Bringing Out “The Feminine” In A Woman …

God gave women intuition and femininity. Used properly, the combination easily jumbles the brain of any man I’ve ever met. ~ Farrah Fawcett

Have you ever been in the presence of a woman who is in her true feminine energy? I say presence because it’s not only something that you can see by the way her face softens or lights up but it’s a warmth and vibrancy that she emanates and that you can actually feel. It’s truly a wonderful thing.

What a feminine woman looks like …

I have experienced for myself and seen it many times over: a woman in her feminine energy. A feminine woman is generally a happy woman – a woman that is very at ease. She has a warmth, vibrancy, and openness towards you. She is innately connected to herself. In a relationship, a feminine woman is attentive, caring, and supportive. She finds it easy to find things that she appreciates. She looks comfortable, secure, and at ease with you. It’s easy for her to laugh, it’s easy for her to be vulnerable, and it’s easy for her to connect with you.

Reasons why she loses it …

There are two main reasons why women do not truly tap into their femininity. The first is that there is still a social stigma that assumes that feminine energy is weak and that more masculine energies are needed to balance this weakness.

The second reason is that women find it difficult to be feminine when they are scared, insecure, or upset about something. And, when they experience these emotions they shut down their ability to tap into their true femininity.

In this case, there is not much you can do about the first reason. Social stigmas can take years and years to change. The main thing that you can do here is to simply recognize this and take it into account with your interactions with women on the dating scene or with that woman you are relationshipping with (I know relationshipping is not a word – but it should be).

The second reason is the one that I want you to focus on because that’s one that you have more control over. You have the ability to help a woman overcome the boundaries that are stopping her from tapping into her feminine nature.

Some of you have seen the shift from a woman being in her feminine nature and then changing when something stresses her out or upsets her. When a woman is under stress of any kind she may resort to more negative or more masculine energies. Negative behaviours include becoming more controlling, demanding or withdrawn and sullen. The way to get a woman to get back in touch with her feminine energy is for her to clear whatever it is that is preventing her from accessing it. Click here to read more »

7 Ways to Make the MOST of the Relationship You’ve Got

Happiness is having what you want, and wanting what you have ~ Josh Bullings

 

When you first meet someone you really like and this time the feeling is mutual – it can be a bit of a whirlwind. It’s easy to see all the things you like about them. It’s easy to spend time with them and for it be exciting, surprising, and fun. And, once things start to transition over to something a little more serious – sometimes the relationship can lose it’s original sheen. You have your first argument. You start doing the things that you were doing before you got caught up in the romance. Things start to settle down a bit. So, what can you do to keep that relationship alive, happy, and still exciting? How can you really make the MOST of the relationship that you’ve got? Here are a few key tips (7 actually) that will help keep you on the right track.

1.Be authentic.

Ok, so it sounds so cliché BUT it’s really important, so I’m going to remind you anyways. Remember to stay true to yourself and your values. I could also say it like this: “You have a freak flag – so let it fly”. Don’t try to be something that you are not. Don’t try and mould yourself into some fantasy version of a man that your girlfriend wants. You may think, “If can change this one thing – then she will be happy”. But the problem with that is – you make one change and then she will want to change something else. And, then at the end of the day you won’t know who you are and she won’t know who you are either. Make sure that if you want to make more positive changes about yourself or in your life that you are in alignment with what you really value and not just because you “think” it will make the relationship better. When you stay true to yourself and what’s important to you – you have more to offer the relationship. Have the courage to stand up for what you believe in and when the opportunity arises choose the option that feels best for you and most true for you. Click here to read more »

A New Way To Look At Old Relationships

“Nothing comes ahead of its time, and nothing ever happened that didn’t need to happen.” ~ Byron Katie

Recently, a few of my close friends have been going through relationship breakups. Most of them are handling it well and learning a lot in the process. Having this at the forefront of my mind has caused me to think about relationships in a perspective that may be helpful for those of you going through a recent breakup or still trying to overcome one that happened a while ago.

 

Principle One: The purpose of relationships is growth.

This is a massive concept. So, I thought I would give it to you first (so you can spend the rest of the post digesting it). I could also follow it up with these next two statements:
Relationships are fluid rather than concrete. Relationships are about the process rather than the destination.

