Keep every promise you make and only make promises you can keep.
~ Anthony Hitt
In other words, if you can’t make a promise then just don’t make it at all. Often guys think that in order to keep a woman happy they have to promise her “the world”. But in actual fact, you are more likely to make a woman happy by the promises that you deliver on.
For any of the women reading this post (I know you are out there) what would you prefer? A man who sets the expectation that he will not call you for two weeks and then doesn’t. Or a man that promises to call you for two weeks but doesn’t. Which one would bother you the most?
In either case, the same thing happened. He didn’t call for two weeks. BUT the expectation that you (the man) sets – MAKES ALL the difference. I can tell you right now that most women would prefer the first scenario than the second one. The reason is because in the first instance her expectation is that she will not get a call for two weeks. And, in the second instance she is expecting calls during this time and has two weeks to be continually disappointed that she is not getting one. By making a promise you are creating an expectation within a woman. So, you have to be careful about the promises that you make. If unsure – then do not make the promise. Click here to read more »
“Nothing is more terrible than activity without insight.”
~ Thomas Carlyle
Now, I’m sure that you don’t wake up and think, “I would just love to date a controlling woman! That would be so much fun!” Yet you continue to find yourself with a woman who at times is demanding, nagging, complaining, and just acting downright bossy. Despite this, controlling behavior is simply a natural extension to a woman’s personality, just like drinking a cold beer, zoning into a sports game, or playing a video game is to you after a hard day’s work.
Since we have established that controlling women are everywhere, let me help you identify this behavior and show you how to minimize it.
Recognize controlling behavior is simply a signal that a woman is feeling insecure. She may feel a threat to her sense of self, her emotional state, or your relationship with her. Therefore, the controlling behavior creates a sense of security in her world, which stems from her temporary inability to trust you or herself. In her mind, it’s easier to hone in on you rather than look at her own insecurities. Ultimately, she needs her emotional security restored. She needs to regain that certainty with her sense of self, emotional state, or relationship with you. So, what are specific things you can do to prevent and manage controlling behavior?
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“Men play the game; women know the score”
~ Roger Woddis
A lot of women today walk around with their guard up when it comes to men. And, this doesn’t help when you want to make a cold approach or get her out on the first date. So, how can you quickly and efficiently break down a woman’s barriers and move her from being icy cold to warm and receptive to you?
First, let’s define what a barrier is. A barrier is anything a woman uses to slow down or prevent you from getting to the next stage with her. That next stage could be: getting her to talk to you, getting her phone number, getting her on that first date, getting her to commit, and so on. They also come in many forms: acting cold and disinterested; engaging in flaky behavior; playing hot and cold; not picking up your calls; making excuses as to why she can’t see you; challenging you; telling you she has a boyfriend; etc.
Now, women don’t always engage with this kind of behavior because they are not interested. A lot of the time this preventative behavior is used as a filtering system for the various approaches they get on a daily basis.
Why do women put up barriers?
There are a number of reasons why women intentionally or unintentionally put up barriers. This includes:
Have a boyfriend and don’t want to give you the wrong impression
Want to see how you respond to it (testing to see what your skills are)
They are uncomfortable with being approached by men
They are scared that they will get hurt and have their running shoes on
Keep in mind that just because a woman puts up a barrier does not MEAN that she is not interested. It just means that it can take her a little time to warm up to you. And, in order for her to do this you have to gain her trust and kick start that attraction process. Click here to read more »
