Hot Alpha Female

God gave women intuition and femininity. Used properly, the combination easily jumbles the brain of any man I’ve ever met. ~ Farrah Fawcett

Have you ever been in the presence of a woman who is in her true feminine energy? I say presence because it’s not only something that you can see by the way her face softens or lights up but it’s a warmth and vibrancy that she emanates and that you can actually feel. It’s truly a wonderful thing.

What a feminine woman looks like …

I have experienced for myself and seen it many times over: a woman in her feminine energy. A feminine woman is generally a happy woman – a woman that is very at ease. She has a warmth, vibrancy, and openness towards you. She is innately connected to herself. In a relationship, a feminine woman is attentive, caring, and supportive. She finds it easy to find things that she appreciates. She looks comfortable, secure, and at ease with you. It’s easy for her to laugh, it’s easy for her to be vulnerable, and it’s easy for her to connect with you.

Reasons why she loses it …

There are two main reasons why women do not truly tap into their femininity. The first is that there is still a social stigma that assumes that feminine energy is weak and that more masculine energies are needed to balance this weakness.

The second reason is that women find it difficult to be feminine when they are scared, insecure, or upset about something. And, when they experience these emotions they shut down their ability to tap into their true femininity.

In this case, there is not much you can do about the first reason. Social stigmas can take years and years to change. The main thing that you can do here is to simply recognize this and take it into account with your interactions with women on the dating scene or with that woman you are relationshipping with (I know relationshipping is not a word – but it should be).

The second reason is the one that I want you to focus on because that’s one that you have more control over. You have the ability to help a woman overcome the boundaries that are stopping her from tapping into her feminine nature.

Some of you have seen the shift from a woman being in her feminine nature and then changing when something stresses her out or upsets her. When a woman is under stress of any kind she may resort to more negative or more masculine energies. Negative behaviours include becoming more controlling, demanding or withdrawn and sullen. The way to get a woman to get back in touch with her feminine energy is for her to clear whatever it is that is preventing her from accessing it. Click here to read more »

I know it can be confusing and frustrating when a girl says one thing and means another. One important thing to note about women is that most of the time – you cannot take their words literally. Women are incredibly equipped to be able to read between the lines and pick up on things that are not being “said”. This is one of the primary ways in which they create and maintain relationships with other women and the people around them. If you actually watch two women interact with one another you and pay attention to this – you will see that they are always reading behind the lines to identify the true meaning of what is being said. The majority of men are very literal. You take things at face value. Thus, the difference in communication styles creates discrepancies. Please feel free to use this post as a translation guide. And, if there is a common phrase that I missed which you would like a translation for please leave it in the comments below and I will explain it!

She says: “I’m fine”

What she means: There IS something wrong. And, you should know that when I say I’m fine – I’m really not.
Why she does this: She wants you to care enough to first notice that something is wrong and then second ask her questions to determine what’s really on her mind.
What you should do: When a woman tells you she is fine – realise that it’s a red flag that something is up. You get one point for noticing. And, one point for doing something about it. More often than not she will either be feeling vulnerable or angry about something. If she is feeling vulnerable focus more on reassurance. If she is feeling angry focus on getting her to lighten up, laugh, and relax a little more. Click here to read more »

Keep every promise you make and only make promises you can keep.
~ Anthony Hitt

In other words, if you can’t make a promise then just don’t make it at all. Often guys think that in order to keep a woman happy they have to promise her “the world”. But in actual fact, you are more likely to make a woman happy by the promises that you deliver on.

For any of the women reading this post (I know you are out there) what would you prefer? A man who sets the expectation that he will not call you for two weeks and then doesn’t. Or a man that promises to call you for two weeks but doesn’t. Which one would bother you the most?

In either case, the same thing happened. He didn’t call for two weeks. BUT the expectation that you (the man) sets – MAKES ALL the difference. I can tell you right now that most women would prefer the first scenario than the second one. The reason is because in the first instance her expectation is that she will not get a call for two weeks. And, in the second instance she is expecting calls during this time and has two weeks to be continually disappointed that she is not getting one. By making a promise you are creating an expectation within a woman. So, you have to be careful about the promises that you make. If unsure – then do not make the promise. Click here to read more »

What we don’t understand we can make mean anything.
~ Chuck Palahniuk

Have you ever had a woman give you the cold shoulder in a MASSIVE way? Like, you guys were flirting, dating, relationshipping (yes I just made that word up) each other and then things went downhill and she wanted absolutely nothing to do with you? If you haven’t been in a situation like this: then I’m sure you know someone who has.

