The power of sincerity …

Insincerity is always weakness; sincerity even in error is strength.
~ George Henry Lewes

Sincerity is like this lost form of connecting and communicating these days. We are constantly being lied to all the way from our politicians to our moms (who told you dating would be easy). And, most importantly we lie to ourselves. Telling ourselves that “It’s not really that bad” or “That’s not really what’s happening” or “That you gave it your best shot” when you know deep down you really gave it a half assed attempt.

But today, is not really going to be about you. I will say that part of becoming the best man you can be is going to require you to get really honest with yourself. When you can take honest assessments of where you are in your life and what you would like to improve (without the self-criticism or blame) then you can really start to move your life forward.

So, aside from that little note – this post is not about you. It is more about the importance of being sincere with the women that you interact with.

Most “gurus” who talk about attraction or picking up women will kind of dodge around this subject. This is however, something that I have come back to time and time again.

Sincerity helps develop trust with a woman. And, trust (as we all know) is the foundation of attraction. Because if she doesn’t feel safe around you, then you’ve got no more air time to demonstrate otherwise.

So, what does sincerity actually entail? Click here to read more »

What Really Impresses A Woman?

“Do what today others won’t, so tomorrow, you can do what others can’t.”
~ Brian Rogers Loop

I’m sure you have heard of the various different triggers there are to attract and impress a woman. In most of my posts, I talk about the importance of becoming the best man that you can be. Now, I know that this is a very broad statement. So, today we are going to hone in on ONE character trait that is CRUCIAL in attracting and impressing a woman.

So, here it is:

“Be proactive”.

And, I mean “be proactive” rather than “being reactive”.I mean, face your life head on rather than darting around the edges.

Doing this leads to a sense of confidence that is unshakable. Unshakable confidence is impressive to women.

Being proactive is a byproduct of confidence. And, confidence is a byproduct of being proactive. Being proactive creates LIFE FORCE. It causes you to make decisions, do the difficult tasks, think ahead, and to be flexible. Being proactive means that you are the leader of your own life. You are out there taking charge rather than waiting for things to happen. More often than not, when you are proactive you feel more momentum in your life. You feel better about yourself. And, you feel more confident. And, so this upwards spiral continues.

Men often believe that women are attracted to the superficial things like looks, money, status, and so on. And, while I admit that some of these things can be helpful – they are more like the icing on the cake rather than what makes the actual cake. Because what makes the actual cake is “Character”. And, a man of GOOD CHARACTER is what women are looking for. Usually, when a man has a subset of character traits it’s easier for him to create a good career, have good relationships with his friends and family, and also take care of himself. Most men think that all women want is a guy who has all the superficial things going on in his life.

But, what they are really looking for is the “person” who had the ability to create and attract all those things into his life.

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The indirect way to getting everything you ever wanted ….

This post isn’t going to be about how to attract a woman. I’m not going to talk about attraction triggers. I’m not going to talk about building your self-confidence. And, there won’t be any insights on getting inside her head. But in a roundabout way, this post inevitably will help your relationships with women. That’s because this post is about YOU. And, since “you” are the core basis of how you feel in your own world, how you perceive your world, and how you interact with your world – having a concrete sense of who you are and what’s important to you – just screams attractiveness to women, men, and basically everyone you encounter.

I recently read a post (which I can’t seem to find again but I will update this post when I do) which was on how to define the difference between what you “want” and what you “yearn” for. I’m sure you have asked yourself the question on many occasions – “What is it that I want?” In fact, you’ve probably answered this question so many times that your answers are automatic and in some ways emotionless. In essence, the post I read points out the difference between asking yourself, “What do I want?” and answering the question, “What do I really yearn for?” Even though it’s a simple substitute of a few words the impact is completely different.

So, how do you answer the question of, “What do I want”. The first answers that may spring to your head may be: I want a girlfriend, I want my ex-girlfriend back, I want a date, I want sex, I want that cool car, I want to be like that other guy, I want that job promotion, or I want a sundae.

But is that what you really want? Or, is what you are really yearning for is the feeling associated with “what you believe” that particular person or thing will give you? Click here to read more »

Girlfriend Activation System Review – A Female Perspective

Girlfriend Activation System - A Female Perspective
 

Just type in the same keywords above and you will find a whole bunch of reviews about the “Girlfriend Activation System” (which I will now refer to as GFAS because let’s face it, that’s a mouthful!) So, what will you get out of this review that you won’t get out of the others? That my friend, is the question and here is my answer. I’m a woman. And, in this review I’ll share with you:

— What I learned about attraction and picking a boyfriend while going through this system

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— Whether these principles in GFAS work on me, my friends, and the women I encounter

Now, before I go any further let me just state one thing. I’m not really a fan of things that claim that they are step-by-step systems on attracting women, dating women, or sleeping with women. To think that the attraction process can be broken down into a set of instructions that will work on ANY women – kind of kills the romance for me.

