Do I need to buy her something to attract her attention? Dos and don’ts!
To attract a woman all you need is money, looks and lots of presents. This is something that I hear all the time. And its complete BULLS**T!
You want to really know what attracts a woman to you? Its your presence, your charisma and the ability to make her feel good about herself when she is around you. That is what draws women in and keeps them interested.
So how do we navigate around this idea of buying drinks or gifts to get her attention? Well I say don’t! Don’t do any of it! You don’t have to buy a woman’s attention. In fact showering a woman with flowers and chocolates on a first date would be the worse thing to do.
In this video I will show you, what really attracts a woman to you. And how gifts can act as the icing on top of the cake rather than a substitute for creating real attraction.
Hot Alpha Female
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Men with no money who are dating beautiful women are dating beautiful women with low self-esteem. I agree that bring flowers and chocolates to a first date is awkward, primarily because it is such archaic old-fashioned behavior. And I agree that gifts should come from the heart and not obligation. But, in my books a man is going to score major points if he is generous with his money as well as his heart.
I would wonder what your take is on women putting out on first dates… you’re probably all for it as you are encouraging low self-esteem behavior in women. So blind are the youth of today.
@Hot Beta Female: Thankyou for your comments, they were very thought provoking. I want to address all parts of your comments. The first main sentence I want to focus on was;
“Men with no money who are dating beautiful women are dating beautiful women with low self-esteem”
In saying this, does it mean that a “beautiful woman of high self esteem would never date a man with no money?” I see it as contradictory as a woman with high self esteem would take all things into account when deciding to further pursue a relationship with a man. I think that money does play a part, but it is not the be all and end all of everything, its simply a factor. So to say that “one” factor contributes to the overall self worth of a woman is also misleading.
“But, in my books a man is going to score major points if he is generous with his money as well as his heart.”
I agree that a man who is generous in money, heart and spirit to be very appealing and attractive. There is no argument here. My main point in this video for men to clarify their intention when “gift giving” and realise that this is not one of the most effective ways to create attraction with a woman.
“I would wonder what your take is on women putting out on first dates… you’re probably all for it as you are encouraging low self-esteem behavior in women. So blind are the youth of today.”
In regards to your last comment, I’m not so sure how this is correlated to my video. I’m concluding its based on the assumption that women are dating men with no money because they have low self esteem and therefore put out on the first date because they have no sense of self worth. Would this be opposed to only putting out after a woman has been lavished with gifts? If you want to expand further on this, I would be happy to further investigate your point of view.
Hot Alpha Female
It’s all about finding a happy balance. Being showered in gifts does not substitute for genuine compliments, making a woman laugh or feel special.
@AS: right on! Thanks for stopping by =)
Hot Alpha Female
Hi,
please do me a favour and never ever wear lipstick again, when you are shooting a video. Your lips and their movements are so damn attractive. Lipstick hides this too much.
Thanks.
@jens: Well thankyou for your opinion. I’ll take it into account, but I’m not making any promises =P
Hot Alpha Female