Comments for Hot Alpha Female http://hotalphafemale.com Brutally Honest Dating Advice ... Sun, 05 Feb 2012 04:14:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on Secrets To Gauging And Triggering A Woman’s Attraction (You’ve got 72 hours …) by richard http://hotalphafemale.com/2011/03/secrets-to-gauging-and-triggering-a-womans-attraction-youve-got-72-hours.html#comment-5925 richard Sun, 05 Feb 2012 04:14:54 +0000 http://hotalphafemale.com/?p=1071#comment-5925 I just purchased the download and read it quickly (I had to leave, so I took very little time). At first glance I saw some helpful information, but I think I may need even more basic advice. What I read seemed quite helpful for situations where at least some connection already exists. In my case, this is pretty darn rare. I am so intraverted that I rarely have conversations with women at all. I believe you are sincere in your desire to truly help and this is awesome. So, this post is intended to help you achieve your goal of offering the most useful advice possible, as you refine your efforts. I often find myself almost unable to speak when I attempt to open a conversation with a woman. I literally have no idea how to open a conversation which has the potential to evolve. I have watched friends flirt with women, and I have attempted to emulate their approach. I just do not have a natural ability to spark up conversations. When I try, women typically seem to be anywhere from uninterested to somewhat creeped out. I am not particularly unattractive, but I am awkward in some ways and lack self confidence. What is crazy is that I can flow pretty well with some women, after I get to know them through life circumstances. Married women also seem much easier to converse with. It is as if they will talk to almost any guy because they can simply show their ring as a way out if necessary. My basic point is that some men find it hard to get the ball rolling. We simply do not know how to flirt in a natural way which opens women up. Our approach is understandably a turn off. It is contrived. The idea of having "game" does not appeal to me, because I do not want a woman who falls smoke and mirrors. I just want enough game to create possibilities for women to find out who I am. The question is: How do I open conversations in a way that women welcome and which expand rather than shut down easily? That's it for now. Thanks for your efforts! Richard (BTW I am 46 years old and most of my friends are married with children. I have asked them to put in a good word whenever they cross paths with singles. Unfortunately, this almost never happens. So, I am on my own. Some friends have even told me straight out that it is not their responsibility to look out for me. They are correct for the most part, of course.) I just purchased the download and read it quickly (I had to leave, so I took very little time). At first glance I saw some helpful information, but I think I may need even more basic advice. What I read seemed quite helpful for situations where at least some connection already exists. In my case, this is pretty darn rare. I am so intraverted that I rarely have conversations with women at all.

I believe you are sincere in your desire to truly help and this is awesome. So, this post is intended to help you achieve your goal of offering the most useful advice possible, as you refine your efforts.

I often find myself almost unable to speak when I attempt to open a conversation with a woman. I literally have no idea how to open a conversation which has the potential to evolve. I have watched friends flirt with women, and I have attempted to emulate their approach. I just do not have a natural ability to spark up conversations. When I try, women typically seem to be anywhere from uninterested to somewhat creeped out. I am not particularly unattractive, but I am awkward in some ways and lack self confidence. What is crazy is that I can flow pretty well with some women, after I get to know them through life circumstances. Married women also seem much easier to converse with. It is as if they will talk to almost any guy because they can simply show their ring as a way out if necessary.

My basic point is that some men find it hard to get the ball rolling. We simply do not know how to flirt in a natural way which opens women up. Our approach is understandably a turn off. It is contrived. The idea of having “game” does not appeal to me, because I do not want a woman who falls smoke and mirrors. I just want enough game to create possibilities for women to find out who I am. The question is: How do I open conversations in a way that women welcome and which expand rather than shut down easily?

That’s it for now. Thanks for your efforts!

Richard

(BTW I am 46 years old and most of my friends are married with children. I have asked them to put in a good word whenever they cross paths with singles. Unfortunately, this almost never happens. So, I am on my own. Some friends have even told me straight out that it is not their responsibility to look out for me. They are correct for the most part, of course.)

