In a nutshell. Hell NO!! Don’t worry I was one of those girls that dreamed, that preyed, that wished it was so. That meeting the right person would dissolve any issues of conflict, fighting or heaven forbid a staleness of passion for each other.
But I was slapped in the face by the cold hard truth. That to have a great dating relationship, to have a great long term relationship you are going to need a little more than a so called “ever lasting love” for each other.
Because you know what? Passion only ever lasts for so long and really nothing in this life lasts forever. We grow up, we mature, we get old and then we start shrinking. Not the pyramids, the oceans, nor your “good moods” can last forever. This is a simple truth of life.
So as we are riding the turbulent waves of life; good and bad, sad and happy, passionate and bored – the passion in our relationship can also waver. The truth is to have a great relationship – you are going to have to step up to the plate and be great at a lot of different things. Click here to read more »
Haha, caught your attention there didn’t I?
Well you all must be thinking – what in the world does she mean?
HAF are u telling me, that you take your brother with you on dates?
No, no … wait … actually he has been on a group date with me once, but does that really count?
No I mean … I hang out with my brother. Just him and me and we have a great time together. Whether it be going to the movies, cooking at home, or going bush walking, I spend some good quality time with him.
We bond the most when we both do ski patrolling in the winter season.
Its kind of cool to be close to your brother. Its cool to be close to the people in your life. Its cool to spend not only time, but good quality time with the people you care about.
I’m not talking about .. hey lets just hang out, when its convenient. I mean actually scheduling time, prioritizing the important people in your life.If you don’t want to make a priority to see them, how important are they to you really? Click here to read more »
So where have I been?That could be a very valid question.
To be honest life has been a little crazy.
Recently I just came out of hospital. Never been to hospital for an illness before in my life and don’t see why I had to start now.
But here I am … and now I’m out and willing to share with you my thoughts and my reflections.
Hopefully we will all learn something new.
So firstly what was the reason why I was in there? Well nothing too life threatening.
Just a severe case of tonsillitis, which could have potentially blocked my airway.
Not to mention the fact that I couldn’t put anything into my mouth, it was excruciating to swallow anything and I was getting very dehydrated.
So 3 days later and more fluid and drugs pumped through me than a local pharmacy, I’m alive, kicking and feeling better than ever.
ok well not better than ever.
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Ok I just had the biggest lesson of a life time. It has to do with perfectionism and being able to handle rejection.
So here is the thing. Sorry if I have not gotten back to some of your comments and thoughts lately I have been in the lovely Goldcoast having a great time with my bestfriend to celebrate her 22nd Birthday.
There are a whole bunch of stories there, which I will have to share with you another time.
Just before that I was working at the Health Expo as a promotions girls to help promote this website http://www.meetyourpersonaltrainer.com.au which will be launching in like 2 days!
SO as you know with any type of promotions you have to get out there engage with people, capture interest and close the sale.
In many respects it would be similar to a guy approaching a girl and attempting to get her interest.
Well here is what I experienced first hand! Man now I know exactly what it feels like to be a guy, and how hard approaching girls can be.
So this is what happened to me and how I overcame it. Click here to read more »
Ok so a lot of you guys email me asking me how you can overcome rejection.
I’ve made video posts, blog entries and talked myself black and blue about how to overcome it.
Recently I just had an experience which put me back in line with that fear. And really allowed me to empathize and relate with you guys more.
In fact. I spend the last 3 days dealing with rejection severely. And it made me remember how gripping that fear was.
Because here is the thing, rejection is something that we are not only going to experience when it comes to the dating arena, its related to every other part of your life.
Business, family, career, social …. you name it … fear of rejection is hidden in there somewhere.
Life is all about figuring out what you want and then developing to courage to go out and get it!
So in the next blog post coming out on Monday, I’m going to share with you, how I did have to approach and get rejected to many strangers, hot strangers might I add … and how in the end I was able to overcome this approach anxiety and reach my desired outcome.
Stay tuned for Monday guys!
Hot Alpha Female
If you want to get better with approaching women, interacting with women or better yet getting better in any area of your life, you are going to have to fail and the faster you fail the better.
Not the advice you were hoping for right?
Well you know what?
I reckon there is a huge worldwide conspiracy circulating out there right now.
And here it is.
We all talk about how great success is, the benefits of it and are given a 10 day system on how to achieve it.
All that advice is effective right? *cough*
So here is the conspiracy. Everyone wants success, but not everyone is willing to sacrifice to achieve it.
You know why?
Because success is made to look easy!
You know what?
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I’m sitting here, thinking … gawd am I actually seriously helping these people.
I mean my dating life isn’t necessarily perfect (there’s that word, better watch out for it). I’m not in the perfect relationship right now. My life isn’t perfect.
Why would I be qualified to be writing a dating and attraction blog. Like really?
My crappy conclusion was that I simply wasn’t. And that I would have to achieve all those things, in order to start writing again.
So that was it.
HAF gone bye bye.
Disappeared for however long I did, on a quest to make my life perfect.
Now I don’t know if any of you have been in pursuit of perfection, but its a pretty frustrating journey and I don’t recommend it.
But you know that quote, “how you do one thing is how you do everything?”. Click here to read more »
So for all those of you that watched the latest bachelor 13 with Jason Mesnick, you are either in one of three places.You are angry. You are happy. Or you really just don’t care.
So for those of you that are ready that are clueless to what I’m talking about, let me briefly bring you up to speed.
Jason Mesnick. A very eligible bachelor, divorcee with a 4 year old son who was dumped by the bachelorette in the previous series, goes out to find love on reality TV.
Funnily enough he does and he manages to narrow it down to two lovely girls. Melissa and Molly. Melissa is the epitome of everything Jason was looking for in a potential wife. She had the looks, personality and charisma he always dreamed of having his wife/partner to have.
Molly was a spanner in the works, she was nothing he expected her to be, but was everything that he needed.
So what happened? Well you know, nothing dramatic.
Only the fact that he proposed to Melissa in the final rose ceremony, only to dump her butt on national television and then hook with Molly again, after he professed his love (also on national television). Click here to read more »
Love.
Its one of those things that can lead to infatuation, delusion, intense pain and self sacrifice.
Yet, its “the thing” that pretty much every person who is truthful to themselves wants to experience.
We spend most of our lives trying to find it in the form of other people or person, only to end up disappointed that no-one can really quite make the cut.
Eventually you learn that real love is found within yourself and then intently shared with someone else who you choose to be close to your heart.
So as soppy as that sounds … I believe it to be true. 100%
Behind all the sarcasm … There is a thick layer of soppiness.
Here is the thing though.
What many people don’t realize is that different people can experience love in different ways.
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So you guys are probably wondering where I have been. Sorry that I didn’t tell you about it before but I went on a almost 2 week meditation course where all you do is eat sleep and meditate for 10 days straight.
No reading, No writing, No talking, No looking at anyone and No dinner.
Wake up time was @ 4:15am each morning and everyone had to get into bed by 9:30pm.
For some that may seem like a living hell. I spoke to some people before I went and most of the responses were the same.
“I could never do that”, “I would go insane”, “What no dinner? Is it a weight loss camp?”.
Well weight loss, not exactly, but you sure do get to dump a lot of the mental weight you carry around.
I did my best to go in without any real expectations.
Some people their who I was talking to before the noble silence started talked about how one of their female relatives did the course and said it was harder than having 4 kids, other talked about stories about people walking naked into the bush and not coming back for some time and others wanting any piece of normal society who just read their name tag and over again for 10 days straight. Click here to read more »
