Is Love Enough?

In a nutshell. Hell NO!! Don’t worry I was one of those girls that dreamed, that preyed, that wished it was so. That meeting the right person would dissolve any issues of conflict, fighting or heaven forbid a staleness of passion for each other.

But I was slapped in the face by the cold hard truth. That to have a great dating relationship, to have a great long term relationship you are going to need a little more than a so called “ever lasting love” for each other.

Because you know what? Passion only ever lasts for so long and really nothing in this life lasts forever. We grow up, we mature, we get old and then we start shrinking. Not the pyramids, the oceans, nor your “good moods” can last forever. This is a simple truth of life.

So as we are riding the turbulent waves of life; good and bad, sad and happy, passionate and bored – the passion in our relationship can also waver. The truth is to have a great relationship – you are going to have to step up to the plate and be great at a lot of different things. Click here to read more »

Weekend Post Special! – I Kicked His Butt And Now What? Part 2

So many of you have been following Jennie’s Dilemma with her boyfriend. Well here is the second part of this series and the advice I have to offer. For Part ONE click here.

Here is what Jennie said …

Hi Jennifer!

First, thanks so much for getting back to me. I can’t tell you how much i appreciate it. I can see why so many people are drawn to your blog!

So you’ve kind of asked some really good questions here, and maybe this will give you a clearer picture of what i’m dealing with: what’s got me so freaked out is that b4 we had this wrestling contest, he NEVER showed any signs of being a chauvinist jerk. Things were really pretty good and i thought he was a self confident guy. Then i pinned him and all hell broke loose. So i don’t know what to make of that.

But I did try to put myself in his shoes, & I realize that my knowing judo doesn’t mean anything to him. All he knows is, he took on a 5’8″, 125 lb. girl who’s pretty & has long hair and is as feminine as can be, and got his butt kicked. I remember how frustrated and angry he looked when he realized I had him locked down with my knees clamped on either side of his chest and his wrists pinned behind his head. And that’s why I asked you about the sports you had won against guys b/c this really is different. I was able to tire him out and then physically overpower him & I think it took a real psychological toll. Click here to read more »

Why A Man Stays When A Woman Has Her Storm

So a lot of you have already read my last post and made some very insightful and interesting comments.

Ok that was the nice way of putting it.

A lot of you don’t agree with what I have just said.

Maybe this is an area which i cannot be so articulate in as much as I would like to.

So I’m adding this video, so that maybe you guys will see the point that I’m attempting to get across.

For men to stand by their women they love … no matter what.

Enjoy

Hot Alpha Female

Take my shite and I’ll love you FORVER

Ok so we all know that women are testing all the time. Recently this has been re-enforced while I’m listening to Tony Robbins relationship DVD.

Not only are women testing while in the dating process. But they are also testing when it comes to being in a relationship.

As women we always want to know …

Do you really love me? Will you stick by us through thick and thin? Do you understand my real needs? Will you stand to me … so I know that you can stand up for me? Can you protect me? Will you protect me no matter what?

I think one thing that men get wrong, when a woman is storming is that whatever she is storming about is all HIS fault.

Then the guy feels inadequate and feels like a failure because he feels like he cannot solve her problems.

He feels like he can’t take care of his woman and no matter what he does … he is not enough.

Being “not enough” is one of human’s greatest fears. Click here to read more »

What Defines A Successful Relationship? Its Not What You Think!

“How do you define successful relationships, and what does it take to achieve that success?”

This was a question that lance posted on their blog like a couple of days ago. It’s a small competition that they are holding .. and if any of you know me, you know that I LOVE competitions. So I’m going to put my best foot forward.

So how do I define success in relationships? I’m wondering if he wants it in an e book or an encyclopedia collection … lol…

Seriously there is so much that goes into defining successful relationships. Now I know I could just cover the usual. Honesty, love, communication blah blah blah …

Yeh yeh I know that we need them …. I mean you have to be pretty slow to not realize that these are highly important things in ANY relationship.

But I’m going to go through some things that I think are SO important that a lot of people overlook. So you guys better be ready for it.  Click here to read more »

Is There Anything Such As The Perfect Pick Up?

Every week or two I will be answering a question from the Girls Ask Guys website. I personally love this place, there are so many questions, articles and things to do and read that cause a lot of inspiration for this blog.

So one of the questions asked on this was;

Girls, is there the perfect time/place to speak to women? Is there a chance to understand the other gender better?

Answer: Isn’t this the most debated topic like ever? What are the best pickup lines? When is the right time to approach a girl? What are the best things you can say to make yourself look cool?

So here is the thing …

The only reason why guys are where they are is because they have been asking the wrong questions!! …

Picking up and attracting the opposite sex isn’t about the way you look, what lines you use and what car you drive. While I will admit they do help .. they are not the end all. Click here to read more »

5 Reasons Why A Girl Should Never Confess Her Love First!

So it’s the 21st century, times are changing more rapidly then ever before. The phone you got last week is now outdated, today’s news is already old, attitudes and life values are changing as quick as Paris Hilton’s boyfriends. But one thing that I don’t think will be changing any time soon is who should confess their love first!

Hey I’m all about being the modern alpha female. The chick who’s middle name is “challenge me”, who wants to juggle her ambition, family, love life and “being a nice person” all into a 24 hour day. Bring it on!

But when I hear these comments about girls confessing their love to boys first I almost have to cringe. Because when it comes to the dating arena the rules of the game change and some chicks just don’t get it.

So here it is 5 reason why you should never confess your feelings to a guy first! Click here to read more »

Get Over It Already – Breaking Up

Breaking up has got to be one of the suckiest times in our lives. I wish someone had warned me about how painful they really can be. But apparently I missed that memo. Getting back on your feet again and learning to trust someone again is a journey in itself. But ultimately break-ups lead to us understanding life, relationships and ourselves much more. Despite this it’s TOUGH. So I’m here to help by listing some of the inevitable stages of a break-up and what you can do about them to GET OVER IT!

Denial
First comes the fact that you even recognize that there is a problem and that he/she actually told you that they are breaking up with you. Essentially you are waiting for the “Hahahaha just kidding babe, I want you back”. But nothing seems to arrive. Click here to read more »