But with that said, I do understand that there are certain things that men can do and be – which trigger attraction within a woman that she herself doesn’t even understand. When this happens women can react in an almost automatic way and this indeed fascinates me.

What I am a real fan of is programs that not only cover “technique” but that also have a strong teaching basis on mindset and inner game (hello? Anyone read my blog?) In order to move forward in this process I believe you need both.

So, let’s get on with this review. Click here to read more »

Reasons Why Women Test Men …

Understanding can overcome any situation, however mysterious or insurmountable it may appear to be.
~Norman Vincent Peale

So let me give you a couple of examples. You get her number which she gives to you readily, yet she doesn’t return your calls nor pick them up when you call. Or she sets up a date with you and then, cancels last minute. Or she is always busy and can never make time to speak to you or spend more time with you.

Yes my friend, you have a woman who is blowing you off! If you are making all the moves on this chick and she is giving you absolutely nothing back, then I can tell you right now, that there is nothing you will accomplish by stalking her or calling her 5 times a day instead of once. I’m also here to tell you, she most likely is not interested in pursing anything further with you. Its a hint dude, so read the signs and move on. I know it sucks when they don’t like you the way that you do, but such is life. Not everyone that you like is going to like you back…. no matter what you do.

Don’t sweat it. You’ll live =)

Now there is a difference between a woman that is blowing you off and a woman that is being flakey. A woman blowing you off, will usually give you nothing back to work with. A woman that is being flakey means that sometimes she gives you what you want and other times she doesn’t. You can probably describe her actions as intermittent. When a woman is being flakey she is most likely interested in you, but is testing you. In other words they are seeing how much of her BullS***T you are prepared to take and how effective her little games and mannerisms will be with you. The more effectively she is able to manipulate you, the less interested she will be in you. Click here to read more »

How do I get her to warm up to me?

“Men play the game; women know the score”
~ Roger Woddis

A lot of women today walk around with their guard up when it comes to men. And, this doesn’t help when you want to make a cold approach or get her out on the first date. So, how can you quickly and efficiently break down a woman’s barriers and move her from being icy cold to warm and receptive to you?

First, let’s define what a barrier is. A barrier is anything a woman uses to slow down or prevent you from getting to the next stage with her. That next stage could be: getting her to talk to you, getting her phone number, getting her on that first date, getting her to commit, and so on. They also come in many forms: acting cold and disinterested; engaging in flaky behavior; playing hot and cold; not picking up your calls; making excuses as to why she can’t see you; challenging you; telling you she has a boyfriend; etc.

Now, women don’t always engage with this kind of behavior because they are not interested. A lot of the time this preventative behavior is used as a filtering system for the various approaches they get on a daily basis.

Why do women put up barriers?

There are a number of reasons why women intentionally or unintentionally put up barriers. This includes:

Have a boyfriend and don’t want to give you the wrong impression
Want to see how you respond to it (testing to see what your skills are)
They are uncomfortable with being approached by men
They are scared that they will get hurt and have their running shoes on

Keep in mind that just because a woman puts up a barrier does not MEAN that she is not interested. It just means that it can take her a little time to warm up to you. And, in order for her to do this you have to gain her trust and kick start that attraction process. Click here to read more »

How She Knows You Are Long-Term Boyfriend Material

Happiness always sneaks in a door you did not think was open
~ Anonymous

Besides the minority of women who are looking for: a one night stand, friends with benefits, or casual dating – the majority of women are looking for something that will result in a happy long-term relationship. If that’s what you are looking for too, then here is a heads up on what women ultimately look for to determine if you are boyfriend, long-term, marriageable material.

1) She must feel safe and protected around you

There are many levels of safety and protection that a woman can feel and that she needs to feel. On the most basic, level a woman must feel like it is safe to communicate with you and to be in your presence. For example if you meet her walking in the street, at a club, or at a work function, she will want to know whether she is physically safe with you by being in your presence. The key to this is to know what your intentions are and for them to be congruent with what you are projecting in your interactions. For example, if you see an incredibly attractive woman in the street, it’s better to approach her and say something along the lines of, “Excuse me, I was trying to think of an excuse to say hello, but I just couldn’t find one – so hello” rather than walking up to a woman and asking her for the time and then talking about the weather (all in the mean-time being preoccupied of thoughts of how you would really like to sleep with her).

Here is the key thing to understand: when you really get congruent with who you are – you will be able to talk to a woman about anything and say whatever it is that you want, and she can feel attraction for you. This works because women are able to vibe out or sense really quickly what your “presence” is. I can’t tell you how many times my women friends have met a stranger or a colleague and said, “I don’t know what it is about that guy – but he just gives me the creeps”.

The secret is: it wasn’t anything that this guy said; it was EVERYTHING else he was communicating that didn’t involve his words. His presence, his appearance, his behavior, and/or his demeanor.

Women are intuitive, more than they even understand. And, they will intuitively be able to pick up whether it feels safe to be around you, or whether they should get away from you as fast as they can.