If I were to ask people what they think relationships are really about, they might answer along the lines of: “To be with someone who loves me unconditionally”, or “To be with someone who makes me happy”, or “To be with someone who makes me feel secure”, etc. And, the kind of unspoken general consensus of how one should tackle relationships is to, “Find the one you want to be with as quickly and as efficiently as possible”. With this last statement in mind it could easily be concluded that any relationship that didn’t serve a lifetime is considered to be a “failed relationship”.

But, what if every relationship served its own purpose? What if every relationship gave you an opportunity to grow? What is every past relationship was a stepping stone to something new and more desirable? What if every relationship you ever experienced was the perfect one that you needed to be with at the time?

If you think about your past relationships that have ended and apply this new perspective, you may just find some rare and beautiful gems of how each of these relationships have served you and helped you grow. Click here to read more »

What She REALLY Means vs. What She Says

I know it can be confusing and frustrating when a girl says one thing and means another. One important thing to note about women is that most of the time – you cannot take their words literally. Women are incredibly equipped to be able to read between the lines and pick up on things that are not being “said”. This is one of the primary ways in which they create and maintain relationships with other women and the people around them. If you actually watch two women interact with one another you and pay attention to this – you will see that they are always reading behind the lines to identify the true meaning of what is being said. The majority of men are very literal. You take things at face value. Thus, the difference in communication styles creates discrepancies. Please feel free to use this post as a translation guide. And, if there is a common phrase that I missed which you would like a translation for please leave it in the comments below and I will explain it!

She says: “I’m fine”

What she means: There IS something wrong. And, you should know that when I say I’m fine – I’m really not.
Why she does this: She wants you to care enough to first notice that something is wrong and then second ask her questions to determine what’s really on her mind.
What you should do: When a woman tells you she is fine – realise that it’s a red flag that something is up. You get one point for noticing. And, one point for doing something about it. More often than not she will either be feeling vulnerable or angry about something. If she is feeling vulnerable focus more on reassurance. If she is feeling angry focus on getting her to lighten up, laugh, and relax a little more. Click here to read more »

Keep your promise. Keep her interest.

Keep every promise you make and only make promises you can keep.
~ Anthony Hitt

In other words, if you can’t make a promise then just don’t make it at all. Often guys think that in order to keep a woman happy they have to promise her “the world”. But in actual fact, you are more likely to make a woman happy by the promises that you deliver on.

For any of the women reading this post (I know you are out there) what would you prefer? A man who sets the expectation that he will not call you for two weeks and then doesn’t. Or a man that promises to call you for two weeks but doesn’t. Which one would bother you the most?

In either case, the same thing happened. He didn’t call for two weeks. BUT the expectation that you (the man) sets – MAKES ALL the difference. I can tell you right now that most women would prefer the first scenario than the second one. The reason is because in the first instance her expectation is that she will not get a call for two weeks. And, in the second instance she is expecting calls during this time and has two weeks to be continually disappointed that she is not getting one. By making a promise you are creating an expectation within a woman. So, you have to be careful about the promises that you make. If unsure – then do not make the promise. Click here to read more »

What kind of man will you be this year?

“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.
~ Walt Disney

Maybe it’s not a question you have ever asked yourself – but this year, I would say it’s one question that you should. Have you noticed that life does NOT wait around for you? It’s always on a lightning fast course and you can choose to jump on the train or get left behind.

Therefore, it’s always important to consciously create the kind of life that you want. And, it’s equally important to consciously create the kind of man you WANT TO BECOME.

Why is this important in attracting a great quality woman? Because the quality of woman you attract will depend on the quality of man that you are.

You want better quality women? Then become the kind of man that she would be attracted to. This is the fundamental principle that you must grasp and apply in your life. It’s not just good enough to know this principle. You have to apply it in your life – you have live and breathe it.

So, I ask you again … What kind of man will you be this year? Now, I’m not saying that you have to revamp your entire life or personality. I’m just talking about maybe one or two qualities that you would really like to work on this year.

Would you like to be more proactive this year? Would you like to say YES to more things rather than the standard “no”? Would you like to be more assertive this year? Would you like to add new people to your life? Would you like to get rid of people in your life who are not serving you in any positive way? Would you like to get your body into a physical health and shape that you are proud of? Would you like to take more risks this year in the financial arena, in the relationship arena, in your personal arena? Would you like to finally do that ONE thing that you have always wanted to do – that you have always found an excuse to put off …. until now? Click here to read more »

All bets are off …

What we don’t understand we can make mean anything.
~ Chuck Palahniuk

Have you ever had a woman give you the cold shoulder in a MASSIVE way? Like, you guys were flirting, dating, relationshipping (yes I just made that word up) each other and then things went downhill and she wanted absolutely nothing to do with you? If you haven’t been in a situation like this: then I’m sure you know someone who has.