]]> Comment on How Does A Girl Like “That” Date A Guy Like Me? by Robert http://hotalphafemale.com/2011/12/girl-like-that.html#comment-5924 Robert Fri, 03 Feb 2012 13:59:58 +0000 http://hotalphafemale.com/?p=1429#comment-5924 Hi, I am currently dating a extremely beautifull women... she is a lawyer in her 30-ties and really self confident and independent.. The first time we met she even somehow felt that i was a bit nervous, but that was only at the start cause I could not believe my eyes.. (I am a very good looking man, but never really aimed so high)... So as the convo progressed I got more at easy and kept looking deeply into her eyes... by the end of the first date she said to me twice that she would like to see me again... well this weekend will be our 6th date and she is cooking me dinner at her house... we didnt have sex yet cause I told her that I would like to get to know her better first... which I did purposly after reading so many articles about the fact that sex too soon is not good.... and I want this to work... Do I believe in my core that I am worthy of her?? wel yes... I am very good looking as well... but I havent ever actually had someone so hot before... so that made me a bit nervous in the start... I try looking at her objectively as she is a normal girl on the inside... I gues its even hard for a girl to look that way... cause the first 3 dates she was testing me like crazy... and those tests have stopped... she is really sweet to me now... Excuse my English... I am from Croatia.. Hi,

I am currently dating a extremely beautifull women… she is a lawyer in her 30-ties and really
self confident and independent..

The first time we met she even somehow felt that i was a bit nervous, but that was only at the start cause I could not believe my eyes.. (I am a very good looking man, but never really aimed so high)…

So as the convo progressed I got more at easy and kept looking deeply into her eyes… by the end of the first date she said to me twice that she would like to see me again… well this weekend will be our 6th date and she is cooking me dinner at her house… we didnt have sex yet cause I told her that I would like to get to know her better first… which I did purposly after reading so many articles about the fact that sex too soon is not good…. and I want this to work…

Do I believe in my core that I am worthy of her?? wel yes… I am very good looking as well… but I havent ever actually had someone so hot before… so that made me a bit nervous in the start… I try looking at her objectively as she is a normal girl on the inside… I gues its even hard for a girl to look that way… cause the first 3 dates she was testing me like crazy… and those tests have stopped… she is really sweet to me now…

Excuse my English… I am from Croatia..

]]> Comment on Sleek vs Geek – Is There Middle Ground? by Woody http://hotalphafemale.com/2008/02/sleek-vs-geek-is-there-middle-ground.html#comment-5923 Woody Wed, 01 Feb 2012 01:21:02 +0000 http://hotalphafemale.com/?p=3#comment-5923 The nice guy does have the ability to create attraction, as you put it, but you have to invest some time with him to recognize it. The player has developed an immediate attraction because that is the one he needs in order to be successful, but it only works in the immediate. You learn this after falling for it, because it is not sincere. Stop looking for that spark. Find someone warm to be around and let that warmth grow in order to ignite your passion and attraction. That fire will burn much longer. The nice guy does have the ability to create attraction, as you put it, but you have to invest some time with him to recognize it. The player has developed an immediate attraction because that is the one he needs in order to be successful, but it only works in the immediate. You learn this after falling for it, because it is not sincere. Stop looking for that spark. Find someone warm to be around and let that warmth grow in order to ignite your passion and attraction. That fire will burn much longer.

