So I Just came across an interesting blog that wrote about Alpha Females and some of the difficulties they might face and i thought you might like to see my response. You can see the original blog here at

Why Successful & Attractive Women Are Scary To Men ?

My Response: Hey Laura,
I totally agree with you and I just want to add to a couple of things that you said. So when i say a couple, well this could take a little while.

I mean i definitely agree that Alpha Females have very high standards. But that gets me to question first, what is an Alpha Female? Is she simply someone earns more money than her man? Does it mean that she has more control over him in every way? Does it mean that she is smarter than him? Better looking? Or does it just mean that you will do the housework for him?

I ask these questions, because I think that some girls, label themselves as Alpha Females because they are simply picky. But this pickiness man not come from Alpha Female tendencies which I believe are associated with much higher levels of self confidence but because they have been hurt in the past and therefore feel they need to set higher standards so they cant be burnt as easily.

So while im an advocate of the Alpha Females especially “Hot Alpha Females” I think there needs to be a real understanding of what an Alpha Female is. In my terms I think that it is someone who has high levels of self confidence, knows what she wants out of life and looks for things that are challenging and meaningful. I think she is someone who strives to seek an equal, someone who she can throw ideas back and to with, who brings out the best in her. She does have high self esteem and this allows her to surrender to her worthy partner. Surrendering means that she can do things for him, without feeling like she is being degraded. Because she is a giving and whole person and wishes to express this. That’s all. An Alpha Female can maybe earn more money than her partner, or maybe equal his income. But she knows that this is not a reflection of her partner and his worth. You can be an Alpha Female and love to cook for your partner, wash the dishes and do the laundry.

Why do people have this preconceived notion that you are either an Alpha Female or a Traditional Housewife. All I’m asking, is … cant you be both? I think its highly possible. N this is what I would classify as the “ Hot Alpha Female” – just an ordinary chick who can balance lead a balanced fulfilling life in all areas. Work, leisure and relationships.

I mean I definitely get your point that many guys are scared off Alpha Females because they appear to be very aggressive. But I think that if you toned it down a bit, that you would be able to attract a lot of meaningful traffic in terms of interested guys your way! N I think that the aggressive mainly stems from wanting to protect yourself from being hurt, n working on this area so that you no longer feel like you need to put up a barrier to the world and to guys, will make attracting the right guy for you a whole lot easier!

Let me know your thoughts, coz I’m interested in what you have to say

Hot Alpha Female =)

N remember “The real secret to gorgeousness is to have the belief and self confidence in yourself to be absolutely certain in all decisions and thoughts” – Kirsten Dunst

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