Once you are dating a woman, then security and protection can be demonstrated by helping her not only feel physically safe but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually safe as well. Click here to read more »

Become A Man’s Man Again …

“A man may conquer a million men in battle but one who conquers himself is, indeed, the greatest of conquerors.”
~ Buddha

Some of you may be thinking, “I thought I never lost it!” But let’s face it, today’s society is riddled with trends that intentionally or unintentionally emasculate the average man. I wish I could give you some soothing words to read like, “Don’t worry, it’s really not true”, or “Men have never been more masculine before”. But if you have just come back from a date that was less than worthy of even remembering or you are licking your wounds after a vicious attack by some woman at work who just thinks she’s “Queen of the damned“, then you know what I’m talking about.

So, welcome. I guarantee that “here” is a soft place you can rest/fall/pass out (at least for the next 5 minutes) because in this post I’m going to show you how you can reconnect with that masculine side of you and keep it for GOOD!

First, here is a trend alert. Sensitive new age guys (SNAGs) are OUT and the masculine alpha males (MAMs) are back in.

Fine print and conditions: Yes, there was a period where alpha males were NOT the hottest thing to be. No, not many women are going to admit that they secretly want the alpha males back in charge.

Here is the reason why: your metro man and your SNAG used to be a valuable and well sought out commodity. How cool would it be to be dating a guy who had all the qualities of a gay best friend BUT who wasn’t gay! Yay! Many would say. Ok, enough with the rhyming.

But shortly after women had traded in their rough and tough men for clean cut guys who wanted to talk about their feelings, they realized that dating and relating just wasn’t the same. In fact, it was lame. There I go again with a rap and a rhyme. HAF is here with what you need in time.

So, it’s time to stop letting the women think that they are in charge. Strap your balls back on and focus on being a man’s man yet again! It’s not for her. It’s for YOU. Click here to read more »

What To Get Her For Her Birthday?

Alright, in celebration of my birthday (which has just passed – Yes, I’m 25 now!), I wanted you all to know some ideas about what to do if you are dating a girl and her birthday is coming up. I know for a guy there can be a lot of pressure when it comes to birthday celebrations. You want to give her something special – but you also don’t want to blow her out of the water and freak her out. Finding this balance will be really easy once you read these few tips below.

The first is timing. How long you have known a woman is the first indicator of what you should get her on her upcoming birthday.

Dating 2 weeks or less:
So, if you have been dating for maybe 2 weeks and you know her birthday is coming up in a few days, going all out on a birthday party for her is probably not a good idea because you are just in the early stages of getting to know her. Surprising her with dinner at her favorite restaurant, or maybe buying her a small gift (such as a gift card at her favorite store) might be better.

Between 2 weeks and 6 months:
Now, if you have been dating her for more than 2 weeks but less than 6 months, you should know who some of her friends are. Organizing a surprise party for her at her favorite restaurant might be a wise idea if she is more outgoing. If she is more understated, maybe inviting some of her closest friends over to your place for a meal might be better.

Dating her more than 6 months to a few years:
Now, if you have been dating her for more than 6 months but less than a few years and things are looking a bit serious, she might be wondering if you are going to marry her, especially if she is in her late twenties or early thirties. So, if you have been dating her for this long, it will be important for you to think about your long term intentions with her at this time. I’m not saying you should marry her or propose marriage on her birthday, but I am encouraging you to think about that as you organize something for her birthday. You see, if a woman has been dating a guy for years, she is going to be entertaining the idea of marriage. For example, if you have been dating a woman for 4 years and she is turning 29 and you get her an espresso maker for her birthday, she might be really pissed because she doesn’t know what your intentions are.
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Signs She Likes You As More Than A Friend

“Love is friendship set to music.”
~ E. Joseph Crossmann

So, let’s just get one thing straight – I know this would be a lot easier if your female friend would just throw herself at you. You know like: make a move; rip off your shirt; declare her feelings; or make a brief confession. The truth is that 90% of women won’t do that. I know it seems unfair. But what is really unfair is that I’m now going to give you the upper hand. What does that mean for you? It means after I share with you the 3 main signals that demonstrate a woman’s interest – it’s going to be so obvious whether your friend has the hots for you. The only difference is that you know exactly “what signs and signals” you need to be paying attention to. And that, my friend, is exactly what we are going to talk about.

Sign # 1: She changes the way she interacts and behaves with you

The most important thing to notice here is the distinction between how she acted around you before and how she acts around you now. Maybe she starts to dress better. Maybe she will only see you when she has her makeup on or looks nice. Maybe you start to notice her feeling a little more nervous or flirty around you. Maybe she starts being more physically close to you by lingering during a hug or kiss on the cheek and allowing for more opportunities to have that happen. Maybe she seems a little more self conscious around you and harder to relax. Different women will do different things, but if she is your friend, you will be able to compare and contrast how she was acting in the past to how she is acting now. Click here to read more »