]]> Comment on Misconceptions of the Alpha Male! by Quinn http://hotalphafemale.com/2011/01/misconceptions-of-the-alpha-male.html#comment-5922 Quinn Tue, 31 Jan 2012 20:16:42 +0000 http://hotalphafemale.com/?p=813#comment-5922 I really love this website. I am an AF. I hate saying that because its a title a lot of women claim, but 90% of women and men are Beta. I've read that women usually end up as AF because they exposed to more testosterone in the womb. If your ring fingers are a bit longer than you index fingers it means more testosterone. This is also true for AM. Beta females, and Beta men tend to have equal length ring and index fingers. Very feminine women have much shorter ring fingers. AF can experience both male and female tendencies, but often project masculine attributes because there isn't enough masculine energy around to force out her feminine energy. I've noticed this about myself. Alpha definitely recognizes Alpha. Men and women who are natural alphas know it, and have always been aware of it. Game and PUA betas will never make it to alpha status. They can only aspire to greater beta, which would translate as alpha to a normal beta woman. People keep saying that Alpha Male/Beta Female couples are ideal, but I don't think they are. Alpha men tend to cheat on Beta women because they do not pose a challenge or a threat. AFs can give AM loyalty and devotion that Beta women can't. Most game blogs/PUA blogs are written by betas for betas. No natural alpha is online. They just aren't. Also, they don't sleep around with easy bar girls. These men (like the one pictured above) only fuck women on their levels. I laugh at PUAs and game blogs because its like a gay man trying to tell other gay men what it feels like to be a heterosexual male. You can study it over and over again, but a gay man will never experience women like a straight male does. Also, natural AM don't try to "out alpha" other AM. There is a respect for other Alphas. Only try hard men try to out alpha other men. Daniel Craig and George Clooney would probably be friends. Alphas have an intimidating energy about them. I know I feel it. I can sense another Alpha personality and I can distinguish them from the posers. Little do they know that. Natural alphas laugh at PUA and gamers. Lastly, I feel like I am just now hitting my peak years in my early 20's. Before now, Ive been pretty much heterosexual tomboy, but my femininity is just bursting through. I wonder if this is true for other alpha women. I really love this website. I am an AF. I hate saying that because its a title a lot of women claim, but 90% of women and men are Beta. I’ve read that women usually end up as AF because they exposed to more testosterone in the womb. If your ring fingers are a bit longer than you index fingers it means more testosterone. This is also true for AM. Beta females, and Beta men tend to have equal length ring and index fingers. Very feminine women have much shorter ring fingers. AF can experience both male and female tendencies, but often project masculine attributes because there isn’t enough masculine energy around to force out her feminine energy.

I’ve noticed this about myself. Alpha definitely recognizes Alpha. Men and women who are natural alphas know it, and have always been aware of it. Game and PUA betas will never make it to alpha status. They can only aspire to greater beta, which would translate as alpha to a normal beta woman. People keep saying that Alpha Male/Beta Female couples are ideal, but I don’t think they are. Alpha men tend to cheat on Beta women because they do not pose a challenge or a threat. AFs can give AM loyalty and devotion that Beta women can’t. Most game blogs/PUA blogs are written by betas for betas. No natural alpha is online. They just aren’t. Also, they don’t sleep around with easy bar girls. These men (like the one pictured above) only fuck women on their levels.

I laugh at PUAs and game blogs because its like a gay man trying to tell other gay men what it feels like to be a heterosexual male. You can study it over and over again, but a gay man will never experience women like a straight male does.

Also, natural AM don’t try to “out alpha” other AM. There is a respect for other Alphas. Only try hard men try to out alpha other men. Daniel Craig and George Clooney would probably be friends. Alphas have an intimidating energy about them. I know I feel it. I can sense another Alpha personality and I can distinguish them from the posers. Little do they know that. Natural alphas laugh at PUA and gamers.

Lastly, I feel like I am just now hitting my peak years in my early 20′s. Before now, Ive been pretty much heterosexual tomboy, but my femininity is just bursting through. I wonder if this is true for other alpha women.

]]> Comment on How To Tell She Is Emotionally Immature … by Jamie http://hotalphafemale.com/2011/02/how-to-tell-she-is-emotionally-immature.html#comment-5921 Jamie Fri, 27 Jan 2012 18:36:52 +0000 http://hotalphafemale.com/?p=1011#comment-5921 @Ashe. I think you have just identified with emotionally, unenlightened, immature guys. Perhaps we need a his and hers article. :-) You've got it right, dont doubt it. You are in the minority. Just nod with a knowing smile, and look elsewhere. We are out there! @Ashe. I think you have just identified with emotionally, unenlightened, immature guys. Perhaps we need a his and hers article. :-) You’ve got it right, dont doubt it. You are in the minority. Just nod with a knowing smile, and look elsewhere. We are out there!

