In 2008, I needed to start this blog. Because someone (and that someone was going to have to be me) needed to speak about the truth. Someone needed to tell the truth, no matter how blunt, how painful or how terrifying that would be. Read more »
Well that sounds like a completely bratty statement doesn’t it? And you want to know the truth? Well the truth is, this phrase “I’m only high maintenance, if you don’t maintain me” came out of my mouth whilst talking to a friend recently. And it’s my guess women would admit this, if they really understood how perfectly it surmised how they felt.
So let me break it down for you guys. Let me show you: what this really means, how you can overcome it, and how to apply it. I will show you a proactive approach, which will minimize the level of drama, testing, and needy behavior with ANY woman.
Now I can’t attribute this theory entirely to myself. In fact this theory is dedicated to a man who actually has real time experience of how low maintenance women can truly be. This is dedicated to a man who actually finds it amusing to see other men around him being constantly tested. He is incredibly insightful and in the near future I may steal him for an interview to pick his brains and share it with you guys.
So what is this theory? If you are truly able to give a woman what she “needs” rather than what she says she “wants” you can proactively bypass and predict any shit tests or drama that she may be giving you. Click here to read more »
When learning how to develop attraction with a woman, one of the first things that you are told is to learn to develop Alpha Male characteristics or become the ultimate alpha man.
And then usually the description you will here will be the antithesis of everything that a Beta Male represents. Therefore you hear that an Alpha Male is the exact opposite of a man that is wussy, approval seeking, predictable, needy, indecisive and uncertain about himself and the experiences around him.
So does that really mean that an Alpha Male is unpredictable, strongly dominant, a risk taker, outspoken and loves the centre of attention?
I think that there is a huge risk is assuming that an Alpha is just the pure opposite to a Beta male. Especially since there is only a small minority of people who could really be classified an ultra Alpha and ultra Beta. Majority of people are on a medium of this scale. The risk also comes from the fact that to truly create and maintain interest with a woman, one must display certain Alpha (dominance, leadership, assertiveness) and certain Beta characteristics (compassion, empathy, understanding, supportiveness). One must learn to appreciate both.
Why would you want to date a strong independent woman? She’s fun, she’s feisty and she has a mind of her own. She knows how to take care of herself, the people around her and her life. She can match you on your level, inspire you to grow and she can contribute as well as she can receive. She knows and understands her worth and she has the self esteem to back it up. You can be satisfied in knowing that if she is with you, its by her choice. Because she wants to be with you, rather than because she feels she needs to be with you (the neediness and dependence is what causes most of the drama).
But what does a strong independent women really need to spark her interest and ignite her fire?
Match her on her level
Now strong and independent woman are used to doing a lot of everything on her own. She knows how to take care of herself and the people around her very well. In fact she may be “extremely comfortable” with the ease at which she feels she can manage her life. Therefore when you approach and interact with these women initially they can seem to have a “cool” disposition towards you. They may give you some challenging situations and conversations that are intended to put you off guard. And you can’t blame her for this, she is simply seeing if you are a guy that can handle her independence. She wants to know that you will encourage it, nurture it, rather than overrun it, or try to take it away from her. Click here to read more »
Yes we are in the age of TMI “Too much information”. I mean we have the likes of social media like twitter and facebook to share with the world what we ate for lunch, what brand of tuna we used and how eating tuna for lunch has had all these incredible benefits on your whole life like being able to go the toilet twice a day instead of once.
Plus lets not mention facebook, which is a total snapshot of your entire life on 5 pages and less. From your closest friends, to your most annoying pet peeves, to what you like and what you hate … and the likes and dislikes of all the friends you like and hate. I mean you can’t hide anything even if you tried. You can’t fake anything because who you really are, is available to the world, comeon guys even if your profile is set on private … 6 degrees of separation!
I’ve actually shut down my facebook profile for the moment, because I believe that less is so so so much more. Plus all these random pictures kept sprouting up of me and its just plain embarrassing not knowing where the heck they came from! Plus there is probably a whole lot of people on there who know me, who I should know, but I don’t. And this is all too confusing, since I have many other more important things to confuse myself with. Like what to have for lunch.
So let me give you a couple of examples. You get her number which she gives to you readily, yet she doesn’t return your calls nor pick them up when you call. Or she sets up a date with you and then, cancels last minute. Or she is always busy and can never make time to speak to you or spend more time with you.
