by honoring your own desires, by saying “no” or “not right now” and by giving your honest opinion.
Emotionally immature women can be confusing, frustrating and unbearable to date at times.In actual fact, it can put you off women because you think that every woman is the same. That is probably one of the most damaging things that can happen.
Well I have good news for you. Not all women are emotionally immature. I would say there is a greater majority of women who are emotionally immature so I want to help you be able to identify what an emotionally immature women behaves and responses to you.
Here are some of the things that an emotionally immature woman will engage in:
1. Flakiness – inability to assert herself and follow through on her actions
2.extreme high and low mood swings which are in close proximity to each other. For example she is happy and then really depressed in the space of a couple of minutes. Take note of her mood swing patterns.
I want to be able to build your awareness as to what these women really look like. The quicker you are able to identify an emotionally immature woman the sooner you will know what you are dealing with and if you really want to deal with that.
Women tend to process emotional things differently. But that doesn’t mean that every single woman you meet is going to be this high maintenance, emotional potato sack.
Here are some of the things that you can do as a man to cultivate the best and most mature response from women. Click here to read more »
In a number of my other videos I talk about the importance of a man having presence. This presence and masculinity helps to draw out a woman’s femininity, receptiveness and appreciation … which are all good things.
In addition presence will not only enrich the relationships you have with women, but help to create a much more fulfilling life.
To be present is to have all your experiences, attention and resources focused all in one point in time; that which is happening right now.
It involves being in your body, becoming aware of all the thoughts and distractions which may be circulating your mind and then letting them pass over you. Learning presence means you will be able to truly hear what another is saying and it will help create a space between a thought and a particular emotion which may or may not lead to a particular action. Presence allows you to stop operating on autopilot and allows you to regain back control.
You can develop presence mentally and physically. Both are very easy to do, but it will require practice and integration over time.
In terms of attracting women, developing presence also allows you to treat everyone equally. Since you are practicing removing the judgmental thoughts about yourself and others – you can treat really attractive women just as equals – as real people. There is no time for putting them on a pedestal, approval seeking or belief in self defeating thoughts.
So when all fails, here are three other things that you can use to help you avoid a sticky situation.
The first is when you are not sure what to do, display dominance, leadership and assertiveness. When all fails: take the lead, make the decision, and be the leader. If you don’t know how to do this or you have some fears associated with this; it’s time to get a grip on them. If you want to be in a happy fulfilling relationship this is a skill which you are going to have to develop and integrate; so that it becomes a natural part of the way you live your life.
The second tip is always assume that “she is interested in you.” Yes, you heard me right! I have so many emails from you guys asking me what you should do. Put that power back into YOUR control. You know what to do. Stop second guessing yourself. Learn to trust your decisions. When you assume she is interested in you, you can put yourself back into the game and wear confidence on your sleeve. “No second guessing” equals more “self assurance” and “purpose” in your actions. These are all good things, which are required when attracting women.
The third tip is be prepared to improvise! Be prepared for when things don’t work out the way you expected them to. If you need a plan, then have a plan A, plan B, plan C, and plan D. If it gives you more confidence and assurance, do it! Also be prepared to be flexible and go with the moment. Use things that didn’t turn out the way you expected them to: connect, tease, and interact with her on deeper levels. See them as opportunities rather than challenges.
I created this video because reading the various emails I receive I realised a common thread between them all.
It was this idea of placing the responsibility on something outside yourself. Meaning the control was given to the woman you were dating or the women you had yet to meet.
This is extremely harmful and can really kill your cool.
Personal responsibility it about assessing what is and isn’t under your control. And working towards your best outcome.
As part of that, you must learn to refocus your thoughts and ask better quality questions in order to get better quality answers.
What you focus on expands. Always. So if you are: constantly focusing on getting her to like you, seeking her approval, or wanting her to call you back; then you will be constantly sparking emotions and thoughts which make you feel tense and anxious.
If however you focus on things that are completely under your control, like the way you behave, the thoughts that you think and focus on cultivating those, then you can have a much more empowering experience with yourself and this woman.
In part 2 I will be addressing the 3 other core assumptions that you can place on yourself which will help you regain control of the situation and allow that natural sense of cool and ease to return effortlessly.
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I recently got together with Marni creator and owner of “Wing Girl Method”. We chatted about various different intriguing and interesting topics related to attracting and maintaining attraction with women.
She has been working with top dating experts and coaching men on attracting women for the past 7 years. So we really enjoyed getting stuck into this interview and talking about things that really mattered to men.
We covered things like:
*The importance of looks to women
*The difference between what women will say and what they will actually do
*Two of the most hurtful words any woman can hear
*What really matters when attracting and interacting with women.
Hope you guys enjoy, leave your comments, feel free to check out her site for more information and I’ll be in touch soon!
There are two main things I see truly holding men back when it comes to attracting and interacting with women.
The first is attitude. Attitudes they have about themselves and attitudes they hold about women. When any of these are negative, sabotage and frustration are not far around the corner.
When you can learn to investigate what these thoughts are, be open to what you find, and are willing to change these to new and empowering beliefs, your world can literally change.
And the great thing is that all of this under your complete control!
The second thing I see holding men back is a deeper understanding of the psychology of women. When this has never been taught to a man, it can literally be like walking in around in a dark room, trying to orient yourself.
However it is also no use to simply understand women at a deeper level if there are negative attitudes to women in mind. Because in the end these ideas will either be rejected or abused and non of this will help contribute to longer lasting and fulfilling relationships with women.
It is my assumption that this is what men are truly striving for.