The I Dont Care Factor – How It Can Work For YOU!
When it comes to dating there are so many frustrated boys and girls out there a common statement is ” I just don’t care anymore”.
More or less these are people who are in a “single” rut as I would say. There is one instance where this statement could be a turning point in their dating lives depending on what they mean when they say this.
Ever heard of the cliche term, “you find someone when you are not looking for them” – well what does law of attraction have to say about that huh? So as I was thinking about this the other day, I came to a really awesome conclusion and now I’m going to share this with you.
There are the two meanings that this one statement could have.
When someone says “I just don’t care anymore” – most of the time you can see it on their face and hear it in their voice that they do care. They clearly care and they have been caring for a really long time and are now just frustrated and miserable that they still haven’t found someone. Ultimately they wear this statement as a badge of honur.
“I’m cool” because “I don’t care anymore”.
Yeh, your not fooling anyone ….
Because as you make this statement it is clearly obvious to everyone around you that you do care, it does bother you and your miserable.
These people will remain single for a little while longer.
Then you have the people that say “I just don’t care anymore”- but what they have come to, is an acceptance that they haven’t found someone yet and the realization that they can be just as happy with or without a partner by their side.
These are the people that go out there and celebrate life regardless of their relationship status, people who fully engaged in everything that they do.
People who look at finding a partner as an addition to their life rather than the whole existence of their life. People who seek to understand themselves better, to learn about life and deal with every situation that comes their way.
These people have been able to remove the anger from their lives, the wishing the wanting of something different to happen to them, than what IS happening to right now.
Every single day that I am in a relationship I realize how much “being single” was practice to have a better relationship.
Yet it can be hard to see this when you are single and have been for quite some time. All I can say is that being single is a process, it’s a journey and it doesn’t stop when you meet the right person.
The trumpets don’t sound, music doesn’t start playing and no “happy ending” is in sight.
As Margaret Bonnano once said “It is only possible to live happily ever after on a day to day basis”.
SO with that said “the I don’t care factor” can be really effective – but only if you truly mean it, are detached from outcome and fully engaged with your life.
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I meet a lot of bitter women in my line of work who expected amazing things to happen after marriage but are tragically surprised to find out that using their partner as their only source of happiness in life left them feeling let down when he didn't live up to their unclear expectations.
I think you are right in saying that people should look for other joys in life apart from romance. Things such as work, hobby, friends etc. This way, when one area goes bad, you still have a diverse range of joys to keep you balanced.
Besides, hanging out as a single person leads you into meeting interesting people and situations that you wouldn't otherwise meet when you are shacked up- both ways can be as equally fulfilling.
I don't care factor FTW!
So happy to see you posted another blog entry! Wow I was just talking to my mother about this the other night, how being single is practice for your next relationship. It really is. Being single is helping me figure what I want and don't want in a relationship (not looking for the perfect man by any means) but more to the effect of do I want to text all the time, do I want to hang out every night — that sort of thing. Things that it's too late to figure out what you want once the relationship ensues. Anywho I really enjoy reading your blog and you offer tons of new ways to look at things. Keep up the good work!
It is really true to say that during this single time, u can use it to take care about yourself more. Because once u got into the relationship, your thought would be filled with your significant other and this is not so healthy. Because when you are too attached with your partner, you would expect too much from them. Yes, before you go to your next relationship, you should understand first what was wrong in your previous relationships and take this time to figure out what other things that u can have fun with. And just enjoying your life. Because unexpected things always happen when you least expect them. So for the meanwhile, just living your life to the fullest
Cool post, it's like the devil may care attitude mixed with Zen philosophy. Like it.
Interesting point> they're single; I'm single = 'how about it' – chillax and have fun with it all.
Obviously, these girls have a lot of pre-expectations of their ideal/dream guy and won't compromise (ooops, I mean will not compromise) even when displaying and acting cocky/funny, being upredictable and being in control of interactions. The gap is widening.
Of course, for most of us guys, its a case of nevermind and move on!! (no point dwelling on it right). Curioulsy though, when I'm in the UK or US and approach beautiful women, I have significantly more success = go figure.
Keep it real guys and remember preactice builds competence; competence builds confidence.
All the best
Regards,
Mick M
Love the Margaret Bonnano quote-very true!
I've linked to you on my blog.
Really? When I don't care, I'm not motivated to do anything about things, so nothing ever happens…
Very well said. I completely agree with the notion that the women who say "I don't care" but are saying it because they're frustrated are keeping themselves in a jail of their own making. I think that's why having very honest and upfront people around you is important. They can call you on your crap and help get you out of your way.
Great job!
Great article. Thanks for sharing
I definitely thought this was an awesome blog. Makes you think about yourself for a moment, and that is not a selfish thing. Sometimes you need to take of you, and then you can think about someone else. Knowing yourself will help you understand how you will interact with other people. Sometimes people aren't ready for a relationship. That's where cheating may become a factor and no one wants that in an honest relationship. I think that is where people get sidetracked. In a relationship,you should be able to be yourself while caring for someone else. That other person should understand what you're about to a certain extent and allow you to be you. This site that I recently discovered, Cheatconfession.com, has a bunch of stories that I don't think they took the time to get to know themselves and that is why they have these cheating stories. In the end, its better to be happy with yourself and it share that happiness. If you're not happy, then you will hurt those around you.
Good food for thought. I agree that we are all on a journey and often when we are single, there are lessons that we need to learn as part of our journey before we can attract and be in the right relationship. But rightly so, the journey and lessons do not stop once we meet someone they continue and we learn of one another…
I would love to say “I don’t care” and really mean it.
But in actually, my feelings about another romantic/sexual relationship are like those of someone who got alcohol poisoning from too much of a particular alcoholic beverage. The mere whiff of scotch, gin, rum or whatever brings it all back…yuck!