Where is she? There are more than 3 billion women on this planet why can’t I just find ONE! I’m sure that has probably gone through your head at one point in time. And, I know how frustrating it can be. So, this post is for the frustrated man who just can’t see to find that special women. Let’s take a look at an email a gentleman named R sent me …
Heya Jen,
I wouldn’t say that I’ve mastered attraction, but I have exercised it enough that for the first time in my life women are finding me attractive and I at least know enough to keep improving. Attraction isn’t my issue, and as I read more I find the gurus constantly going over old ground but never addressing what I believe is the massive bottleneck in my dating life.
Where the expletive deleted are all the single women?
I’m not meeting them. The world that I live in seems to be entirely populated by couples and single men, and every effort I have ever made over the years to meet single women has just brought me into contact with single men out looking for women with the same idea as me. For example, I took up jive dancing recently (which I love) but the classes are full of IT guys and the women are outnumbered.
I live in Oxford in the UK, a university city, there must be tens of thousands of young women here. Maths tells me that there must be a number of single women out there to equal all these men but try as I might I just can’t find them. An abundance mentality self-deception can only be pushed so far before it seems a bit ridiculous in these circumstances!
Do you have any thoughts on this? If you were the woman for me how and where am I supposed to find you? Is it possible to build a lifestyle where attractive single women are automatically coming to me? If so how?
Cheers!
R
It was hard to think about what to write in response to this email – but only if I believe your story about not being able to find attractive single women.
And, I don’t.(And, I’ll show you how this can benefit you in the long run and help you find that woman or those women)
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So I want to talk about that friend you have. You know your girlfriend who seems to have guys hovering around her 24/7 waiting to pounce.
The girl who doesn’t seem to be doing anything in particularly special to attract the males species.
You know, that girl that drives you insanely jealous. Sure she is hot. You tell yourself you wish you had her legs, her butt, her boobs, her beauty mole, her perfectly straight teeth etc, etc.
Yes looks help.
But it is not the one holy answer to all questions. In fact there are plenty of hot women who don’t get approached at all (but that’s another story). So if its not entirely down to just looks, then what else could be at play?
You want the real reason why people don’t approach you? Its real simple.
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Firstly a word about understanding women. Women are one of those things that you either “get” or you don’t “get”.
When you “get” it … when you know what attracts them, turns them on, keeps them interested and happy …. then the only problem you’ll really have, is finding the right kind of woman that is available and can keep up with you.
Still a problem. But a better quality problem.
Now if you don’t get it(and I know there are a lot of guys that fall into this category) understanding, dating and maintaining women can be a futile as a fat kid trying to go on health kick.
You know what you want, but you don’t think you can have it. At one point you think you have it all figured out and then *WHAM!* she throws out a wild card.
So how can we solve this problem? Well simply put, you must get yourself to the point where you “get” women. Now I’m a full supporter of the PUA or the Pick UP Artist community. Because learning about, attracting and dating, really is a skill. However I have to add here, that technique isn’t all you need.
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When it comes to dating there are so many frustrated boys and girls out there a common statement is ” I just don’t care anymore”.
More or less these are people who are in a “single” rut as I would say. There is one instance where this statement could be a turning point in their dating lives depending on what they mean when they say this.
Ever heard of the cliche term, “you find someone when you are not looking for them” – well what does law of attraction have to say about that huh? So as I was thinking about this the other day, I came to a really awesome conclusion and now I’m going to share this with you.
There are the two meanings that this one statement could have. Click here to read more »
Yes. That’s right. You heard me. I did just say that.
Now for the women reading this who are getting a little infuriated at my title heading I urge you to stay with me and keep reading on …
Because you are the kind of woman, that needs help. Right now your probably thinking of 1000 reasons that completely justify your right to be picky, bitchy and a little hissy.
Think I’m wrong. Well let me just regurgitate a typical conversation I’ll have with a woman about men.
“There is no one out there that is worth dating
“All the good looking men are gay or taken”
“All the guys that are interested in me, I’m not interested in them”
“Guys are really confusing”
“I really don’t understand men”
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So here are the rules;
He’s just not that into you if he is not asking you out
He’s just not that into you if he’s not calling you
He’s just not that into you, if he’s not dating you
He’s just not that into you, if he is not having sex with you
He’s just not that into you if he is having sex with someone else
He’s just not that into you if he only wants to see you when he’s drunk
He’s just not that into you if he doesn’t want to marry you
He’s just not that into you if he is breaking up with you
He’s just not that into you if he has disappeared on you
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How is it that us women have the unique ability, (similar to that of a cruise missile) to find, attract and date the only emotionally/physically unavailable man in the entire dating market?
I’m telling you that’s a real skill … and we are good at it, coz lets face it … we’ve had a lot of practice.
Now in light of this we could react how 99 percent of the women do and mention every excusable cliché under the sun, like “All the good men are taken, men only want one thing, I’m just not that into him”.
Now while your ranting off things like “I’ll find him when I’m not looking and there are plenty of fish in the sea” you are missing out on potentially one of the biggest revelations of your dating life.
Among the midst of confusion, frustration and plain denial the single most important truth can be simply put like this.
We pick men who (deep down we know) are emotionally/physically/in some form unavailable to date or commit to us in any way.
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Ok, so lets admit it. There are some times when you meet a guy and you are “Just So INTO Him”.
You met, had a great time, really enjoyed his company and now your all caught up in fantasizing what a great boyfriend he will be, where you will get married and the names of your future children.
Some of you may laugh … but very often this is the trap that a lot of women fall into.
Maybe not so much to that extreme, but when we like a guy most of the time, we are at least sizing him up, of how great he will be in a relationship, in the your life and in bed =)
Most of the time, we are jumping about 10 years ahead and thinking about what it would be like to grow old together and yet you still don’t even know his last name.
You are thinking of marrying the guy and you don’t even know his favorite food or that really irritating habit he has of biting his finger nails that you simply cannot stand.
So what am I getting at exactly?
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Haha, caught your attention there didn’t I?
Well you all must be thinking – what in the world does she mean?
HAF are u telling me, that you take your brother with you on dates?
No, no … wait … actually he has been on a group date with me once, but does that really count?
No I mean … I hang out with my brother. Just him and me and we have a great time together. Whether it be going to the movies, cooking at home, or going bush walking, I spend some good quality time with him.
We bond the most when we both do ski patrolling in the winter season.
Its kind of cool to be close to your brother. Its cool to be close to the people in your life. Its cool to spend not only time, but good quality time with the people you care about.
I’m not talking about .. hey lets just hang out, when its convenient. I mean actually scheduling time, prioritizing the important people in your life.If you don’t want to make a priority to see them, how important are they to you really? Click here to read more »
So we are at this restaurant which is practically like the only restaurant in open in the entire street besides KFC and McDonalds.
So we go in and its packed and there are literally like only 2 waiters and a couple of the kitchen hands. We ask if there are any tables and there doesn’t seem to be any.
Just as we are about to leave the waiter notifies us that there is a table hidden around the corner. We check it out and realize that its like prime position and so we grab the last table left in the restaurant.
Still a little distraught that there will be no dancing tonight, we commiserate by ordering lots of food, with no thought of expense.
So we order and the food comes and just as we are digging in, we see one of the waiters come over to our table and stands near us with a nervous look on her face. We ask her what is wrong and she tells us that she is hiding from the police because she doesn’t have the proper licensing to be a restaurant waitress. Yes in Australia, you need a license for pretty much everything .. Lets just say that I wouldn’t be surprised if we didn’t need a license soon to use public toilets or something. Click here to read more »