]]> Comment on How To Tell She Is Emotionally Immature … by Ashe http://hotalphafemale.com/2011/02/how-to-tell-she-is-emotionally-immature.html#comment-5920 Ashe Thu, 26 Jan 2012 11:33:48 +0000 http://hotalphafemale.com/?p=1011#comment-5920 I am a 21 year old woman and I believe myself to be quite emotionally mature for my age (focused on school, on a career, moving out of my parents' house, etc.). However, rather than being appreciated for my maturity, almost every guy I have met tells me that I need to be more "feminine" and flirty and that I "need to use my looks more to get what I want". When I tell them that I am disgusted by women who are not mature enough to use their brains over their bodies, I am met with the response that "you can't blame them for using something that works". This gives me the impression that men prefer this type of woman who is not accountable for her actions and just uses them to get what she wants instead of actually caring about others. I am shocked that I am actually being ENCOURAGED to act similarly because "guys like it". I have also been called too uptight because of my beliefs. It leaves me with the feeling that I am just socially inept because I do not behave similarly to other women, and that I do not conform to the pressure being put on me to act as such. Your article makes me feel more at ease, but there are so many people who encourage this type of female behavior and call it "being a woman" that I am not really sure who is right anymore: me or the people pressuring me? My gut tells me I'm right, but there is always a lurking doubt. Any thoughts? I am a 21 year old woman and I believe myself to be quite emotionally mature for my age (focused on school, on a career, moving out of my parents’ house, etc.). However, rather than being appreciated for my maturity, almost every guy I have met tells me that I need to be more “feminine” and flirty and that I “need to use my looks more to get what I want”. When I tell them that I am disgusted by women who are not mature enough to use their brains over their bodies, I am met with the response that “you can’t blame them for using something that works”. This gives me the impression that men prefer this type of woman who is not accountable for her actions and just uses them to get what she wants instead of actually caring about others. I am shocked that I am actually being ENCOURAGED to act similarly because “guys like it”. I have also been called too uptight because of my beliefs. It leaves me with the feeling that I am just socially inept because I do not behave similarly to other women, and that I do not conform to the pressure being put on me to act as such. Your article makes me feel more at ease, but there are so many people who encourage this type of female behavior and call it “being a woman” that I am not really sure who is right anymore: me or the people pressuring me? My gut tells me I’m right, but there is always a lurking doubt. Any thoughts?

]]> Comment on How to get that special girl interested in you … by Lopakathepeacemaker http://hotalphafemale.com/2011/12/get-special-girl-interested.html#comment-5919 Lopakathepeacemaker Mon, 23 Jan 2012 18:40:04 +0000 http://hotalphafemale.com/?p=1440#comment-5919 I think you are incredible, I really appreciate what your doing by inspiring everybody. You are very attractive yet your wisdom shines even brighter. I know there are always critics out there, yes there are even critics here in Hawaii. But critics are only critics because they feel insecure. I really hope I can meet a real down to earth woman such as yourself. you share your knowledge and insight selflessly with the world and in return the universe will provide more than you could ever dream. Falling in love is by chance maintaining that love takes work but to leave that love is choice. And I feel like all humans can relate and go through the roller coaster ride of love in their life. I'm sure by now you've landed the right man. But if you ever want to chat feel free to email me. I am lopakathepeacemaker . You can contact me at lopakasglass@gmail.com.... Keep up the good work......much love and aloha I think you are incredible, I really appreciate what your doing by inspiring everybody. You are very attractive yet your wisdom shines even brighter. I know there are always critics out there, yes there are even critics here in Hawaii. But critics are only critics because they feel insecure. I really hope I can meet a real down to earth woman such as yourself. you share your knowledge and insight selflessly with the world and in return the universe will provide more than you could ever dream. Falling in love is by chance maintaining that love takes work but to leave that love is choice. And I feel like all humans can relate and go through the roller coaster ride of love in their life. I’m sure by now you’ve landed the right man. But if you ever want to chat feel free to email me. I am lopakathepeacemaker . You can contact me at lopakasglass@gmail.com…. Keep up the good work……much love and aloha

]]> Comment on How To Tell She Is Emotionally Immature … by Phil http://hotalphafemale.com/2011/02/how-to-tell-she-is-emotionally-immature.html#comment-5917 Phil Sun, 15 Jan 2012 01:49:03 +0000 http://hotalphafemale.com/?p=1011#comment-5917 I also forgot to mention, she also constantly goes on dates even though she claims she isn't interested in being in a relationship. I also forgot to mention, she also constantly goes on dates even though she claims she isn’t interested in being in a relationship.

