Ok so there are heaps of paradoxes in the world that we live today. And there are especially a lot of contractions and double standards when it comes to dating.

So here I’m going to discuss a very well known one, that I think is totally unfair on women.

What exactly am I talking about?

Ok here it is …

For a female, if you are “too easy” you are called a slut and if you are “too challenging” then you are called a prick tease.

Now lets for the moment, just assume that these are the two variables that exist. Because you know what? While there is still some ambiguity there, essentially that is the only two options that exist for a woman.

So lets just explore how I think that this is a double standard and then see what I think the best option is.

Firstly, if a guy is pulling a lot of chicks then the term that is used to describe him is no where near as derogatory. He would usually be called a player …. I call my player friends man-whores, but that’s because I’m annoyed about this whole double standard thing.

But see being called a player for a guy isn’t really a bad thing at all. I mean to some people its a totally kool thing. Other guys look up to them and women want to be with them. If you are a guy and you can score with multiple women easily, then you are not a man-slut … you are a freaken legend. You are not looked down upon, you are raise on a pedestal and given high fives.

The on the other side. If you were a women and you were doing exactly the same thing, scoring with lots of other guys, sleeping around with random men that you met in a clubs or whatever then you would be termed a complete slut, skank, whore … (there seem to be a lot more words to describe slutty women than slutty men).

No only that, you are perceived as that term by not only MEN but also WOMEN. There are so many times I have had conversations with girls and they are terming these “easy” chicks as sluts and putting them down, not wanting to really associate with them or be friends with them, unless of course they are the same.

Then on the opposite side, guys also don’t look favorably upon skanky girls. I mean yeh sure they would hook up with them, but usually anything more than that, seems totally out of the question. Most of the guys that I know, don’t really like easy girls, they prefer more of a challenge. N if they are easy, its almost like they gave up their soul or something.

I say each to their own .. like whatever floats your boat.

But I will say that in this point in time, being “easy” probably isn’t something that women are aiming for.

So what is the alternative? Well to still act feminine to still be just as sexy but not give it up to dam easily.

So here is where the double double standard lies. And NO this is not an instance where two doubles cancel each other out.

So if you don’t want to be a slut and you don’t give it up so easily then a woman in coined a prick tease.

Now lets go to the Urban Dictionary and see how some people define this term.

Definition # 1

  • Women who’s idea of sexual satisfaction does not include penile penetration as an essential aspect of sexual activity. Terms like prick tease are the product of a double sexual standard that insists upon women being sexually attractive and available to men while remaining chaste virgins. Under the double standard, a woman is damned if she does (slut, whore, tart, hussy, je-zebel, bunny, wench, tramp, etc.) and damned if she doesn’t (prick tease, prude, jilt, vamp, coquette, etc.).
  • No term today exists for the male who leads a woman to expect sexual satisfaction but fails to satisfy her.
  • Prick tease is the term for a woman who “displays affection and sexual interest in a male, assumes sexually inviting postures, speaks intimately, allows petting or necking and perhaps indulges in sexual foreplay, but does not allow coitus or satisfy the male”.
  • A prick tease is the way a female can get satisfaction while at the same time reducing chances of contracting sexually transmitted diseases.

Definition # 2

  • Girl who flirts with you all night long, grinds up against you on the dance floor, allows you to buy her drinks, but doesn’t go home with you, or if she does, goes to sleep. Might indulge in some kissing or foreplay, but always. Always leaving the guy wanting more.
  • Female who is very skilled in the art of seduction, knows not to give everything at once, makes the guy really want it
  • Very very attractive female

So its kind of like … your squished between two walls and either option ain’t looking so good. But if it was me, I would much prefer to be regarded as a prick tease than as a slut. But what annoys me is that these seem to be the only two things that you can be coined as.

Now the one thought that came to me as I was writing this. Is that male’s don’t have a term for them that implies that they are a prick tease.

But it reminds me of something that I heard which I think is very true.

Men and Women have different things that they want. Simply put men want sex and women want commitment. Each of them dangle that in front of the opposite sex to get what they want.

So essentially even though it may sound like I’m contradicting myself here … both men and women are prick teasers in their own way.

Its just that women are the only ones that get called out for it.

Thoughts?

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