Now, if this was a “pick up” blog I would be saying, “Why have one girl when you can have 10?” And, then proceed to tell you all the benefits of what having 10 girlfriends would be. But for anyone who has actually had more than ONE girlfriend at a time, the reality is it creates more problems than it does benefits. But that is besides the point, because the point is that the majority of you are looking to get the interest of ONE particular woman.

So, here is the best way in which you can attract that one woman into your life. First, it’s your (good old) mindset. It’s your attitude and your inner game. Now, I know this is the boring answer and I know that some of you just wished for once I would say, “Here is this bright shiny blue pill and if you just take it, the girl of your dreams will be in your arms and you will live happily ever after”. But as you know, life let alone dating women is not like that – AT ALL.

So, yes, it’s all about your mindset baby! In fact, there are complete programs out there that ONLY focus on helping you develop the mindset to attract and keep a woman in your life. And, if it’s good enough for them, then it’s good enough for you. So let’s get to it!

You know what makes a fantasy so appealing? The fact that it’s a fantasy! And, usually the basis of any fantasy is intense focus on only ONE SIDE of the equation. And, as you know life is always working in balance. So, it’s not that the balance doesn’t exist, it’s just that the fantasy prevents you from seeing the other side. If you could see what you want from a balanced perspective, then you would take the fantasy off it’s pedestal and more than likely set a realistic plan to accomplish your goals which YOU BELIEVED was possible.

Which brings me to this idea:

Most of you guys say that you want to get that one special girl, but MOST of you don’t believe that you really can get her.

Some of you don’t believe you are worthy to get a girl like that. Some of you think that you are going to need to work extra hard and be super perfect to attract a girl like that into your life and to keep her there. What is that like?

It’s like having driving a car and having the brake and the accelerator jammed on at the same time. Something is happening, but there is a lot of resistance in getting where you want to go. In essence, some of you may be spinning your wheels. Wanting something that think you want, but not believing you can have it.

And, this is the golden rule in life. To get what you really want, you first have to believe that you can have it. If you want the woman then every fiber of your being has to believe that you can have her. This is different from a desiring of her and is to do more with believing you are worthy of her.

So, let’s get onto dissolving this fantasy shall we? So, here it is:

That fulfillment, happiness, satisfaction, or accomplishment you THINK a woman will give you – does not exist.

There, I said it.

I can guarantee you that although having a woman in your life may feel really good, having her does and WILL NOT EQUAL happiness. And, if she finds out she is the reason for your happiness, she might feel good, but she also might feel intense pressure of what it’s like to be 100% accountable for someone else’s happiness.

See, women like men who are happy because they have fulfilling lives that are independent of women.

Dissolving the fantasy about happiness …
So your first course of action is asking yourself the question: What things in my life make me completely happy and fulfilled that are independent of that special woman being in my life?

And, here is what you do next:

1. Have at least 3 activities you like to do that make you happy without women. This could be a TV show you like, a hobbies, and a career. OR maybe it is doing volunteer work, repairing your car, and caring for your garden. OR maybe it is exercising, watching a certain type of movies, and playing in a band. Whatever those things are, find 3 or more!

2. Remember that YOU create your happiness. It is nice to have a girlfriend, but ultimately your happiness and meaning for your life needs to be independent of women.

3. Create connections and deep friendships which give you that emotional support that you crave. Yes, it’s good to have a woman that you can share your most intimate feelings with, who is your own personal cheerleader – and having a good social network of friends or family who can provide that support for you as much as possible will also help fill that void.

You see when you feel like nothing is missing and that your life is complete – that is the time when you are most likely going to attract or maintain attraction with a woman in your life. A woman wants to be A PART of your life, not your sole existence for living it.

Dissolving a fantasy about her …
Now, here is how you can dissolve the possible fantasy you have of her.

Ask yourself the question: Do you really like her (for who she is), or the person that you just THINK she is?

