How to keep your girlfriend interested (part 3) – Being cocky funny all the time
Yep, that’s right, I’m sure you have heard of it before. Using cocky funny humour can help you attract a woman. And yes, all the rumors are true. Learning to tease, have fun and challenge a woman are great to get her to drop her defenses, open up to you and become more relaxed around you.
Now that you have got her attention, what happens now? Do you just keep it up? Do you tease and joke with her about everything? Well in this video I explain, why you need to keep up cocky funny and why you don’t need to.
I suggest that its great to keep up being cocky funny and teasing her, as it helps to keep the variety, anticipation and spark alive in the relationship. This is important to keep things interesting and fresh.
But I also want to mention how damaging it can really be if you don’t further develop and allow her to experience a number of other emotions. A woman likes to experience emotional depth. This means she may want to be sad at times or she may want to laugh. It also means that there are times when you want to joke around and she may want a source to vent to or some empathy and understanding.
If she is at a point where she wants to experience this and you end up laughing in her face and tell her to “lighten up” – its not going to do you or her any favors.
If she can only experience all the good superficial emotions with you, she is not going to feel like she can have a full experience while she is with you, which again will lead to her acting up, creating unnecessary drama and so on.
On the other hand if you are able to take her to many different emotional places, happy, sad, deep, meaningful, playful she will feel like she gets an emotional workout from you. The more workout she gets the need she feels to create drama and the closer a bond you can develop with her.
So enjoy guys and let me know your thoughts,
Hot Alpha Female
@ HAP: i must say, gratuitously AMAZING posts on the last 3 counts about LTRs. I’ve always wondered about why my LTR failed, despite having applying RSD nation’s principles and a lot of David deangelo’s material (C&F, leading all the time).
The more the relationship showed signs of drama (ie, she pulled away); the more i was insistent on applying more PUA material (eg being MORE C&F, being MORE domineering and less considerate of her opinions). This happened not because i was being chauvinistic, but because I had little first hand experience (it being my first serious LTR), and that I only had PU material to rely on.
In hindsight, i was deeply guilty and culpable of the mistakes from your last 2 videos. This is especially true of this video, where i remembered many-a-time where she was frustratedly asking where i was when we were meeting, and i carelessly replied “still at home watching comedies, haha!”. Thereafter, she got really frustrated and angry. BUT i still thought i was on the right path.
Thanks, AMAZING AND WONDERFUL POST i must really commend. A lot of PUA posts do no focus on the subtleties of a woman’s mind. they tend to assume that women are black and white, with no substantive intermediates. that is why they may be good at picking up, but terribly implode when it comes to LTRs
Really, really hope to see more of your tips for LTRs (where many guys falter). Perhaps on why jealousy is always harmful (or why calculated amounts of jealousy can be useful?)
hehe. cheers hun’
@jacksparrow: Thankyou for sharing Jack. What you describe here, is what I began noticing about men in LTR’s and people involved heavily in the seduction community.
My conclusion is that the men that just want to pick up a lot of women do not want to engage in LTR’s (at that point in time) and if they do, are not really sure how to go from “the game, to getting and maintaining a girlfriend”.
This is an area I have been looking into for a little while and I will definitely have more posts about this in the future =)
Hot Alpha Female
This is a very interesting article, and website altogether. I have to agree with you by my experiences with women. I’ve always said “if you can make her laugh, you can make her scream”. lol. I have an interesting question for you since you want to be so honest about women. I have a wife of six years now, and I have a terrible problem with brutal honesty. I seem 100% incapable of lying. I know it seems like no problem at all but honestly it seems like being able to lie once in a while would save a lot of drama. I seem to be able to do everything else absolutely perfect but I’m unable to “stretch the truth”, hide it, or even tell a white lie!
@Steven: Well that was very honest of you =P I’m interested to know exactly how it is that honesty is getting you into trouble with your woman and the type of drama it creates. Can you give me an example? I would also look into why you feel compelled to tell the truth all the time. Is that a particualr version of the truth. Does that mean just saying whatever is on you mind? Does it limit your capacity to feel empathy and compassion for the people that you are care? These would be really great questions to ask yourself.
Hot Alpha Female