In 2008, I needed to start this blog. Because someone (and that someone was going to have to be me) needed to speak about the truth. Someone needed to tell the truth, no matter how blunt, how painful or how terrifying that would be. Read more »
A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.
Hello and welcome! This may or may not be the first time that you are stopping by here but I want this to be a place where you can visit and will continue to visit regularly.
You may have come here for various different reasons, whatever they are, I want you to realize that in the process of learning how to relate better to women you are going to have to learn to better relate with yourself.
Here is a really great starting point to bring you up to speed on how you can create and maintain attraction with women in the long term. Some posts will take a few minutes to read, some will take longer. I make one promise – once you have read these posts you will know more about attracting a woman than 90% of men out there. Click here to read more »
Alright, so I know that it’s not exactly a forum. But, it’s the closest thing to one that I can produce right about now. I hope you enjoyed going through “Get Inside Her Heart and Mind” and got some valuable insights that you can APPLY! Please feel free to share your insights here. If you had a great experience you would like to share (I would love to read it!). You can also post the ONE action that you are going to get started on right now (and be held accountable for it, right here). Alternatively, if you have a question about one of the insights or about dating and relationships in general please post your comment here, too. Basically, what I’m saying that anything and everything is welcome here – so GO FOR IT!
Let the sharing begin!
P.S If you had a personal success that you achieved BECAUSE of reading this book – I would also love to read it and then proceed to share with everyone else how awesome you are! =P
So for my loyal readers, you may have realised that I have moved off blogger and onto my own BLOG! Yes, that’s right, Hot Alpha Female “The Blog” has undergone a MAJOR overhaul (I don’t know what other makeover you were thinking about!)
So hope you guys like the look and feel of this website. I really wanted something that was more user friendly and easier on the eyes, so you guys can find what you want … and find it fast!
Like with all new things, there are heaps of little bugs I need to iron out, but don’t worry I’m totally onto it! Click here to read more »
Got ya with that headline right? Come-on, I’m a chick, I know the conversations we have over coffee or breakfast with the girlfriends, trying to figure out exactly what Mr. A is thinking and what he meant by saying that or doing this.
I must admit that girls love to fantasize. We love to make up stories in our head and hope for the best that it will turn out like that in reality.
The truth is, this is probably the number one cause for drama in a girls dating or relationship life, because it sets up unrealistic expectations or outcomes which cannot really be controlled.
Usually a girls thinking goes along like this, “If only I knew what he really meant, when he said this, or looked at me that way. If I really knew then I would be happy, or I wouldn’t have to worry”.
No wonder dating and relationships can be so agonizing! That’s torture right there. Because the truth is, even if a guy tells you straight out what he is thinking, it still might not be the truth! You will still colour it with your perceptions, your beliefs and all these filtering systems in your mind. Click here to read more »
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A:If you logged into your PayPal account to purchase my guide – after you have made your purchase – PayPal will automatically redirect you to the download page. Also an email will be automatically sent out to the primary email attached to the PAYPAL account you purchased the product with.
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Q: Will you be sending me more stuff?
A: Yes, I have a series of bonus material and a jam packed newsletter that will accompany my guide to give you the latest advice on attracting women.
Q: Can I change the email that you will be sending your newsletters and bonuses to?
A: The email I will be sending all this juicy content to, is the PAYPAL email that you used to purchase the guide – at the moment this is the only way I have been able to set it up. To change the email address you can do 2 things;
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Second option – You can click on the manage subscription option at the bottom of each newsletter and update all your details from there.
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Mistake Number 1: Not going after what you want. Second guessing your words and your actions all out of the fear of rejection or humiliation
Example: “Just Friends” 2005 – Bedroom scene where the main character doesn’t take the opportunity to sleep with his friend (who he clearly has feelings for). You can check out the scene right here ….(scene starts at 4:00)
Solution: Take the opportunity that is in front of you. Be courageous and move forward. Get used to doing things that move you outside your comfort zone, they don’t have to be associate with women – just things that scare you a little. You aim to become more familiar with the feelings associated with the unfamiliar.
Mistake Number 2: Trying to get a girl to like you – using logic.
Example: Trying to rationale with a girl how this “other guy” is a jerk – won’t work.
Making sure you are ALWAYS there for her – may not work in the initial stages
Solution: Want to mix certainty (her trust and comfort with you) with uncertainty (mystery and anticipation) – you need both in equal doses to create that attraction. Remember attraction is an emotional not a rationale experience for a woman.
Mistake Number 3: Being scared to be a fence pusher. This means interacting with every woman and leaving her with a neutral feel about her. You don’t want to upset her, you don’t want to step up so that she can really see and experience all the good things you have to offer. A woman cannot be attracted to a man that she feels neutral about. Operate on the basis of she will either love me, or she will hate me. Push her off that fence. Don’t be afraid to rock the boat.
Solution: Know and define the type of woman you want to interact with. Become the kind of man that the woman you want – would be attracted to. Remember, there comes a point where dating multiple women becomes a lot more work than fun. You only need to find ONE good quality woman out there. So start getting specific.
Mistake Number 4: Giving into her because you think it will make her happy and more attracted to you. Women like men who stand up for themselves. Women like men who have their own optioning and sense of self. The more you give in to her – the less she will be attracted to you.
Example: Giving in is agreeing with her – when you really don’t giving is letting her walk over you – when you really want to say something.
Giving in is saying yes – when you really want to say NO.
Solution: Practice saying NO. Remember that you are the qualifier – you get to decide if you want to put up with this. Remember that you have the power. Instead make sure to challenge her. Throw back her comments or requests. Call her out on it when she is making a disrespectful request. Use it as material to tease her with it. Know what you will say yes and no to. Lay down boundaries that adhere to these.
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Andy, creator of “Womanology” is a 42 year old with plenty of dating experience. What I love most about this blog is that Andy has clearly spent YEARS studying women and reflecting on his past experiences. Every week he shares a new story from his past that is usually insightful, intelligent, interesting, and even a little humorous.