]]> Comment on How To Tell She Is Emotionally Immature … by Phil http://hotalphafemale.com/2011/02/how-to-tell-she-is-emotionally-immature.html#comment-5916 Phil Sun, 15 Jan 2012 01:25:21 +0000 http://hotalphafemale.com/?p=1011#comment-5916 *I know she loves me *I know she loves me

]]> Comment on How To Tell She Is Emotionally Immature … by Phil http://hotalphafemale.com/2011/02/how-to-tell-she-is-emotionally-immature.html#comment-5915 Phil Sun, 15 Jan 2012 01:17:52 +0000 http://hotalphafemale.com/?p=1011#comment-5915 @hotalphafemale: Here is my issue and I admit right of the hop I cannot tell if she is emotionally immature, suffering from severe insecurities and low self-esteem, or of there is maybe a more severe issue at hand. My girlfriend constantly avoids getting in to relationships, even with someone she loves deeply. Everytime we get close she makes excuses and pushes away. She says things like she is afraid to settle that she is afraid that there may always be some one better out there, but she has also admitted to being afraid, of being hurt amongst other things. One minute she'll call me her man and tell me she loves me, next minute she'll say we're merely "friends with beneifts" and that "she doesn't see it going anywhere". She'll say she's interested to see where it goes; where each step is going to take us, then turn around and claim she doesn't remember saying that. Sometimes she'll hug me very deeply and won't let go burying her head into my chest, other times she'll do what I call the "one armed hug". I have noticed that when we are together she has one tone of voice and we get along great and have very lucid calm discussions, but she is around her family, her voice litteraly goes up an octave or 2 and she reverts into some sort of childlike state. She also claims she has uds(ugly suckling syndrome) and depsite other advice I have been given, she actually cannot handle being told she is beautiful, or she can handle it but not every day, and does not want to hear every day that I love her, like her disbelief fosters some sort of annoyance. I know she loves, but she has also told me she is not entirely certain what being in love feels like. Of all her past relationships, the 2nd longest one lasted only 8 months - most of them only a month or 2. her longest 3 years and 8 months, but that one was also her worst relationship too and her last serious lover. I really love this girl alot and I am a patient man - to a degree and I guess I am just wondering like I said at the beginning is this a woman who is. is emotionally immature, suffering from severe insecurities and low self-esteem, or of there is maybe a more severe issue at hand, something that may require medication and what should I do during the low points when she gets all depressive and pulling away and quiet? Thank you @hotalphafemale: Here is my issue and I admit right of the hop I cannot tell if she is emotionally immature, suffering from severe insecurities and low self-esteem, or of there is maybe a more severe issue at hand. My girlfriend constantly avoids getting in to relationships, even with someone she loves deeply. Everytime we get close she makes excuses and pushes away. She says things like she is afraid to settle that she is afraid that there may always be some one better out there, but she has also admitted to being afraid, of being hurt amongst other things. One minute she’ll call me her man and tell me she loves me, next minute she’ll say we’re merely “friends with beneifts” and that “she doesn’t see it going anywhere”. She’ll say she’s interested to see where it goes; where each step is going to take us, then turn around and claim she doesn’t remember saying that. Sometimes she’ll hug me very deeply and won’t let go burying her head into my chest, other times she’ll do what I call the “one armed hug”. I have noticed that when we are together she has one tone of voice and we get along great and have very lucid calm discussions, but she is around her family, her voice litteraly goes up an octave or 2 and she reverts into some sort of childlike state. She also claims she has uds(ugly suckling syndrome) and depsite other advice I have been given, she actually cannot handle being told she is beautiful, or she can handle it but not every day, and does not want to hear every day that I love her, like her disbelief fosters some sort of annoyance. I know she loves, but she has also told me she is not entirely certain what being in love feels like. Of all her past relationships, the 2nd longest one lasted only 8 months – most of them only a month or 2. her longest 3 years and 8 months, but that one was also her worst relationship too and her last serious lover. I really love this girl alot and I am a patient man – to a degree and I guess I am just wondering like I said at the beginning is this a woman who is. is emotionally immature, suffering from severe insecurities and low self-esteem, or of there is maybe a more severe issue at hand, something that may require medication and what should I do during the low points when she gets all depressive and pulling away and quiet?

Thank you

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