OK so last night while I was out shopping for a 21st birthday dress … I had one of those light bulb moments. It lit up so freaken bright, I think I might have blinded myself.

So let me just set the scene for you guys so I know that we are one the same page.

It was Thursday late shopping night and it was the last chance to get something for my 21st birthday party on Saturday. If you haven’t noticed I don’t really enjoy planning and leave things to the very last minute =) Basically I had one night to find a dress that would scream “Birthday Girl!”. So my mum was actually with me, and she was the real blessing in disguise.

So I had 3 hours to find an dress for my party and not a whole lot of hope. I rampaged about 20 shops, tried on at least 10-15 different dresses and by the end of the night I was no where near any closer to finding something that I really liked.

So let me cut to the end of the story. I did end up finding my perfect dress. Its everything that I wanted to find in a dress and it was perfect for the occasion.

But here is the thing ….

I found it at the very end of the night, in a shop I had never been in before, in a color that I wasn’t going for which looked like NOTHING I had in mind!!!

So if some of you may be thinking about what light bulb moment I had, then let me just explain. I realized that I was frustrated all night looking for a dress that I thought that I wanted, but in the end wasn’t what I really needed. I almost didn’t see this perfect dress for me and it was only my mum who was looking outside a different scope for me, to see the potential in that dress.

See I was looking for a specific dress. And I thought at the time that when I saw it, I would be able to recognize it. N because I was only looking for a specific dress, then that “type” of dress was all that I was really seeing.

Now for those of you have haven’t caught on yet, that dress could also be an analogy for an ideal partner. Like how many of us, have a mental picture of what we would want our ideal partner to be? How many of us have these so called lists. And you know what, some of you may have lists of what you want in an ideal partner and not even know it!

And what I’m posing here … What if that picture we have in mind about our ideal partners, isn’t what we really need or really want? What if the ideal partner that we have in mind, wouldn’t really be ideal for us anyway? What is you met someone who you “thought” was completely incompatible for you ends up being the right guy or girl for you?

N here is the other thing. Where did you get these ideals from anyhow? Why do you have them? Where did they really come from? Who says that you need to date a guy of a certain background? Who says that you need a guy of a certain age? Who really is the one that sets up all this criteria?

This is something that I really believe we need to think about here. Because I believe that if you dig far enough then you will find that you have cloned some of the values of society, of your friends, of your family and what you thought were really YOUR values, aren’t really yours at all.

So in short what was my light bulb moment. I think it was actually acknowledging, that as much as I plan to have an ideal partner of a certain type, height and background, I may very well get something completely different.

You know at the end of the day, don’t we just want to find someone to share our happiness with? N my enlightening moment, was actually finding strength, in just surrendering to the whole process. To stop judging people on such a face value form the get go .. and giving people a chance who I normally wouldn’t.

Last night I surrendered to the fact that MR Right … might not be exactly how I imagined him to be .. and you know what?

That’s ok …

Hot Alpha Female

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