Signs She Likes You As More Than A Friend
“Love is friendship set to music.”
~ E. Joseph Crossmann
So, let’s just get one thing straight – I know this would be a lot easier if your female friend would just throw herself at you. You know like: make a move; rip off your shirt; declare her feelings; or make a brief confession. The truth is that 90% of women won’t do that. I know it seems unfair. But what is really unfair is that I’m now going to give you the upper hand. What does that mean for you? It means after I share with you the 3 main signals that demonstrate a woman’s interest – it’s going to be so obvious whether your friend has the hots for you. The only difference is that you know exactly “what signs and signals” you need to be paying attention to. And that, my friend, is exactly what we are going to talk about.
Sign # 1: She changes the way she interacts and behaves with you
The most important thing to notice here is the distinction between how she acted around you before and how she acts around you now. Maybe she starts to dress better. Maybe she will only see you when she has her makeup on or looks nice. Maybe you start to notice her feeling a little more nervous or flirty around you. Maybe she starts being more physically close to you by lingering during a hug or kiss on the cheek and allowing for more opportunities to have that happen. Maybe she seems a little more self conscious around you and harder to relax. Different women will do different things, but if she is your friend, you will be able to compare and contrast how she was acting in the past to how she is acting now.
Sign # 2: She goes above and beyond that of a good friend
Whatever your level of friendship was with her beforehand, when a woman has a romantic interest, she will do more for you than she would any other friend. For example, if beforehand you would have to beg and plead with her to come to a family event to save you from the boredom of being there alone, now she happily agrees and seems somewhat interested to meet and mingle with your family. If beforehand you had to battle with her booked out diary to score a hang out time, now she seems to have a lot more available spots for you. If beforehand she would send you a get well text when you were feeling sick, now she turns up on your doorstep with soup, tissues, and season 1, 2, and 3 of Family Guy with the promise of even keeping you company for a while. If the majority of her changes in behavior lead to her being more involved and available for you, then you can bet she has a really big soft spot for you and her interest is more than that of a friend. What you are looking for is the contrast to how she has interacted with you beforehand and how she is interacting with you now.
Sign # 3: She is jealous of the women you are interested in or dating
When a woman wants something, she usually wants it all to herself. This is particularly true when it comes to the man she wants to date. If she has her eye on you as the prize, it’s going to drive her crazy when you are talking with or dating other women. Here are some examples which reveal a woman’s jealous streak. She asks for dirty gossip on women you are dating and really targets on any reservations you may feel about this girl. She may appear to get uncomfortable or twitchy when you are on the phone to a girl who you are potentially interested in you. If you mention a girl’s name and she doesn’t know who she is, your friend will inquire about it suspiciously – and shrug it off like it doesn’t matter if it is a girl you happen to be dating. She may even become more sensitive when you talk about other women and could change the subject or get quiet and slightly withdrawn.
So, if you have a woman that has changed the way she behaves around you in this manner, then you bet she likes you. What you are looking for is not just one or two of these behaviors but a combination of all these behaviors together. Look for the overall pattern of how she is interacting with you with reference to these signs, and it will become very apparent to you. If your friend has always been flirty, thoughtful, and jealous of all the women you’ve dated – then she has probably liked you all along and you just haven’t realized it. No matter what your situation is, the power is now in your hands – it’s up to you to decide what you want to do with it.
I’ve had my say, what’s yours?
Hot Alpha Female
This article is spot on. I have a friend who is really shy and struggles around women, usually falling into the friend zone pretty quickly even though they start out CLEARLY liking him. he always hems and haws even after I have pointed out anywhere from one to all three of the points you make above and STILL he fails to follow through 95% of the time!
I was once this way but now I can read the signs almost before they happen. A recent example: About three weeks back me and this particular friend are hanging out at our favorite watering hole and being served by a waitress who had recently come on board and had quickly become our favorite. She stops, gets us refills jokes with use then goes walking off.
I mention to my friend that I couldn’t wait to rail her. He looks at me and told me flat out she was interested in him and not me. I couldn’t believe he didn’t realize he had dropped the ball already. I told him that was when she first started but he was too slow and too nice and he was now in the friend zone and I had taken over. He informed me there was no way she’d do anything with me.
She comes back over and I inform her that I was very disappointed with her. She asks me why and I tell her she wasn’t wearing the boots she normally wore (I love women in boots). She tells me that while she loved them, they wore holes in her socks and hurt her feet. I told her under those circumstances, I’d forgive her for not wearing boots. She giggles and walks off to help a table. I turn to my buddy and tell him “She’ll be wearing those boots tomorrow night.” He repeats what she had just said about her socks and the boots hurting her feet.
We come in the next night and she is wearing the boots. I banged her that weekend.
My friend is still not getting it. I’m going to blame you Jennifer. I have sent him links to articles but he is still too soft. I think he needs tough love. Yeah…I’m going to send him over to Danger & Play and Fringe of Darkness. That might get him to alpha up. LOL!
Seriously, another great article.
Yep. Alpha up, if all you want is bangin’ and railin’. A perfectly reasonable lifestyle choice (assuming the people you’re bangin’ and railin’ are aware that’s all it is), but not one that’s for everyone. Or for ever.
Presumably, though, if we’re talking about getting together with female friends – people you trust and respect – you’ll want more than a quick legover?
Nice article, HAF – although I’ve spotted all three of those signs before, acted on them, and then wished I hadn’t… I’d say the last one, where they get jealous of your other dates/female friends, is the most reliable.
Thanks for the lovely comment on my blog. Your link is up! x
Great article as ever Andy. I’ve seen male friends get this wrong more often than not (luckily not with me though!). They suddenly make a move on an old friend and bam the friendship is very strained thereafter especially when drink is involved. I do feel for guys in the fact that sometimes us ladies can be oh so subtle. Sometimes its best to just take the lead because otherwise the penny will never drop. I have a good friend who did this with a friend and he was so shocked but totally thrilled as he’d secretly loved her for years. Sometimes the direct route is the best.
I’ll tweet this out for you Andy, have a great weekend
Grace
As a man I have a rule that I never have any female friends. That way I always keep my self sharp and NEVER end up in the friendzone.
It’s NOT an option, once a female talks to me.
So my mindeset is that a female ALWAYS finde me intresting and attractive.
Easy peasy.
Thank you so much, I noticed this with my friend but little did I know what she was up to, the next time I am on alert.
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I think a relationship can be stronger if it started out as just friendship. It can be hard for some women to show their true feelings towards a guy, so looking out for the signs she likes you is important if you want to take things further.