Hot Alpha Female

“Relationship is an art.
The dream that two people create is more difficult to master than one.”
~ Don Miguel Ruiz

If you want to keep the passion and excitement alive with your girlfriend then you only need to remember one thing: you must actively build anticipation within her. Building anticipation, mystery, and giving her something to really look forward to – is the name of the game. And, if you are guilty of having one too many boring nights on the couch watching TV with her or you feel things are getting stale – then it’s time to mix it up. Here are a few suggestions:

Step One: Spend more time creating that sexual tension.
Remember how to flirt? Well just because she is your girlfriend doesn’t mean that all of a sudden that should stop. Go in first for the passionate lingering kiss instead of heading straight to the bedroom. Spend a little more time talking with her, staring into her eyes, giving her dirty sexual looks, touching her all over her body BEFORE anything actual sexual happens. Appeal to ALL her senses: whisper in her ear, wear a touch of cologne that she loves, kiss her passionately, etc. All this build-up of anticipation may not be that exciting for you – but it will drive HER WILD. Click here to read more »

Love is flow and walls keep the flow out
~ Deepak Chopra

I recently wrote a newsletter for my exclusive readers about how to be the “complete package” (become an exclusive reader here). This was a little different from a lot of the articles, posts, and newsletters that I usually write about. The reason for this was that it was based on some of the more “superficial” things that help attract a woman. Things like your overall appearance, your competencies, and making your home more women friendly. Throughout this newsletter however I did emphasize first and foremost what is MOST important in attracting a woman. And, that being your confidence, presence, and charm. This is something that nice cologne or an interesting skill-set CANNOT compensate for.

And, on the topic of things that cannot be compensated for I wanted to talk about “finding love” or rather, “finding that special woman to love”. I know that a lot of you are in this place right now. Many of you are looking for ways you can attract that wondrous woman into your life that will somehow strip away the loneliness that none of you would outwardly like to admit exists.

And, while I talk about developing your presence, widening your skill set, building more self-esteem, and understanding women – all of these WILL NOT make much of a difference: until one thing happens. Click here to read more »

“Do what today others won’t, so tomorrow, you can do what others can’t.”
~ Brian Rogers Loop

I’m sure you have heard of the various different triggers there are to attract and impress a woman. In most of my posts, I talk about the importance of becoming the best man that you can be. Now, I know that this is a very broad statement. So, today we are going to hone in on ONE character trait that is CRUCIAL in attracting and impressing a woman.

So, here it is:

“Be proactive”.

And, I mean “be proactive” rather than “being reactive”.I mean, face your life head on rather than darting around the edges.

Doing this leads to a sense of confidence that is unshakable. Unshakable confidence is impressive to women.

Being proactive is a byproduct of confidence. And, confidence is a byproduct of being proactive. Being proactive creates LIFE FORCE. It causes you to make decisions, do the difficult tasks, think ahead, and to be flexible. Being proactive means that you are the leader of your own life. You are out there taking charge rather than waiting for things to happen. More often than not, when you are proactive you feel more momentum in your life. You feel better about yourself. And, you feel more confident. And, so this upwards spiral continues.

Men often believe that women are attracted to the superficial things like looks, money, status, and so on. And, while I admit that some of these things can be helpful – they are more like the icing on the cake rather than what makes the actual cake. Because what makes the actual cake is “Character”. And, a man of GOOD CHARACTER is what women are looking for. Usually, when a man has a subset of character traits it’s easier for him to create a good career, have good relationships with his friends and family, and also take care of himself. Most men think that all women want is a guy who has all the superficial things going on in his life.

But, what they are really looking for is the “person” who had the ability to create and attract all those things into his life.

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Just type in the same keywords above and you will find a whole bunch of reviews about the “Girlfriend Activation System” (which I will now refer to as GFAS because let’s face it, that’s a mouthful!) So, what will you get out of this review that you won’t get out of the others? That my friend, is the question and here is my answer. I’m a woman. And, in this review I’ll share with you:

— What I learned about attraction and picking a boyfriend while going through this system

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— Whether these principles in GFAS work on me, my friends, and the women I encounter

Now, before I go any further let me just state one thing. I’m not really a fan of things that claim that they are step-by-step systems on attracting women, dating women, or sleeping with women. To think that the attraction process can be broken down into a set of instructions that will work on ANY women – kind of kills the romance for me.

But with that said, I do understand that there are certain things that men can do and be – which trigger attraction within a woman that she herself doesn’t even understand. When this happens women can react in an almost automatic way and this indeed fascinates me.

What I am a real fan of is programs that not only cover “technique” but that also have a strong teaching basis on mindset and inner game (hello? Anyone read my blog?) In order to move forward in this process I believe you need both.

So, let’s get on with this review. Click here to read more »

Happiness always sneaks in a door you did not think was open
~ Anonymous

Besides the minority of women who are looking for: a one night stand, friends with benefits, or casual dating – the majority of women are looking for something that will result in a happy long-term relationship. If that’s what you are looking for too, then here is a heads up on what women ultimately look for to determine if you are boyfriend, long-term, marriageable material.

