(Part 2) Crazy and Emotionally Immature Women …
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Crazy and Emotionally Immature Women Part 1
Emotionally immature women can be confusing, frustrating and unbearable to date at times.In actual fact, it can put you off women because you think that every woman is the same. That is probably one of the most damaging things that can happen.
Well I have good news for you. Not all women are emotionally immature. I would say there is a greater majority of women who are emotionally immature so I want to help you be able to identify what an emotionally immature women behaves and responses to you.
Here are some of the things that an emotionally immature woman will engage in:
1. Flakiness – inability to assert herself and follow through on her actions
2.extreme high and low mood swings which are in close proximity to each other. For example she is happy and then really depressed in the space of a couple of minutes. Take note of her mood swing patterns.
3. Inability to do emotional processing. She has limited coping skills
4. No emotional boundaries. When she is angry at her best friend and then takes it out on you it’s because she cannot discern the space between the relationship with her best friend and the relationship she has with you.
Overall I would say it’s important to pay attention objectively of how she is emotionally responding and living her life. If she is emotionally immature I guarantee that you will see a noticeable pattern. Once you are aware of this you have more choices on what you want to do, for example, confront her and ask her about more constructive ways to deal with her emotions or assess what you are and are not willing to put up with.
Enjoy!
Hot Alpha Female
Haha this is so true, and the problem is a lot of women are so very good hiding this until about the 3rd or 4th date, watch out guys!
Lennie Ross
http://lennierosswrites.com
@Lennie Ross: Yes!! Men also need to be on the look out, too! Good point =)
Hot Alpha Female
Hi HotAlpha. My dating life has pretty much been shit until now. I dated 7 emotionally unprepared GIRLS, not women. I’m 21 now and I can’t stand little girls playing with iPhones and Barbies and hoola hoops who whine about almost everything and never do anything about it. So I stopped dating these types. Now that I am in total control of my person and my life, I am attracting a lot more adult, mature women who can detect my maturity, my life experience and my people skills, as well as my compassion. I actually enjoy the company of an older woman who actually knows what she’s doing with herself and not looking for answers on places like Match.com, OKCupid and whatnot, but actually going out and approaching the men they might find interesting.
So, I’m actually glad I figured this all out now rather than later, because I’m much happier spending my intimate time with a mature, self-aware woman rather than a whiny adolescent girl in woman’s clothing.
Thank you for representing the REAL women out there, you earned a Nobel in my eyes for Relationships.
GentleGuido Miguel
@Miguel: I think it’s wonderful that you have an awareness of what is going on with yourself and other women earlier rather than later in your life. Even though there are exceptions to the rule, older women seem to have a better head on their shoulders, they have had more experience, they know how to stand up for themselves, and they are further along in the process of defining who they are.
Hot Alpha Female
Thanks! Despite my growth, I still am running into a lot of women who haven’t gotten a grip on themselves. Especially at 21, for me, it’s difficult to date. The younger women can’t handle me intellectually and the older women think I’m too young, but are attracted to my maturity and humor. So right now I’m in a bind, but it’s nice at least knowing I can attract so many different kinds of women. A lot of the women I meet already have boyfriends, some are even married, but they like to talk to me a lot and want to know more about what I do and who I am. They could be wanting more, or are keeping me around for later, but I’m not going to give them anything intimate until that time comes, or when I may want to date one of them. They need to know I have boundaries and I can’t be affectionate as I would want to be: they need to get it from their boyfriends. It’s nice knowing I’m maybe a little more than what they have, but if they really want more, well, they need to make some decisions.
For now I’m working on improving my own life and my own insecurities so that I can be ready for a smart, mature woman. I’m much more skilled at detecting flakiness and moodiness, and just recently have gotten some flaky responses and some more satisfactory and appealing punctual responses. The flaky girls I just joke with, “You afraid of your voicemail hun?” and such, haha. Women leave a good impression with me if they are interested and they actually like talking to me without feeling uncomfortable because of inner conflicts and irrationalities. They can still have these insecurities, but how they handle themselves and detect their own behaviors: that’s sexy to me. I do that to myself, “That was kind of a dick move, Miguel.” And I practice not doing it again, even though I have an Alpha ego that I have to pin down sometimes
The male ego is like a daily fist fight with yourself. x.x
Miguel
@Miguel: You make some really interesting points. When you say that younger women can’t handle you, what do you mean by that? Does it mean that they are not able to match you on your intellectual level? That they don’t get your jokes, or perhaps your philosophy on life? Or is it more than you don’t like the way they live their life or can’t relate to it? When you say that the women that you meet usually have boyfriends, or are in some way unavailable is that with younger AND older women or only with younger or older women?
Asking these questions to yourself and allowing them to take you deeper may help you in developing an awareness of some things that have been going on in the background. Usually we attract a particular type of woman or group of women (with similar qualities) because there is something in “ourselves” that they are drawn to. Figure out what that is and change it and you will find that you will be able to attract a different type of woman – perhaps ones that are younger, emotionally mature and emotionally available.
It’s not a matter of fact of whether women are out there like that. There are women of all sorts of different physical, emotional and spiritual makeups/combinations – it’s that you have to be the kind of man that these kind of women would be attracted/connected to.
Take this into consideration and you could surprise yourself by truly seeing what is out there – only when you are ready to.
Hot Alpha Female
I have to endure with three immature women, two are in their 20s,and one is in the 40s.in a college class I am taking right now.
They pry,and ask all kinds of personal questions. take my notebook off my desk without asking,and speak demands out of nowhere. I am trying to be nice,and not lose my temper.
My current strategy is say nothing,be cold,and distant.
But, I don’t want to report them to the professor or cause drama, because I feel I will end up being seen by the other classmates as the “bad guy” who can’t take a joke. There are a few others who like their immaturity by called it “cute”.
I know if I report them. They will like a act like ” the victim”
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Any suggestions?
Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OH MY. Thanks again!!!!!!
(2.extreme high and low mood swings which are in close proximity to each other. For example she is happy and then really depressed in the space of a couple of minutes. Take note of her mood swing patterns.)
I am so glad that having symptoms of a mental illness is a sign of being emotionally immature. Because really, I can’t stand this girl who is bi-polar and she always has to take these pills or she becomes emotionally ‘immature.’
Wow, you are an expert.