Ok ok I admit it has been a little while since I have written my last post and I’m sure you have all been wondering where the hell I have been!
Well lets keep it short and simple. I just ended a relationship which had been going on for close to a year. And while I was in this relationship, I was finding it very hard to keep posting about dating and relating stuff. I would literally sit in front of the computer tapping my fingers drawing blanks. Very frustrating.
Now that it has ended I have this renewed passion to continue this blog.
It has been a portal for my own personal development as well as the readers who have been following it. So I can’t resist anymore!
So for those of you that are interested in all the juicy goss, of what happened, of some of the things I have learnt from the whole experience and where I’m going to go from here … READ ON!
This will be followed by my 3 top tips in getting over a breakup!
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and actually be happy! ……
So we all at times can be a little controlling. And at other times we can also be a little bit of a FREAK. But overcoming being a control freak is not as hard as it sounds. It just takes a little bit of practice, patience and faith.
Now there is no better person to talk to you right now about control. Because me and control use to be the best of buddies. I made sure my partner at the time met my expectations and in return that control gave me the “so called security and safety” which deep down I craved. So how did he meet my expectations? I dragged him to personal development seminars, I put some ambition in him, I got him to eat healthier, dress smarter, act nicer … you name it and I did it. And at the end of it, I had a guy who I didn’t recognise nor respected because he didn’t have the guts to stand up for himself.
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When it comes to dating there are so many frustrated boys and girls out there a common statement is ” I just don’t care anymore”.
More or less these are people who are in a “single” rut as I would say. There is one instance where this statement could be a turning point in their dating lives depending on what they mean when they say this.
Ever heard of the cliche term, “you find someone when you are not looking for them” – well what does law of attraction have to say about that huh? So as I was thinking about this the other day, I came to a really awesome conclusion and now I’m going to share this with you.
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Now I’m sure if you are a person that has never been cheated on or done the cheating you definitely know someone who has.I’m hesitant to write about this situation – because I’ve never cheated or been cheated on (that I know of). So I’m worried that my perspective may be slightly skewed and just plain down right unrealistic.
But I’m going to continue writing anyway. The truth is that besides the fact that I have never been in the situation before, I have definitely seen my friends and people I care about go through the emotional turmoil.
Lets admit it, cheating makes things pretty messy. The fact is, its easy to say what you will or won’t do. Like “I’ll never cheat” or blurt out clichés like “once a cheater always a cheater”, but until you are in a particular situation, who knows what you will really do.
Now first lets define what cheating is. Does that mean having some sort of a physical relationship with someone else, no matter how brief?
Does a kiss on the lips with someone other than your partner constitute as cheating? Does opening up to someone on an emotional level in addition to your partner constitute as emotional cheating and is therefore just as treacherous?
I’m the kind of girl that loves black and white, right and wrong. But I’ve learnt that there are a lot of life situations where shades are grey, are all that exist.
Cheating is one of these areas.
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Ever noticed someone say a comment about their dating life like ” All the good men are taken”, “I just can’t seem to find a nice guy”, “All the hot girls are snobs”, “Everyone wants to be my friend, yet no-one wants to date me” …..
You know I could go on and on and on and on ….
But really the list is endless.
Well here is what I have to say about that.
You are putting it on YOURSELF and the only one to blame for getting whatever it is that you are getting is YOU.
And YES in case you didn’t notice. I can be blunt. In fact I like being blunt.
Because it gets your attention.
So here is the thing that I wanted to share with you guys. Whatever it is that you expect out of your relationships is what you are going to get. Because that is all that you are going to see.
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You know while I was down at the snow like a couple of days ago something really struck me.
It was another light bulb moment, but this one was more profound.
Now I’m sure that many of you have had ex boyfriends or girlfriends, so you will be able to relate.
Let me just let you in on the scenario and then tell you what I have learnt from it.
So here’s the thing. I had a boyfriend for like 3 years back when I was like 16. He was my first boyfriend and to tell you the truth, it was a pretty good relationship. I say that in hindsight taking a step back and being able to rationally think about it.
Now things didn’t work out, because he just wasn’t really the right guy for me, but none the less you live and learn. And its an experience that I wouldn’t change for in the world.
Now lets skip over to my brother. He too at the time was dating a girl, who was his first girlfriend. I think they dated for a total of about 18 months. I only know that, because they had like one month anniversaries … but that’s a whole another topic I could rave on about, so don’t get me started. Click here to read more »