Whether this is a girl you have a crush on at work/gym or a girl you have a crush on who you feel like you know and like … please, please, please, keep this in mind …

First, ask yourself what you REALLY know about her. Maybe you like her smile, but does that mean she smiles all the time? I can promise you every woman I know can be a handful sometimes. They can all be a pain in the A*S to deal with sometimes. That smile you see on her face, no matter how sincere it is, is NOT always there.

So, remember that she is a real person with insecurities, hang ups, problems, and flaws. And when she gets the flu, she probably has snot dripping out her nose and coughs like a horse.

Not really sexy to think of the reality, eh? But that is the reality and I am telling you this because she is a person rather than a goddess on a pedestal. Get those fantasies out of your head about how wonderful she is AND then you can act more attractive around her. The you can work on being your most authentic self instead of some perfect version of yourself that you think she will like.

Dissolving a fantasy about being in a relationship …
And, here is another thing to remember: the relationship is just the start.

Just because you end up dating her doesn’t mean it will be easy. I mean when you think about your fantasies about dating her, talking with her, sleeping with her – are you thinking about the fact that she probably does things that are irritating?

You know how much I talk about how difficult women can be at times. They have their emotional sh*t fits. And, guess what women are human, too. They have their insecurities, they have their moods, and yes some of them even fart in their sleep (totally sexy right?).

Why am I telling you this? Only to ensure that if you are putting her on a pedestal that you start to take her off that. Because in putting a woman on a pedestal you are potentially negating the great things you have to offer. And, if she is on a pedestal then a part of you may never feel like her equal and that can be devastating in the attraction game.

So, what’s my point?

Only that you need to get out of your daydreams and into grounded into your body and your life.

When you can come from a place of balanced perspective and true self worth you won’t have to chase women down, you will be able to draw them into your life by being an attractive man and having an attractive life.

I’ve had my say, what are your thoughts? Do you have a fantasy about happiness, relationships, or women?

Hot Alpha Female

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In 2005 Steve Jobs did a speech to a huge cast of college graduates. What he shared with them were some principles which were potentially life transforming.

There was one in particular that I truly connected with. And, it’s one that I believe will help you over your FEARS when you feel like: everything is on the line.

Perspective changes our world. And, that changes everything.

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I know “that” woman you are talking about. Ok, maybe not personally, but I know that you think she is the one woman or the one kind of woman that would really make all your dreams come true. Maybe she is uber hot. Maybe she is seriously sexy. Maybe you think you would have a killer connection with her. Fill in the blanks however you please.

Whether it’s a celebrity fantasy like Kim Kardashian, Angeline Jolie, Megan Fox or Jessica Alba; or it’s the girl next door; the girl at work; the best friend who you want to get to know in the “other way” – the same question keeps coming up.

“How do I get a girl like “that” to date a guy like me?”

Which is usually followed by a whole bunch of reasons your “mind” makes up which disqualifies you from dating a woman like this. In fact, the mind is a very powerful thing. And, even if a woman like “that” was interested in you – with that current mindset either you wouldn’t see it, or you would sabotage the process so a girl like “that” would eventually lose interest in you.

Now, I’m not going to go on another rant about how important mindset and self esteem is when attracting and dating good quality women (or maybe I am). I would suggest that if you can’t relate to any of what I’m saying – it’s probably because you have grown beyond this point. Congratulations. For everyone else .. keep reading.

So, let me give you an example. Suppose you are a guy who has only ever known, driven, and had cars worth 50K – Who has a dream to own a Ferrari at 500K. Not only do you have a constant fantasy about what it would be like to own a Ferrari (about how great the leather would smell, how fast it could accelerate, and how well it would handle around corners) – you ALSO believe at the deepest part of your BEING that you are only worth a 50K Car.

After all, it’s all you have ever known.

So here in lies the dilemma. Because at the root of your being you believe you are only worth a 50K car – you are setting yourself up for some painful realities which can NEVER match your fantasy.

See, if you believe that you are only worth a 50K car and what you really want is a 500K car (but don’t truly feel worthy of it) – then either you will NEVER get the Ferrari OR you will find a way to get rid of the Ferrari fast when you DO get it. Meaning when you do get to buy it, you won’t be able to retain it in your life for very long. Maybe you crash it, get it impounded, or some other creative way to get it out of your life.

