“A man may conquer a million men in battle but one who conquers himself is, indeed, the greatest of conquerors.”
~ Buddha

Some of you may be thinking, “I thought I never lost it!” But let’s face it, today’s society is riddled with trends that intentionally or unintentionally emasculate the average man. I wish I could give you some soothing words to read like, “Don’t worry, it’s really not true”, or “Men have never been more masculine before”. But if you have just come back from a date that was less than worthy of even remembering or you are licking your wounds after a vicious attack by some woman at work who just thinks she’s “Queen of the damned“, then you know what I’m talking about.

So, welcome. I guarantee that “here” is a soft place you can rest/fall/pass out (at least for the next 5 minutes) because in this post I’m going to show you how you can reconnect with that masculine side of you and keep it for GOOD!

First, here is a trend alert. Sensitive new age guys (SNAGs) are OUT and the masculine alpha males (MAMs) are back in.

Fine print and conditions: Yes, there was a period where alpha males were NOT the hottest thing to be. No, not many women are going to admit that they secretly want the alpha males back in charge.

Here is the reason why: your metro man and your SNAG used to be a valuable and well sought out commodity. How cool would it be to be dating a guy who had all the qualities of a gay best friend BUT who wasn’t gay! Yay! Many would say. Ok, enough with the rhyming.

But shortly after women had traded in their rough and tough men for clean cut guys who wanted to talk about their feelings, they realized that dating and relating just wasn’t the same. In fact, it was lame. There I go again with a rap and a rhyme. HAF is here with what you need in time.

So, it’s time to stop letting the women think that they are in charge. Strap your balls back on and focus on being a man’s man yet again! It’s not for her. It’s for YOU.

Don’t let it all out…

A little emotional restraint can go a long way. Better yet, finding ways to express and release emotions that don’t necessarily involve crying in front of your partner or talking for 3 hours straight about your feelings can make a woman feel like you are in control of your emotions and are an emotionally stable place that she can come to. It’s ok to have your weak moments, and there are times when you are really going to have to be honest with your partner about certain things. But also having resourceful alternatives to express, deal, and handle these emotions actually helps put YOU in the leadership position.

Learn to say No …

And, you know who you need to say “No” the most to? That one person who always gets you to GIVE IN! Whether that’s a woman you are dating, whether it’s your mother, or your friend – you need to lay down some boundaries. Now, I know sometimes that word just pops out because in the short term it’s just easier to give in. It’s less confrontational. It’s less effort. It ruffles fewer feathers – for the other person anyways. But every time you say “yes” when you really want to say “no” – you etch away the power of your own conviction. So, don’t be afraid of the short term fall out. Bear it on the chin. Face it front on. Because when you do that, you can anticipate a future with fewer requests, more respect, and an increased confidence in the power of your own words.

Get your sh*t together …

As much as women will say today about how cool the concept of a stay at home husband or partner is, deep down there is a level of dissatisfaction that they experience. They may find you incredible fathers but only moderate partners. Most women settle and make themselves think that it is enough. But the good news is that you can be both. Get in touch with what you are truly passionate about and find a way to make money from that while at home (or working a few hours a week). Not only will this make you feel more valuable but also more masculine in that you are contributing in a way that was deeply ingrained in you from childhood.

A little bit of tradition goes a long way …

You’ve heard it before, and you will hear it again. Despite how “modern” a woman acts, behaves, and speaks, there is still a part of her that likes being treated like a woman. She may have buried those desires beneath the surface, she may (at times) find it hard to let someone do something for her. But rest assured, that desire to feel like a woman is always there. So, don’t be afraid to open a door, hold her hand tightly when crossing the road, pay for a meal, or pick her up for the date. So often men don’t do this anymore that you will actually be standing out of the crowd rather than being a part of it.

Healthy body, healthy mind …

I’m not saying that you have to “bulk, bulk like the hulk” or anything like that. But you know within yourself whether you are living on the healthy or unhealthy side of life. If you want to get rid of those extra 10 pounds, if you want to get to the gym and tone up a little, if you want to have a healthier diet – then don’t wait to do it – just do it NOW. Clear the time for yourself. And, you will reap the rewards of boosted self-confidence and self-worth when you know you are doing the best for yourself.

Dress in a way that you are proud of …

I often think of your dress sense as a reflection on the outside of how you see yourself on the inside. Dressing well helps boost your confidence. It helps you stand taller. It will help you feel better. Whether you are just going down to the shops to grab some bread or milk or visiting your friends – make sure feel proud of what you are wearing – just in case you bump into that someone special. If you look into your wardrobe and find it severely uninspiring, then set aside some time and money to have a wardrobe do-over. Grab your sister, your niece, a trusted friend who is a woman, or a random sales chick – and let her give you an opinion of what looks hot or bad on you.

Engage in your manly activities regularly…

Every guy has his “thing” that he just loves to do. Whether it’s playing your favorite sport, having a beer with your mates, driving around the race track, etc. – make sure to schedule regular time to have fun with that. More than likely you will find it energizing and revitalizing. It will help you reconnect yourself and your loins.

So those are my thoughts. If this post makes you a little furious – I understand. If this post gave you a kick up the butt – I understand. If this post re-enforced a belief of yours – I understand that, too. Whatever your thoughts are, I would love to hear them.

I’ve had my say, now it’s your turn.

Hot Alpha Female

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