Yes my friend, you have a woman who is blowing you off! If you are making all the moves on this chick and she is giving you absolutely nothing back, then I can tell you right now, that there is nothing you will accomplish by stalking her or calling her 5 times a day instead of once. I’m also here to tell you, she most likely is not interested in pursing anything further with you. Its a hint dude, so read the signs and move on. I know it sucks when they don’t like you the way that you do, but such is life. Not everyone that you like is going to like you back …. no matter what you do.
Don’t sweat it. You’ll live =)
Now there is a difference between a woman that is blowing you off and a woman that is being flakey. A woman blowing you off, will usually give you nothing back to work with. A woman that is being flakey means that sometimes she gives you what you want and other times she doesn’t. You can probably describe her actions as intermittent. Click here to read more »
The reason why I’m writing this post, is because I have a number of people always asking me, what they should do, what they should say and how they should act when “xyz” happens when it comes to dating, men and women.
Most of the time I’m hesitant in saying … “do this” or “do that” because the truth of the matter is, every situation is so very different. So trying to act in a predefined way, is probably the worse thing that you can possibly do! You want to know why?
Because you start to second guess yourself. You start to doubt yourself. You start to hesitate. You start to hold back. And you stop being able to access your personal power which makes you attractive and not to mention magnetic to everyone around you.
I can tell you right now, that its your hesitation and its your inability to act upon and listen to that inner voice within us all which ALWAYS know exactly what to do, what to say and how to act.
If there is anything I can teach you guys, is that you must cultivate and act upon your gut or intuitive feelings. Click here to read more »
About 2 years I created a videoabout “how to really attract women” – It continues to be one of my most popular dating you tube videos.
Since that time, I have come to some new distinctions which can really help men attract women. I’ve realised that it is not based on all the techniques, but rather its about developing a particular mindset about yourself and women, which in turn will magnetize women to you.
Here are the top three tips I discuss in this video
1) Be proactive and keep pushing for the next step. Resistance is part of the process.
2) Be transparent, you have a unique personality so use it! Get comfortable with who you are, its all you’ve got.
3) Blow as many women out of the water. Get it out of your system. Take the pressure off. Give yourself the approval that you are seeking.
So I want to talk about that friend you have. You know your girlfriend who seems to have guys hovering around her 24/7 waiting to pounce.
The girl who doesn’t seem to be doing anything in particularly special to attract the males species.
You know, that girl that drives you insanely jealous. Sure she is hot. You tell yourself you wish you had her legs, her butt, her boobs, her beauty mole, her perfectly straight teeth etc, etc.
Yes looks help.
But it is not the one holy answer to all questions. In fact there are plenty of hot women who don’t get approached at all (but that’s another story). So if its not entirely down to just looks, then what else could be at play?
Firstly a word about understanding women. Women are one of those things that you either “get” or you don’t “get”.
When you “get” it … when you know what attracts them, turns them on, keeps them interested and happy …. then the only problem you’ll really have, is finding the right kind of woman that is available and can keep up with you.
Still a problem. But a better quality problem.
Now if you don’t get it(and I know there are a lot of guys that fall into this category) understanding, dating and maintaining women can be a futile as a fat kid trying to go on health kick.
You know what you want, but you don’t think you can have it. At one point you think you have it all figured out and then *WHAM!* she throws out a wild card.
So how can we solve this problem? Well simply put, you must get yourself to the point where you “get” women. Now I’m a full supporter of the PUA or the Pick UP Artist community. Because learning about, attracting and dating, really is a skill. However I have to add here, that technique isn’t all you need. Click here to read more »
So we all at times can be a little controlling. And at other times we can also be a little bit of a FREAK. But overcoming being a control freak is not as hard as it sounds. It just takes a little bit of practice, patience and faith.
Now there is no better person to talk to you right now about control. Because me and control use to be the best of buddies. I made sure my partner at the time met my expectations and in return that control gave me the “so called security and safety” which deep down I craved. So how did he meet my expectations? I dragged him to personal development seminars, I put some ambition in him, I got him to eat healthier, dress smarter, act nicer … you name it and I did it. And at the end of it, I had a guy who I didn’t recognise nor respected because he didn’t have the guts to stand up for himself. Click here to read more »