What I want to let you in on today is the reason WHY she does this. Because when you figure out the WHY then the “HOW to” deal with it becomes very easy. It becomes easier for you to come to terms with her behaviour (and move on if that’s what you want). And, it becomes easier for you move from “her not wanting anything to do with you” to at least getting back onto talking, interacting, and eventually “picking up where we left” terms.

Now, if I were to ask you the reasons you think a woman does this – what would your answer be?

Some of your answers may revolve around: “She’s just a cold hearted B*tch!”; or “She was just playing me the whole time”; or “She never had real feelings for me in the first place”; etc.

I know that when a woman gives you the cold shoulder it can be a very hurtful thing. The most extreme case of this would be in a relationship breakup. You guys have spent all this time together, you feel like you know each other inside and out, and you have some really good memories together. How can you go from a relationship so close, to no contact at all?

Well, I’m going to answer that question right now. It’s really quite simple. And, here is the answer. A woman gives you the cold shoulder for one reason and one reason only: “Self Preservation”.

Let me explain … Click here to read more »

3 Ways to Flirt With Your Girlfriend … Today!

“Relationship is an art.
The dream that two people create is more difficult to master than one.

~ Don Miguel Ruiz

If you want to keep the passion and excitement alive with your girlfriend then you only need to remember one thing: you must actively build anticipation within her. Building anticipation, mystery, and giving her something to really look forward to – is the name of the game. And, if you are guilty of having one too many boring nights on the couch watching TV with her or you feel things are getting stale – then it’s time to mix it up. Here are a few suggestions:

Step One: Spend more time creating that sexual tension.
Remember how to flirt? Well just because she is your girlfriend doesn’t mean that all of a sudden that should stop. Go in first for the passionate lingering kiss instead of heading straight to the bedroom. Spend a little more time talking with her, staring into her eyes, giving her dirty sexual looks, touching her all over her body BEFORE anything actual sexual happens. Appeal to ALL her senses: whisper in her ear, wear a touch of cologne that she loves, kiss her passionately, etc. All this build-up of anticipation may not be that exciting for you – but it will drive HER WILD. Click here to read more »

Are you waiting for the right person to come along?

Love is flow and walls keep the flow out
~ Deepak Chopra

I recently wrote a newsletter for my exclusive readers about how to be the “complete package” (become an exclusive reader here). This was a little different from a lot of the articles, posts, and newsletters that I usually write about. The reason for this was that it was based on some of the more “superficial” things that help attract a woman. Things like your overall appearance, your competencies, and making your home more women friendly. Throughout this newsletter however I did emphasize first and foremost what is MOST important in attracting a woman. And, that being your confidence, presence, and charm. This is something that nice cologne or an interesting skill-set CANNOT compensate for.

And, on the topic of things that cannot be compensated for I wanted to talk about “finding love” or rather, “finding that special woman to love”. I know that a lot of you are in this place right now. Many of you are looking for ways you can attract that wondrous woman into your life that will somehow strip away the loneliness that none of you would outwardly like to admit exists.

And, while I talk about developing your presence, widening your skill set, building more self-esteem, and understanding women – all of these WILL NOT make much of a difference: until one thing happens. Click here to read more »

3 Tips For Dealing With Controlling Women

“Nothing is more terrible than activity without insight.
~ Thomas Carlyle

Now, I’m sure that you don’t wake up and think, “I would just love to date a controlling woman! That would be so much fun!” Yet you continue to find yourself with a woman who at times is demanding, nagging, complaining, and just acting downright bossy. Despite this, controlling behavior is simply a natural extension to a woman’s personality, just like drinking a cold beer, zoning into a sports game, or playing a video game is to you after a hard day’s work.

Since we have established that controlling women are everywhere, let me help you identify this behavior and show you how to minimize it.

Recognize controlling behavior is simply a signal that a woman is feeling insecure. She may feel a threat to her sense of self, her emotional state, or your relationship with her. Therefore, the controlling behavior creates a sense of security in her world, which stems from her temporary inability to trust you or herself. In her mind, it’s easier to hone in on you rather than look at her own insecurities. Ultimately, she needs her emotional security restored. She needs to regain that certainty with her sense of self, emotional state, or relationship with you. So, what are specific things you can do to prevent and manage controlling behavior?

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