In 2008, I needed to start this blog. Because someone (and that someone was going to have to be me) needed to speak about the truth. Someone needed to tell the truth, no matter how blunt, how painful or how terrifying that would be. Read more »
How is it that us women have the unique ability, (similar to that of a cruise missile) to find, attract and date the only emotionally/physically unavailable man in the entire dating market?
I’m telling you that’s a real skill … and we are good at it, coz lets face it … we’ve had a lot of practice.
Now in light of this we could react how 99 percent of the women do and mention every excusable cliché under the sun, like “All the good men are taken, men only want one thing, I’m just not that into him”.
Now while your ranting off things like “I’ll find him when I’m not looking and there are plenty of fish in the sea” you are missing out on potentially one of the biggest revelations of your dating life.
Among the midst of confusion, frustration and plain denial the single most important truth can be simply put like this.
We pick men who (deep down we know) are emotionally/physically/in some form unavailable to date or commit to us in any way. Click here to read more »
To be honest I was saying to myself, I’m going to take it easy this weekend. I literally did not have anything planned. But here is the thing that I have noticed about not planning.
When you “see how it goes” and have no expectations what so ever, you end up having some of the best, most memorable experiences of a lifetime. Literally if I had sat down on Thursday night and tried to think of all the cool and random things that were going to precede that weekend … I think my brain would have exploded.
And you think I joking. Isn’t that cute…..
So literally I’m going to do a recap of my Friday night. I’m going to go into as much detail as I can and then maybe give you a quick recap of my entire weekend without too much detail, because lets face it.
I don’t kiss and tell. If you didn’t notice already.
Women and men, both behave badly when it comes to relationships.
No-one is worse than the other, we are equally as bad as eachother.
But from what I can tell men are blaming women and men are blaming women.
Instead of uncovering the truth we run around eachother, creating scenarios, situations, reasons as to why it is not our fault.
The blame game is so on. And the competition is fierce.
So while I don’t really want to go in and fuel this debate, I want to clarify some of the excuses men and women say to themselves that prevents them for taking responsibilities for their own dating lives.
I don’t think that there is anyone to blame. But I do think that we have a responsibility to ourselves to discover and live the real truth.
But then again. If you want we can have a debate about who behaves worse than the other. You know, just for the fun of it.
So lets just get this straight. For the men and women, what is a surrendered single? And why would it be easier to approach her?
This was a concept developed by Laura Doyle in her book titled … The Surrendered Single. What I love about this book is that it is so controversial. Women get caught off guard by some of the things that are mentioned in here. Most importantly it goes against the grain of how women should act in the modern society we live in today, where women and men are continually playing on equal fields.
So what exactly does she say?
What is a Surrendered Single? And just what is she surrendering—and to whom?
A Surrendered Single recognizes that if she wants to attract the man with whom she can develop intimacy, she cannot control relationships. She cannot determine who asks her out, how he’ll do it, when he’ll call or e-mail, or if he’ll commit to her. A Surrendered Single may have unwittingly been trying to control, manipulate and force relationships previously, but no more. Click here to read more »