I know, I know. Some of you probably want to kick my butt. Sorry the posts have been a little all over the place recently. I’ve been running about like a mad woman in my preparation to America, which is happening … hmmm like 2moro. But for right now. I’m still here =)

Ok so today’s topic is called what you don’t know that you don’t know. I love this quote, because its so confusingly profound.

I was reading a wonderful book a couple of nights ago when they said this quote and something dawned on me that I had to share with you.

So what am I talking about exactly?

Well let me explain.

Its kind of the like the saying. You cant think what you don’t want to think about without thinking about it. Let me say that again. You cant think what you don’t want to think about without thinking about it

But what does this all mean. Well for example. If I told you not to think of a blue tree, then what do you automatically think about? So where am I getting in all of this and how does this relate to dating, success or life in general.

Well here is the thing that I uncovered.

In those areas of our life that we are not happy with or that could use some improvement. In our striving for success in that area of our life. We may THINK that we NEED certain things to make us happy, or allow us to be successful in that area.

We may THINK that we actually do know it all and the only reason why we have not achieved something is because there is something holding us back.

But what if I said to you … that the very thing that could be holding you back. Is something that you are unaware of at the moment.

A lot of guys THINK that certain things with girls should work. Like being really nice, buying her flowers and giving her all this attention.

But here is the thing. in many ways they don’t even KNOW that this is something that does not work. Because at the moment this is the only thing that is possible for them in that point in time.

I hope I’m making sense here, because this is a rather deep and heavy topic.

What I’m trying to say, how can we really search for the right answers when we don’t even know how to ask the right questions?

I don’t know maybe I have been doing too much studying for phenomenology and its all gotten to my head.

But let me just entertain you with this idea. Is it possible, that the very answers you are looking for in life are already in front of you? N really all you have to do is look up and around and finally see it all.

Isn’t that what an epiphany is all about?

Realizing something that was in front of you the WHOLE time. And then when you look back and reflect on it … you just think to yourself. How come I never realized that before.

This I believe is one of the keys to success in life and in relationships. Basically acknowledging and being humble that there are a lot of answers out there in the world for you. N that its time you wake up and start seeing them.

Its about opening your mind and not assuming that you know it all. Its about really seeing the possibilities out there and recognizing that absolutely anything and everything is achievable, its just your job to find out how.

So that’s what I’m going to leave with you guys today. What are some of the wake up calls that you have had? Some of the most important lessons that you have learnt? Do you agree that the very key that you are looking for, maybe nothing like you imagined it to be?

Let me know your thoughts,

Hot Alpha Female

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