Maybe this has happened, with other things besides cars (get my drift?)

It’s a sucky situation, and I’m sure you are wondering, “So, what’s the solution?”

Well, it’s not all doom and gloom. There is a way which you can have the Ferrari and not only keep it in your life but appreciate and enjoy it for what it’s worth.

What do you have to do? Here it is …

You have to raise your self worth to match what you really want.

Simple right? Let me explain.

If you want a 500K car then you got to believe you are worth a 500K car. Now, that doesn’t mean just repeating, “I’m worth a 500K car” over and over again until you drive yourself insane. No, no, no.

The quickest way to match your reality with your fantasy to increase your self worth bit by bit. Hey, you’ve got to start somewhere right? The trick is to grow your self worth but not beyond a point that ignites the “safety mechanism”. What happens when the safety mechanism engages? Sabotage is what happens. Which basically means that you find new and creative ways to get that “thing” that you wanted so badly – out of your life (this is an unconscious intention, consciously you may be thinking what the “F**K is going on!)

So, how can you start to grow your self worth? Well, going back to my Ferrari example, you would have to start small, by maybe buying a 55K car. And, then a 70K car. And, then a 100K Car. And, so on. And, you would keep each car until you would know that you were able to “comfortably” retain it in your life WITHOUT self sabotage. And, when you were able to do that at each stage you would begin to realize hey I am worthy of a 55K, 70K, 100K car. And, soon you will be well on your way to feeling worthy of a 500K car.

Alright, so I’m hoping that some of you may have been catching on and realize that this doesn’t ONLY apply to cars. It’s applies to the quality of the women that you date.

I know a lot of you who want that dream woman. That one woman you turns your world upside down and who you DO anything for, to be with. She is the 500K Ferrari. Yet some of you only believe you are worth a 50K car/girl. So if you want the dream girl – you have to believe that you are an equal to this woman. You have to believe that you are worth a woman like this. And, truly believe it with your BEING and not just your thoughts. Now, I have an number of articles on how to build your awareness of putting women on pedestals <here> and <here>. This helps. Building your self worth is the next step.

So, how would you do this? It first starts with approaching and talking to women that you are comfortable talking to. The type of woman this is, will be different for everyone depending on where each individual is at. If you are an incredibly shy guy who doesn’t like talking to people let alone women, then the first step for you would be to make and hold eye contact for about 3 seconds while out and about with any man, woman, or child. And, then go from there.

If you were a man who was comfortable with talking to people just not attractive women then the next best step would be to talk to women who you were NOT attracted to or that you did not find attractive. So, this would be women who you don’t find physically attractive; older women; younger women; women who are obliged to at least be open to communication like sales assistants, check out chicks, waitresses, and so on. And, once you were more comfortable with this focus on moving up to women that you find slightly more attractive and continuing to work up the ladder.

See, the truth is that some of you are at POINT A and want to get to POINT F by tomorrow. It’s not going to happen. There is a process that you must all go through. Patience is the key. As Tony Robbins once said, “People overestimate what they can do in a year and underestimate what they can do in 10 years.” Now, I’m not saying that you have to wait 10 years to get your dream woman. You can go at whatever pace you would like. But, it will be more effective if you set some realistic expectations on yourself.

And, there is nothing to say that the process of getting THERE will be any less exciting than actually getting the goal.

I know from personal experience that working towards goals is always more rewarding than actually accomplishing them. Happiness comes from striving for what you want while being happy with what you have got. Going through this process will also teach you to become more present and more fully engaged in your life. And, to realize that “the moment” you are experiencing right now, is good enough just as it is.

When you can set realistic expectations on yourself; have a strategy to move towards every day; and focus on enjoying the process /moment that is presented in front you – it will help you find the fulfillment and happiness “NOW” that you think a great woman will provide you “in the future”.

I’ve had my say, now it’s your turn. What are your thoughts and experiences with this concept?

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I get this asked all the time. HAF, are women less logical than men? And, how do you reason with their logic?

