Advice For Girls

The "Hes Just Not That Into" Rules. Do They Really Apply?

So here are the rules;

He’s just not that into you if he is not asking you out

He’s just not that into you if he’s not calling you

He’s just not that into you, if he’s not dating you

He’s just not that into you, if he is not having sex with you

He’s just not that into you if he is having sex with someone else

He’s just not that into you if he only wants to see you when he’s drunk

He’s just not that into you if he doesn’t want to marry you

He’s just not that into you if he is breaking up with you

He’s just not that into you if he has disappeared on you
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Why Do You Attract Emotionally Unavaliable Men?

How is it that us women have the unique ability, (similar to that of a cruise missile) to find, attract and date the only emotionally/physically unavailable man in the entire dating market?

I’m telling you that’s a real skill … and we are good at it, coz lets face it … we’ve had a lot of practice.

Now in light of this we could react how 99 percent of the women do and mention every excusable cliché under the sun, like “All the good men are taken, men only want one thing, I’m just not that into him”.

Now while your ranting off things like “I’ll find him when I’m not looking and there are plenty of fish in the sea” you are missing out on potentially one of the biggest revelations of your dating life.

Among the midst of confusion, frustration and plain denial the single most important truth can be simply put like this.

We pick men who (deep down we know) are emotionally/physically/in some form unavailable to date or commit to us in any way.
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I Really Like Him – Now What?!

Ok, so lets admit it. There are some times when you meet a guy and you are “Just So INTO Him”.

You met, had a great time, really enjoyed his company and now your all caught up in fantasizing what a great boyfriend he will be, where you will get married and the names of your future children.

Some of you may laugh … but very often this is the trap that a lot of women fall into.

Maybe not so much to that extreme, but when we like a guy most of the time, we are at least sizing him up, of how great he will be in a relationship, in the your life and in bed =)

Most of the time, we are jumping about 10 years ahead and thinking about what it would be like to grow old together and yet you still don’t even know his last name.

You are thinking of marrying the guy and you don’t even know his favorite food or that really irritating habit he has of biting his finger nails that you simply cannot stand.

So what am I getting at exactly?
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Crazy Easter Spectacular Part 1

To be honest I was saying to myself, I’m going to take it easy this weekend. I literally did not have anything planned. But here is the thing that I have noticed about not planning.

When you “see how it goes” and have no expectations what so ever, you end up having some of the best, most memorable experiences of a lifetime. Literally if I had sat down on Thursday night and tried to think of all the cool and random things that were going to precede that weekend … I think my brain would have exploded.

And you think I joking. Isn’t that cute…..

So literally I’m going to do a recap of my Friday night. I’m going to go into as much detail as I can and then maybe give you a quick recap of my entire weekend without too much detail, because lets face it.

I don’t kiss and tell. If you didn’t notice already.

If you want some of those stories, head over to coz those guys do a better job at that, then I ever could! (haha love you guys).
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Crazy Easter Spectacular Preview

This could be an entire weekly series. But we will see how we go.

So as you know it was Easter has come, gone and been left in the dust.

Until next year that is.

Usually it involves a night out, time with family and an excess of chocolate which you don’t and wouldn’t normally eat.

Where do I start. I think I’ll tell you about my Friday, since that was a beginning of it all, which set the tone for pretty much the whole super extended weekend.

Now before I go on, I will say that I didn’t spend excessive amounts of money nor did I drink, nor did I use my flirting abilities to get free drinks, food or money.

To my knowledge anyway….

Want more? You’ll just have to come back on Monday won’t ya? Because that’s the day where I will be kicking off my 3 Part Easter Spectacular Series!!

See ya soon!

Hot Alpha Female

No Such Thing as (THAT) Part 2

I’m sitting here, thinking … gawd am I actually seriously helping these people.

I mean my dating life isn’t necessarily perfect (there’s that word, better watch out for it). I’m not in the perfect relationship right now. My life isn’t perfect.

Why would I be qualified to be writing a dating and attraction blog. Like really?

My crappy conclusion was that I simply wasn’t. And that I would have to achieve all those things, in order to start writing again.

So that was it.

HAF gone bye bye.

Disappeared for however long I did, on a quest to make my life perfect.

Now I don’t know if any of you have been in pursuit of perfection, but its a pretty frustrating journey and I don’t recommend it.

But you know that quote, “how you do one thing is how you do everything?”. Click here to read more »

No Such Thing as (THAT) Part 1


So the emails lately have been stacking up and I can’t seem to get back to everyone.

Sorry. I’m doing the best with the time that I have.

Now here is the thing.

I’m getting all these emails for you guys and they all seem to be boiling down to one thing.

Here is an example of what they usually resonate along.

“I have this girl .. blah blah blah … what exactly should I say or do next”

That pretty much boils down to it. And you guys send me all these emails, with all these slight variations.

Usually my responses are not very situation specific.

Why not?

Because whether this girl may be your friend, neighbor, co worker, boss, whatever … it doesn’t matter. Click here to read more »

A Sneak Preview of Paige Parker’s Dating Without Drama!

My best friend. Complete Drama queen. God love her.

Now that statement is actually pretty dam profound. All the women I know love drama, heck I used to indulge in it all the time!!

It makes the relationships exciting, it gives me something to do, puts the spice into life(obviously I needed to get out more)

Well that was about 2 years ago when I discovered that having a dramatic romantic life, was really not all it set out to be.

At the end of the day it left me feeling cold, empty, unfulfilled along with a track record of broken relationships to prove it.

You know the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over again … expecting a different result? Click here to read more »

Women Vs Men – Who Is Really Behaving Badly?

Women and men, both behave badly when it comes to relationships.

No-one is worse than the other, we are equally as bad as eachother.

But from what I can tell men are blaming women and men are blaming women.

Instead of uncovering the truth we run around eachother, creating scenarios, situations, reasons as to why it is not our fault.

The blame game is so on. And the competition is fierce.

So while I don’t really want to go in and fuel this debate, I want to clarify some of the excuses men and women say to themselves that prevents them for taking responsibilities for their own dating lives.

I don’t think that there is anyone to blame. But I do think that we have a responsibility to ourselves to discover and live the real truth.

But then again. If you want we can have a debate about who behaves worse than the other. You know, just for the fun of it.

So now I’m putting forth my case!

Here goes …
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Would It Be Easier To Approach A Surrendered Single?

So lets just get this straight. For the men and women, what is a surrendered single? And why would it be easier to approach her?

This was a concept developed by Laura Doyle in her book titled … . What I love about this book is that it is so controversial. Women get caught off guard by some of the things that are mentioned in here. Most importantly it goes against the grain of how women should act in the modern society we live in today, where women and men are continually playing on equal fields.

So what exactly does she say?

What is a Surrendered Single? And just what is she surrendering—and to whom?

A Surrendered Single recognizes that if she wants to attract the man with whom she can develop intimacy, she cannot control relationships. She cannot determine who asks her out, how he’ll do it, when he’ll call or e-mail, or if he’ll commit to her. A Surrendered Single may have unwittingly been trying to control, manipulate and force relationships previously, but no more. Click here to read more »