One Of The Most Powerful Ways to Create Attraction – And It Has Nothing To Do With The Way You Look Or What Car You Drive …
I’ve got a juicy one for you guys this time round.
If any of you are wondering .. is this really possible?!Can you honestly create attraction even if you don’t have the looks, the car, the money?
Well you guys are going to love what I have to say
Because ……
I believe that not only is this possible, its HIGHLY possible … And it happens everyday.
You know who the ones that have figured out this skill and are using it?
Yes that right. The bad boys, the players, the PUA’s
They have all figured it out …. So now I’m going to let the rest of you know how they do it and why it creates so much dam attraction!
Ok so you want to know what this secret is?
You are going to love it …
Here goes …
Body Language
Doesn’t sound nearly as interesting as I made it out to be right? But im telling you …
You guys are in for a treat.
Because body language accounts for more than 90%of the way that we communicate. And let me tell you it’s a whole lot more fun than just talking =)
So for all you guys out there that are frustrated and haven’t quite been able to figure out that just “talking” will not get you anywhere. This one is for YOU!
Because you are going to learn that you can communicate dominance, control and confidence all by the way that you hold youself ..
So lets get stuck into it …..
How you stand
Ok guys that stand very tall and strong are instantly more appealing to chicks. Don’t know what it is, but no matter how butt ugly you are … if by the way you stand exudes confidence and dominance you will have pretty much any girl eating out of the palm of your hand. So this includes standing up straight and tall, usually your legs are wider apart, you have a steady stance. When you are near walls or door you push up against them.
I know, I know, this may sound a little odd .. But it works every single time. Im a chick and I still can’t figure it out. But just take my word on this one.
How comfortable you are
So this means you have to break the touch barrier as soon as possible. This mean when you are talking to a chick you are fairly laid back and relaxed. But when you make a joke or want to show her something, then you should lean in, be close and lightly touch her on the shoulder.
Once you break this touch barrier early on it helps you move past the obstacle of being called a friend in the future. Because friends are the guys that we label as” too nice” in a sense we cant feel attracted to them, because they are more like brothers then lovers. If you know what I’m saying. And well I don’t know about you. But dating someone like my brother would totally not appeal to me, nor most other chicks for that matter. So heres a piece of golden advice. If you like a girl, then don’t fall victim to the “let just be friends” syndrome. It would just be easier to jump off a bridge.
How you look at her
Ok heres the thing guys. Girls don’t really like to be peeeeer-veeeed on so much that they start to feel like an “object” rather than a human being. Girls like attention don’t get me wrong. But when a guy comes along and makes it so obvious that he is checking her out it is an INSTANT turn off. Notice I said turn OFF and not turn ON. This is especially true because there is no challenge for the chick at all. She knows you have the hots for her and that you could be eating out of the palm of her hand any second. And well lets face it, that doesn’t go in your favor when it comes to building attraction.
But the one way to show that you are genuinely interested and not like the rest of the other guys, is to make direct and meaningful EYE contact with her. If you make a joke or are in a conversation with her, make sure that you look into her eyes and no where else. Gaze into them, but be exceptionally comfortable when you do it. This kind of eye contact captures a girls attention. And she likes this attention, because it’s the right sort.
Just remember one thing. Beautiful girls love to be told that they are smart. Smart girls love to be told that they are beautiful. In other words as a general rule give a chick what she doesn’t usually hear. That is the only way you are going to gain and keep her attention.
How you speak
I know it’s not so much to do with body language, but it’s relevant here because it goes along the general principle of “It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it”. The thing is, chicks love guys with a lower/deeper voices. It’s much more attractive when a guy has a low, deep and contained voice.
Heres an example. Say the first guy is a guy who has a high pitched voice and is very animated in the way that he talks. He is a fast talker and laughs at his own jokes. Now compare him to a guy that is laid back in the way that he speaks, answers most questions with a question and doesn’t give too much away.
Now this might seem really obvious but I can guarantee you that if a chick were approached by these two different guys then she would choose the second one. She might not know why she chose the second one … but she would.
So this one if for all the guys that were clueless … But now are now more enlightened. This one is for all the great guys out there .. that can’t seem to figure it out. This one is for the nice guy .. who needs to discover that by JUST being nice .. isn’t how you win the game .. nor the girl ….
Hot Alpha Female
Hey Hot Alpha Female,
Another brilliant post – and one that really hits the mark for making impact (and stand out from others). I notice that when moving around as part of my day-to-day business, people actually notice and respond to you more when your body language is first rate.
BTW, when i’m overseas – approaching, attracting, comfort…. with great body language gets results. Aussie girls would discard that in preference to a guy lacking good body language, eye contact, tonality if he is her ideal type. I can give plenty of examples that a direct approach (oozing confidence, beaming, smiling, eye contact – as if you’ve just noticed them) Stopping them, saying how they look amazing – how you really admire women with class and style, transitioning, statements/assumptions, put out an opinion opener, etc blah, blah, blah gets the rolling eyes/IOD/etc as compared to England where a beautiful girl would welcome such an approach (walking along the street, in a line, at the bus stop, in a cafe, on a train, etc)
Question: Hot Alpha Female ~ what/why are the cultural/societal expectations in Australia that actively make the women totally disinterested in such an approach. I’d be happy to demonstrate what I mean : )
All the best
Regards
@Fat-Albert: Just so we are clear I thinking you are saying people in England are more receptive to a much more forward and direct approach than people in Australia?
My first response would be that in England people are a little more uptight and less laid back so the friendly and open approach would work a lot better – because it is different and refreshing. In Australia it is already so laid back and relaxed that woman have random conversations with all sorts of people and this is normal. So when you approach them in a direct and friendly way then … there is really nothing that makes you stand out from the crowd.
With Australian woman I would say that banter and almost of a crudeness (lacking a certain level of politeness) works really well. It is interpreted as being more authentic and real which is very appealing for Australian woman – who don’t like anything that seems pretentious.
Hope this helps =)
Hot Alpha Female
Faint heart never won fair lady. Okay, we can sum it all up by saying “grow a pair”. Some guys, like me for instance, are not going to date the hot ones, no matter about the body lingo, voice or anything else…they know they can attract a better looking guy and that is that..period!
There is a whole lot of wishful thinking going on here. Let’s tell the truth..women look at the looks, especially if they are good-looking. Yes, there are exceptions and i have seen them..and no, the guy does not have to always be rich or handsome to get the hottie..BUT, these exceptions are just that…rare exceptions. The vast majority of gorgeous women out there will always turn down the less (physically) attractive man in favor of the better looking one, especially if they are both equally confident. Real confidence i believe is not trying to measure up to a woman’s criteria of manliness in order to get her to be interested in you. Are women so easily duped by geeks in wolves clothing? I would hope not! I’d like to at least pretend that they don’t fall for tricks like that.