I believe that both and women can be irrational or illogical at times and it’s really dependent on “who is more logical” but more on “who is emotionally mature”.

The more emotionally mature a man or woman: the greater lines of communication; the more rational relationship behavior is; and the greater opportunity for real intimacy to arise.

A big part of this, is selecting a woman who does not LIVE in “high maintenance drama mode”. This ultimately, will have an impact on the way that you live your life and experience your relationship with any woman.

Part of this, is realizing that no matter how great you think this woman is: she may be using her emotional immaturity and drama to control you. So be aware of it and don’t fall for it.

Hope you guys enjoyed QandA week. Please feel free to write other questions you have below and I’ll answer the most popular ones next month.

Be in touch with you all again soon,

Hot Alpha Female.

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Is it possible that ALL women could hate one word? I would say yes. Yet, it’s a word that women constantly use behind each others back and the real secret is that some women want to act in this manner with their man – behind closed doors.

So, “what is this word?” you ask. Are you ready for it?

Slut.

It’s a word that is probably more hurtful than calling her a bitch BUT “whore” comes in close second. What does a woman experience when this word is associated with her? Probably the same amount of horror you would experience if someone yelled out in a public street, “He has a tiny penis!” and started pointing and laughing at you.

It’s part of the fear of being called this by other women (and men) that causes women to act in specific ways deigned to help build an image of themselves which may be far from the truth. So, it means it can cause her to say one thing and appear to mean the opposite. Because of this word, women feel a need to maintain a certain positive image. Ever wonder what all the jokes are about when a woman has an argument that she is always right? Women feel an enormous pressure to be perfect, which implies being right all the time.

Many women fear that if they do not live up to a specific image, then they might be rejected and labeled as an outcast. This might impact their chances of finding a really good man OR getting help when they need it. This is a fear that runs in the background. It’s part of a basic instinct reaction to survive in a social environment.

So why would women need to feel the need to stay in rapport all the time with people? Let’s pretend that men are generally physically stronger than women. So how are women supposed to have power if men might be physically stronger and bigger? One way is through influence. And, one way to influence someone is by being in rapport with them. Still another way to influence is by having a higher status. One way to have higher status is to be popular. AND one way to be popular is to be socially approved of. By maintaining a certain image, you are more likely to be popular, and therefore be of a higher social status.

So, even though women may on the surface appear to be crazy, there could very well be a rationale behind what they do, whether they know it or not.

Now, how does this apply to you? Alright, when you go on a first date with a woman, she might try to impress you, especially if you are a man who has developed those attractive skills and personality characteristics that I discuss.

If she is trying to impress you, she may not transparently present who she truly is. So, you will have to be very alert to what she does. Stop staring at her boobs. Avoid looking at her lips. Relax. Lean back a bit from time to time AND LOOK at her as she is speaking. Look at her whole face. Watch her hands.

If you know how to read body language, you will know what to look for. How to Read a Person Like a Book was written over 30 years ago, but it is still applicable today. One of the authors, Gerard Nierenberg, has written a number of books over the years. I recommend you get the title listed here. It will give you a competitive edge in all areas of your life if you apply it.

So by reading her body language, you can begin to form some ideas of what she might be trying to hide and what she is wanting to be perceived as. You can begin to understand what image she is trying to create for you. If you see any mismatch in what she says, does, expresses, etc., then you can gently call her out on it.

The other thing is if you believe the image she is trying to project – and she knows it is not entirely true – then she may not respect you as much. By noticing what image she is projecting and calling her out on it, she may not like it at the time you do it – but given time she will more likely appreciate and respect you for it.

Also, you could bring this up as a topic of discussion for her. You can discuss it from different perspectives, such as “what do you do when what you want may not be approved of by your culture” OR “when you want something that your friends might not approve of, what do you do” OR “why do you think conformity is important” OR “if you really want something and you know it will freak your friends out, how do you handle that – if you keep it a secret, how does that affect you inside.” If she is introspective, intellectual, or really smart, she will likely enjoy thinking about this because it will probably challenge her.