What I want to let you in on today is the reason WHY she does this. Because when you figure out the WHY then the “HOW to” deal with it becomes very easy. It becomes easier for you to come to terms with her behaviour (and move on if that’s what you want). And, it becomes easier for you move from “her not wanting anything to do with you” to at least getting back onto talking, interacting, and eventually “picking up where we left” terms.

Now, if I were to ask you the reasons you think a woman does this – what would your answer be?

Some of your answers may revolve around: “She’s just a cold hearted B*tch!”; or “She was just playing me the whole time”; or “She never had real feelings for me in the first place”; etc.

I know that when a woman gives you the cold shoulder it can be a very hurtful thing. The most extreme case of this would be in a relationship breakup. You guys have spent all this time together, you feel like you know each other inside and out, and you have some really good memories together. How can you go from a relationship so close, to no contact at all?

Well, I’m going to answer that question right now. It’s really quite simple. And, here is the answer. A woman gives you the cold shoulder for one reason and one reason only: “Self Preservation”.

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“Relationship is an art.
The dream that two people create is more difficult to master than one.”
~ Don Miguel Ruiz

If you want to keep the passion and excitement alive with your girlfriend then you only need to remember one thing: you must actively build anticipation within her. Building anticipation, mystery, and giving her something to really look forward to – is the name of the game. And, if you are guilty of having one too many boring nights on the couch watching TV with her or you feel things are getting stale – then it’s time to mix it up. Here are a few suggestions:

Step One: Spend more time creating that sexual tension.
Remember how to flirt? Well just because she is your girlfriend doesn’t mean that all of a sudden that should stop. Go in first for the passionate lingering kiss instead of heading straight to the bedroom. Spend a little more time talking with her, staring into her eyes, giving her dirty sexual looks, touching her all over her body BEFORE anything actual sexual happens. Appeal to ALL her senses: whisper in her ear, wear a touch of cologne that she loves, kiss her passionately, etc. All this build-up of anticipation may not be that exciting for you – but it will drive HER WILD. Click here to read more »

“Nothing is more terrible than activity without insight.”
~ Thomas Carlyle

Now, I’m sure that you don’t wake up and think, “I would just love to date a controlling woman! That would be so much fun!” Yet you continue to find yourself with a woman who at times is demanding, nagging, complaining, and just acting downright bossy. Despite this, controlling behavior is simply a natural extension to a woman’s personality, just like drinking a cold beer, zoning into a sports game, or playing a video game is to you after a hard day’s work.

Since we have established that controlling women are everywhere, let me help you identify this behavior and show you how to minimize it.

Recognize controlling behavior is simply a signal that a woman is feeling insecure. She may feel a threat to her sense of self, her emotional state, or your relationship with her. Therefore, the controlling behavior creates a sense of security in her world, which stems from her temporary inability to trust you or herself. In her mind, it’s easier to hone in on you rather than look at her own insecurities. Ultimately, she needs her emotional security restored. She needs to regain that certainty with her sense of self, emotional state, or relationship with you. So, what are specific things you can do to prevent and manage controlling behavior?

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Understanding can overcome any situation, however mysterious or insurmountable it may appear to be.
~Norman Vincent Peale

So let me give you a couple of examples. You get her number which she gives to you readily, yet she doesn’t return your calls nor pick them up when you call. Or she sets up a date with you and then, cancels last minute. Or she is always busy and can never make time to speak to you or spend more time with you.

Yes my friend, you have a woman who is blowing you off! If you are making all the moves on this chick and she is giving you absolutely nothing back, then I can tell you right now, that there is nothing you will accomplish by stalking her or calling her 5 times a day instead of once. I’m also here to tell you, she most likely is not interested in pursing anything further with you. Its a hint dude, so read the signs and move on. I know it sucks when they don’t like you the way that you do, but such is life. Not everyone that you like is going to like you back…. no matter what you do.

Don’t sweat it. You’ll live =)

Now there is a difference between a woman that is blowing you off and a woman that is being flakey. A woman blowing you off, will usually give you nothing back to work with. A woman that is being flakey means that sometimes she gives you what you want and other times she doesn’t. You can probably describe her actions as intermittent. When a woman is being flakey she is most likely interested in you, but is testing you. In other words they are seeing how much of her BullS***T you are prepared to take and how effective her little games and mannerisms will be with you. The more effectively she is able to manipulate you, the less interested she will be in you. Click here to read more »

Happiness always sneaks in a door you did not think was open
~ Anonymous

Besides the minority of women who are looking for: a one night stand, friends with benefits, or casual dating – the majority of women are looking for something that will result in a happy long-term relationship. If that’s what you are looking for too, then here is a heads up on what women ultimately look for to determine if you are boyfriend, long-term, marriageable material.

