Alpha Females And Beta Males = Match
Like I said before. The term Hot Alpha Female is always unfolding for me. But here is something that I have uncovered recently.
Its all a sham! Hahaha …. Well ok a little bit of it is a sham.
Want to know why?
Well let me explain.
Maybe because I thought Hot Alpha Female, was a completely new concept, I thought it was a brainwave that no one had ever thought of before.
Apparently, I’m still learning a lot. Apparently I don’t know it all. And I think that’s a good thing, because otherwise I would never learn anything new.
SO what brought this on? Well the book called Venus on Top: Women Who Are Born to Lead and the Men Who Love Them
Like hello?! What have I been missing this whole time! So here is another realization that I have come to, which a lot of alpha women will have to realize. And trust me, I was fighting this one for a long time.
That Alpha Females need a Beta Male. Now I hesitate calling them Beta Males. But here is the thing that I discovered about what I really want. A confident funny Beta Male. I don’t want an Alpha Male, because there isn’t enough room in the relationship for 2 egos.
Now the only way I realize this is by reflecting on my past experiences.
Yes the strong and masculine and over powering males have been an incredible intrigue. But I wouldn’t actually date one of them!
Most of the men I have dated are complete and utter Beta Males. Now that’s not to say that is bad, but here is the thing. I always thought that I wanted to guy that was just like me. That had his own huge ambitions, that was passionate, inspirational and a real go getter. I wanted to have things going full steam ahead too!
Sounds great in theory right? But if I’m doing the same, then where is the time together going to happen?
What I have found with my many alpha female friends is that their current partners are in fact supportive more than anything else. Usually my friends are real go getters and their husbands support them from the side line.
Women at the front, man standing next to her.
Supportive = great.
Doormat = not so great.
I mean don’t even get me started on that topic again.
So if there is ever a wonder why so called alpha females are having trouble, its because they are looking for an alpha male when what they really need is a beta.
Sorry girls.
So what is my conclusion?!
Alpha Males with Beta Females. Alpha Females with Beta Males.
*sigh* I finally believe that is true ….
Thoughts?
Hot Alpha Female
Hey I’m surprised this has no comments! Just discovered your blog and love it btw…
I’m convinced that ‘Alpha’ Males have got to be some of the most annoying creatures on earth. They need to have their insecurities constantly being reinforced by one of more adoring beta females. I’ve also realised that this bothers me so much because as an alpha female I sort of need the same.
Keep on blogging, have you on my rss…and take care!
Kasha
Hey Kasha,
This original post actually had plenty of comments, but they are all over at my last blog! Thank you for dropping buy, I’m so glad that you are enjoying the content!
I think Alpha Males can have particularly large emails, just like Alpha Females. It also depends on the type of Alpha Male you come across, as some are more self assured than others. They are definitely fun though and a great challenge =)
Hot Alpha Female
Finally!! Thank you Hot Alpha Female.
Was so greatly intrigued by this post that I managed to hunt down a copy of Venus on Top for my own hot little hands. I especially enjoyed the diversity of responses from book store assistants in response the the title of my request
You did a beautiful job on this post.
This is also helpful I think in articulating to alpha females the difference between emotionally unhealthy (doormat, dependent etc) and supportiveness in their partners.
We could be here for days in a discussion of socially determined gender roles and diversity of these constructs misconstrued as weakness. There needs to be clarity on the subject.
Would be very interested in reading any further publications you make on beta males/alpha females.
Keep up the great work! This is a fantastic thing you’re doing!
Warm regards,
Yve