Therefore, instead of thinking women are crazy, you can begin to look behind the possible rationale behind their actions. Also, because you know what to look for by reading body language and knowing why she is probably doing what she is doing, she actually might feel more trust, rapport, and attraction for you.

I’ve had my say. What are your thoughts?

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This video is tackling the question, “Do I have to Lie to a woman to attract her?”

Well, firstly what do you feel a need to lie about to woman? Why would she not be attracted to or turned on by the truth. I would say it’s the fact that people are dishonest today which are killing their chances with women.

Being the truest to yourself and your intentions will blow some women out of the water and attract more women into your life that you can handle all at the same time.

Keep a look out for the next video coming out week answering the question, “Are women less logical than men?”

Please write your comments down below. I would love to know what they are.

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See you in the next video,

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Some of you might be thinking, “Ummmmm, that’s the only reason why I’m here” (hey, I had to use something to grab your attention didn’t I?) Before, I go on to explain why you don’t need a girlfriend, let me share some research I was reading the other day.

Apparently, a researcher concluded that when a wife dies, the husband is likely to follow soon there after. Yet if the husband dies, the wife is likely to live on.

Talk about being completely unfair! So, why does this happen? Well, another research project concluded that men and women tend to have different quality of relationships.

Meaning, women tend to have multiple emotionally intimate relationships – so, they will confide in their husband, their friend, their cousin, the guy next door etc. Whereas men tend to emotionally rely on their wife for emotional intimacy – and only confide in their wife for the most part.

Talk about emotional fidelity.

So in lay man’s terms what does this mean? Your girlfriend, partner, wife has more emotional outlets which she can express her feelings and share her thoughts, whereas men usually rely on their intimate partner to confide in.

Alright, so getting back to why you don’t need a girlfriend. I get a lot of emails from you guys telling me all the reasons why you NEED a girlfriend. While there is a lot that you share with me, essentially it comes back down to “wanting someone to share your happiness with” or “thinking that a woman is what will finally make you feel happy, and not so alone”.

From my understanding of psychology and human needs this is very normal. Each of us wants to feel like there is at least a person or a group of close friends who we feel understand us and accept us for who we are and not who we are pretending to be.

Most of you assume that a girlfriend is the only way to experience that intimate visible connection with someone. So what am I suggesting? That you might want a girlfriend because of a pressure to have a woman to confide in and lean on and talk with.

And, while yes this important and a good thing to have, the more you “think” that it will fill a “hole” or a “void” that is in your life – the further you will end up pushing it away!

This is the classic topic that I talk about with my girlfriends. The ones that are still single are the ones that feel like they are missing something in their lives (that only a man/partner/boyfriend/husband could provide) Yet, the girls that are just out there enjoying their single life, doing the things that they love, fully engaging it are either actively dating or getting into long term relationships.

Now, I’m not saying that you all need to get out there and get a life (or maybe I am). But it’s my assumption that a lot of you DO have a life going on and most of your ARE busy. So, what is the missing component then?

I would suggest in the lag time when you are waiting to attract the right woman into your life that you also help cultivate, enrich, and build more intimate relationships with friends around you. Male or female.

Do you have a brother or sister you can talk with? What about a parent? Cousin? Friend? See, if you have other people you can confide in – that might help you come across as more self-assured, less needy, and more independent.

Now I know men don’t sit around and talk about their feelings usually. What I am suggesting is that you consider slowly talking about more and more personal things with your other friends. I need to caution you. You might notice some men you open up to gradually might think you are acting weird. You might even lose some friends. But if you are committed to increasing the strength of your relationships, then the friends who don’t want that will fall away.

What is likely to happen is that new friendships will likely come in to fill the place of others. Friends who are more likely to be open to your new process. What I’m talking about here is building REAL solid friendships and connections with people. You will KNOW when you have a real connection with someone. A lot of the times we have people in our lives who we “call friends” but really use up our time, energy, money, and don’t really give much back. It’s important to reduce the time with these people and increase the time with people who you feel you can be more of yourself with; people who inspire you; people who hold you to a higher standard; people who will not be jealous of your success or happiness; people who you can show yourself to and that accept and encourage that.