1) She must feel safe and protected around you

There are many levels of safety and protection that a woman can feel and that she needs to feel. On the most basic, level a woman must feel like it is safe to communicate with you and to be in your presence. For example if you meet her walking in the street, at a club, or at a work function, she will want to know whether she is physically safe with you by being in your presence. The key to this is to know what your intentions are and for them to be congruent with what you are projecting in your interactions. For example, if you see an incredibly attractive woman in the street, it’s better to approach her and say something along the lines of, “Excuse me, I was trying to think of an excuse to say hello, but I just couldn’t find one – so hello” rather than walking up to a woman and asking her for the time and then talking about the weather (all in the mean-time being preoccupied of thoughts of how you would really like to sleep with her).

Here is the key thing to understand: when you really get congruent with who you are – you will be able to talk to a woman about anything and say whatever it is that you want, and she can feel attraction for you. This works because women are able to vibe out or sense really quickly what your “presence” is. I can’t tell you how many times my women friends have met a stranger or a colleague and said, “I don’t know what it is about that guy – but he just gives me the creeps”.

The secret is: it wasn’t anything that this guy said; it was EVERYTHING else he was communicating that didn’t involve his words. His presence, his appearance, his behavior, and/or his demeanor.

Women are intuitive, more than they even understand. And, they will intuitively be able to pick up whether it feels safe to be around you, or whether they should get away from you as fast as they can.

Once you are dating a woman, then security and protection can be demonstrated by helping her not only feel physically safe but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually safe as well. Click here to read more »

Alright, in celebration of my birthday (which has just passed – Yes, I’m 25 now!), I wanted you all to know some ideas about what to do if you are dating a girl and her birthday is coming up. I know for a guy there can be a lot of pressure when it comes to birthday celebrations. You want to give her something special – but you also don’t want to blow her out of the water and freak her out. Finding this balance will be really easy once you read these few tips below.

The first is timing. How long you have known a woman is the first indicator of what you should get her on her upcoming birthday.

Dating 2 weeks or less:
So, if you have been dating for maybe 2 weeks and you know her birthday is coming up in a few days, going all out on a birthday party for her is probably not a good idea because you are just in the early stages of getting to know her. Surprising her with dinner at her favorite restaurant, or maybe buying her a small gift (such as a gift card at her favorite store) might be better.

Between 2 weeks and 6 months:
Now, if you have been dating her for more than 2 weeks but less than 6 months, you should know who some of her friends are. Organizing a surprise party for her at her favorite restaurant might be a wise idea if she is more outgoing. If she is more understated, maybe inviting some of her closest friends over to your place for a meal might be better.

Dating her more than 6 months to a few years:
Now, if you have been dating her for more than 6 months but less than a few years and things are looking a bit serious, she might be wondering if you are going to marry her, especially if she is in her late twenties or early thirties. So, if you have been dating her for this long, it will be important for you to think about your long term intentions with her at this time. I’m not saying you should marry her or propose marriage on her birthday, but I am encouraging you to think about that as you organize something for her birthday. You see, if a woman has been dating a guy for years, she is going to be entertaining the idea of marriage. For example, if you have been dating a woman for 4 years and she is turning 29 and you get her an espresso maker for her birthday, she might be really pissed because she doesn’t know what your intentions are.
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The image is one thing and the human being is another.
It’s very hard to live up to an image, put it that way.
~Elvis Presley

Is it possible that ALL women could hate one word? I would say yes. Yet, it’s a word that women constantly use behind each others back and the real secret is that some women want to act in this manner with their man – behind closed doors.

So, “what is this word?” you ask. Are you ready for it?

Slut.

It’s a word that is probably more hurtful than calling her a bitch BUT “whore” comes in close second. What does a woman experience when this word is associated with her? Probably the same amount of horror you would experience if someone yelled out in a public street, “He has a tiny penis!” and started pointing and laughing at you.

It’s part of the fear of being called this by other women (and men) that causes women to act in specific ways deigned to help build an image of themselves which may be far from the truth. So, it means it can cause her to say one thing and appear to mean the opposite. Because of this word, women feel a need to maintain a certain positive image. Ever wonder what all the jokes are about when a woman has an argument that she is always right? Women feel an enormous pressure to be perfect, which implies being right all the time.

Many women fear that if they do not live up to a specific image, then they might be rejected and labeled as an outcast. This might impact their chances of finding a really good man OR getting help when they need it. This is a fear that runs in the background. It’s part of a basic instinct reaction to survive in a social environment. Click here to read more »