1) She must feel safe and protected around you

There are many levels of safety and protection that a woman can feel and that she needs to feel. On the most basic, level a woman must feel like it is safe to communicate with you and to be in your presence. For example if you meet her walking in the street, at a club, or at a work function, she will want to know whether she is physically safe with you by being in your presence. The key to this is to know what your intentions are and for them to be congruent with what you are projecting in your interactions. For example, if you see an incredibly attractive woman in the street, it’s better to approach her and say something along the lines of, “Excuse me, I was trying to think of an excuse to say hello, but I just couldn’t find one – so hello” rather than walking up to a woman and asking her for the time and then talking about the weather (all in the mean-time being preoccupied of thoughts of how you would really like to sleep with her).

Here is the key thing to understand: when you really get congruent with who you are – you will be able to talk to a woman about anything and say whatever it is that you want, and she can feel attraction for you. This works because women are able to vibe out or sense really quickly what your “presence” is. I can’t tell you how many times my women friends have met a stranger or a colleague and said, “I don’t know what it is about that guy – but he just gives me the creeps”.

The secret is: it wasn’t anything that this guy said; it was EVERYTHING else he was communicating that didn’t involve his words. His presence, his appearance, his behavior, and/or his demeanor.

Women are intuitive, more than they even understand. And, they will intuitively be able to pick up whether it feels safe to be around you, or whether they should get away from you as fast as they can.

Once you are dating a woman, then security and protection can be demonstrated by helping her not only feel physically safe but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually safe as well. Click here to read more »

“Love is friendship set to music.”
~ E. Joseph Crossmann

So, let’s just get one thing straight – I know this would be a lot easier if your female friend would just throw herself at you. You know like: make a move; rip off your shirt; declare her feelings; or make a brief confession. The truth is that 90% of women won’t do that. I know it seems unfair. But what is really unfair is that I’m now going to give you the upper hand. What does that mean for you? It means after I share with you the 3 main signals that demonstrate a woman’s interest – it’s going to be so obvious whether your friend has the hots for you. The only difference is that you know exactly “what signs and signals” you need to be paying attention to. And that, my friend, is exactly what we are going to talk about.

Sign # 1: She changes the way she interacts and behaves with you

The most important thing to notice here is the distinction between how she acted around you before and how she acts around you now. Maybe she starts to dress better. Maybe she will only see you when she has her makeup on or looks nice. Maybe you start to notice her feeling a little more nervous or flirty around you. Maybe she starts being more physically close to you by lingering during a hug or kiss on the cheek and allowing for more opportunities to have that happen. Maybe she seems a little more self conscious around you and harder to relax. Different women will do different things, but if she is your friend, you will be able to compare and contrast how she was acting in the past to how she is acting now. Click here to read more »

“A pedestal is as much a prison as any small, confined space.”
~ Gloria Steinem

Now, if this was a “pick up” blog I would be saying, “Why have one girl when you can have 10?” And, then proceed to tell you all the benefits of what having 10 girlfriends would be. But for anyone who has actually had more than ONE girlfriend at a time, the reality is it creates more problems than it does benefits. But that is besides the point, because the point is that the majority of you are looking to get the interest of ONE particular woman.

So, here is the best way in which you can attract that one woman into your life. First, it’s your (good old) mindset. It’s your attitude and your inner game. Now, I know this is the boring answer and I know that some of you just wished for once I would say, “Here is this bright shiny blue pill and if you just take it, the girl of your dreams will be in your arms and you will live happily ever after”. But as you know, life let alone dating women is not like that – AT ALL.

So, yes, it’s all about your mindset baby! In fact, there are complete programs out there that ONLY focus on helping you develop the mindset to attract and keep a woman in your life. And, if it’s good enough for them, then it’s good enough for you. So let’s get to it!

You know what makes a fantasy so appealing? The fact that it’s a fantasy! And, usually the basis of any fantasy is intense focus on only ONE SIDE of the equation. And, as you know life is always working in balance. So, it’s not that the balance doesn’t exist, it’s just that the fantasy prevents you from seeing the other side. If you could see what you want from a balanced perspective, then you would take the fantasy off it’s pedestal and more than likely set a realistic plan to accomplish your goals which YOU BELIEVED was possible.

Which brings me to this idea:

Most of you guys say that you want to get that one special girl, but MOST of you don’t believe that you really can get her.

Some of you don’t believe you are worthy to get a girl like that. Some of you think that you are going to need to work extra hard and be super perfect to attract a girl like that into your life and to keep her there. Click here to read more »

“The whole point of being alive is to evolve into
the complete person you were intended to be.”
~ Oprah Winfrey

Some of you might be thinking, “Ummmmm, that’s the only reason why I’m here” (hey, I had to use something to grab your attention didn’t I?) Before, I go on to explain why you don’t need a girlfriend, let me share some research I was reading the other day.

Apparently, a researcher concluded that when a wife dies, the husband is likely to follow soon there after. Yet if the husband dies, the wife is likely to live on.

Talk about being completely unfair! So, why does this happen? Well, another research project concluded that men and women tend to have different quality of relationships.

Meaning, women tend to have multiple emotionally intimate relationships – so, they will confide in their husband, their friend, their cousin, the guy next door etc. Whereas men tend to emotionally rely on their wife for emotional intimacy – and only confide in their wife for the most part.

Talk about emotional fidelity.

So in lay man’s terms what does this mean? Your girlfriend, partner, wife has more emotional outlets which she can express her feelings and share her thoughts, whereas men usually rely on their intimate partner to confide in. Click here to read more »