I know guys like to get together and do things rather than talk. Ok, guys talk, but I don’t know how much they truly open up to each other. Women do it among themselves when they get together. They talk about their personal problem, relationship problems, health problems, etc. Men, if they do talk about such things, it is often short and solution focused. Whereas women will be less solution focused and more focused on how things felt or in what way the relationships changed from the problems.

Now I am not suggesting that you get together with all your guy friends and go on monologues about how you feel about things. But gradually open up, like this, “Hey, I was having a problem with a woman I was dating. She started an argument when we were out last night about eating veal. I don’t know what that was about because there wasn’t even veal on the menu. I felt kind of stupid because I didn’t know what to say. What do you think about this?”

That might be a type of topic you could bring up to a friend. You could perhaps then ask your friend if he ever had something like this to happen to them, what they did, how they handled it, etc. In other words, you are getting more personal with them. This build emotional intimacy and closeness.

Like I said, some people may not feel comfortable with these more personable conversations because it is not what men usually do. But if you want more substantial friendships, you might want to consider this approach to build more emotionally close friendships with the men and women in your life.

So, by doing this, you can gain emotional strength by receiving emotional support from multiple people in your life. By doing so, you can begin to feel stronger and less needy of a woman to confide in. And, this my friend, is the reason why don’t need a girlfriend. Because in “not needing” a girlfriend (and having a full life with rich intimate relationships) you will be more able to attract the right woman into your life and fully appreciate her.

I’ve had my say, now it’s your turn!

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Today we are answering the question, “Is it ok to be direct to a woman?” I cover the apocalypse opener (which is a very direct pick up line) and the reasons why being direct can work in your favor.

Apocalypse opener explained <click here> OR if the link above doesn’t work then try this one <here>

[This article has been republished all around the net]

Look out for the next QandA coming out this week: “Do I have to Lie to attract a woman”

I’m looking forward to your thoughts and comments,

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Alright, I really do need to talk to you about something. There seems to be a huge fixation getting the likes and attention of a particular woman or that hot chick. If you have read my other posts <here>, <here> and <here> you will know the warnings I have about many hot chicks. I’d say I was sorry about bursting your bubble, but I’m really not. I don’t want you guys to make the same mistakes most other guys make.

There are reasons why guys are attracted to women who look hot. Some of the reasons have to do with symmetry being a possible indicator of fewer genetic problems. Other reasons may have to do with youthful qualities about the face or body appearing to be associated with fertility. Whatever the reasons, I would strongly encourage you to think about your decisions with your BIG head, not your little head.

Most of you will come to conclusion of: “I like this chick and I want her now!” And, don’t give it much more thought than that.

There are women who are average looking who can be wonderful partners or dates. But, let’s get real. Even average looking women can cause problems. So, let’s talk about screening out women who might fuck up your life. Hot or not.

First, there are some basic things to consider. Is this woman a good match for you? Now, you may wonder why I am starting with this one. Well, I will tell you. In Napoleon Hill’s research, he concluded that the selection of a mate was very important for success. Having a woman who is compatible with you can be a HUGE help in your success and fulfillment in life. I have written in other posts about the importance of knowing what kind of woman you want and HOW to know if she is meeting your expectations AND the benefits of doing this in making you more attractive.

Second, if she feels rapport with you, she will likely begin to open up more and more to you. In doing so, pay attention to what she says AND ask her follow up questions. Notice how she talks about men. How does she describe her past relationships? How does she talk about her ex-boyfriends? How does she feel about her father? These can all be important indicators of how she might treat you.

I recently had a reader share some insights which could point to an emotionally immature woman. I could not have put it any better so here it is:

However, more subtle things might be a girl who has few or no female friends; one who works in a very low ranking position, talks continuously about all her plans to do more, but never takes the initiative; when questioned about past events, will constantly paint herself as the victim in any situation and always seems to like listing countless numbers
of people who have wronged her. The unfortunate thing is that most likely this girl will present herself as a victim to be saved, which can be a great temptation for a young man. It starts very simply with …”All this girl needs is some support and encouragement and then she’ll be whole and we’ll have a wonderful life together”. -J

J makes some excellent points. I think a lot of the time as men you have this natural tendency to want to save a woman from herself. You want to be the knight in shining amour to save the damsel in distress. Unfortunately, this only works in Disney or Pixar films. Not in real life. Sure woman want to feel protected and safe at times. But an emotionally mature woman will know how to protect herself and develop the mindset and emotional stability to do things on her own AND ask for help when needed.

Some other thing you could do to discern the type of woman you have is, find out what kind of lifestyle she has. Does she talk about exercising? Is she a vegetarian? Does she talk about drug or alcohol use? Does she gamble? You see, you are getting ideas about how self-disciplined she is. When a woman has self-discipline, she is more likely to have a conscience, act in a conscientious manner, and take responsibility for her actions. She is more likely to control her impulses, rather than just acting on whatever emotion she feels in the moment. This will be positive for you and her. For you, it will mean a more pleasant relationship experience. For her, she will be more likely able to build and maintain rapport with those around her instead of embarrassing herself and having to apologize for it later.

Third, some men learn about astrology, handwriting analysis, or palm reading. These kinds of activities can get a woman talking about herself. Now, I am not going to say whether or not I think astrology, handwriting analysis, and palm reading are accurate. What I think is most important is that a woman will likely feel interested in it, AND then start talking about herself. That’s a great way to ask her those questions I have talked about you preparing to ask her to make sure she is the type of woman you want.

Now, remember that after she answers your questions that you pay attention to how she acts. If she says she thinks it is important to be kind to others and then on another date with you she acts like a bitch to the waitress THEN CALL HER OUT ON IT! This is important because remember that women have a tendency to say things that are socially appropriate and then not back it up with action.

Now, let’s suppose she reveals to you that she has had a history of cocaine use and that she was arrested for armed robbery and prostitution but she was just doing all that to work her way through medical school. Ok, guys, we need to do a reality check here! If you start explaining it away such as, “Well, she was young” OR “It was probably just a temporary thing” OR “I made mistakes, too” OR “People can change” – stop it. Just listen to her. We cannot change the past. Everyone does make mistakes. There are some very successful people who have had problems and resolved them. The big question is “How will you know if she has truly changed?”

Perhaps only time will tell. Perhaps she will make a confession about slipping up, if you have really good rapport with her. Maybe you will get to know her family or friends – and they will tell you some information about her habits (assuming they have no ulterior motives). If you have doubts, remember that there are dozens of women out there who have lived relatively straight lives – and yet at the same time, that is NO guarantee that she might not go out there and do something to disrupt your life.

One final note is to get to know her friends and family. Although there is no guarantee, if she has come from a family background that is relatively uneventful (in a negative way), she might be more balanced and level-headed. Again, there is still no guarantee.

Ok, so basically, it doesn’t matter how hot this chick is. If she causes you major problems OR has an unchanged history of causing other people problems, it can ruin your life. This is true! I have known guys who have had their bank accounts drained, their self-esteem destroyed, and their lives set back years! The whole purpose of this post is to encourage you guys to focus on her as a PERSON! Because if she has certain qualities, she can help raise your life to heights you never imagined.

The best thing you can do for yourself to find a good quality woman is to become the kind of man that would ATTRACT her into your life. If you are ready for it, then I suggest you <click here right now>

I’ve had my say, now it’s YOUR turn!

Hot Alpha Female

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Have you ever had a woman say something like “I’m fine”, or “it’s ok”, or, “nothing’s wrong”, or “never mind, I’ll get it”. These kind of passive aggressive comments can leave you confused as to what they mean and what to do about them.

Is everything actually ok? Is everything fine? Did you really do nothing wrong? More importantly how do you handle a chick when she says something like this and CLEARLY something is wrong.

In this video, I give you a plan on exactly how to handle it and how to discern the reason why women act the way that they do.

In the meantime, I hope you enjoy my TERRIBLE imitation skills.

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