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“A pedestal is as much a prison as any small, confined space.”
~ Gloria Steinem

Now, if this was a “pick up” blog I would be saying, “Why have one girl when you can have 10?” And, then proceed to tell you all the benefits of what having 10 girlfriends would be. But for anyone who has actually had more than ONE girlfriend at a time, the reality is it creates more problems than it does benefits. But that is besides the point, because the point is that the majority of you are looking to get the interest of ONE particular woman.

So, here is the best way in which you can attract that one woman into your life. First, it’s your (good old) mindset. It’s your attitude and your inner game. Now, I know this is the boring answer and I know that some of you just wished for once I would say, “Here is this bright shiny blue pill and if you just take it, the girl of your dreams will be in your arms and you will live happily ever after”. But as you know, life let alone dating women is not like that – AT ALL.

So, yes, it’s all about your mindset baby! In fact, there are complete programs out there that ONLY focus on helping you develop the mindset to attract and keep a woman in your life. And, if it’s good enough for them, then it’s good enough for you. So let’s get to it!

You know what makes a fantasy so appealing? The fact that it’s a fantasy! And, usually the basis of any fantasy is intense focus on only ONE SIDE of the equation. And, as you know life is always working in balance. So, it’s not that the balance doesn’t exist, it’s just that the fantasy prevents you from seeing the other side. If you could see what you want from a balanced perspective, then you would take the fantasy off it’s pedestal and more than likely set a realistic plan to accomplish your goals which YOU BELIEVED was possible.

Which brings me to this idea:

Most of you guys say that you want to get that one special girl, but MOST of you don’t believe that you really can get her.

Some of you don’t believe you are worthy to get a girl like that. Some of you think that you are going to need to work extra hard and be super perfect to attract a girl like that into your life and to keep her there. Click here to read more »

In 2005 Steve Jobs did a speech to a huge cast of college graduates. What he shared with them were some principles which were potentially life transforming.

There was one in particular that I truly connected with. And, it’s one that I believe will help you over your FEARS when you feel like: everything is on the line.

Perspective changes our world. And, that changes everything.

Hot Alpha Female

You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection.
~Buddha

I know “that” woman you are talking about. Ok, maybe not personally, but I know that you think she is the one woman or the one kind of woman that would really make all your dreams come true. Maybe she is uber hot. Maybe she is seriously sexy. Maybe you think you would have a killer connection with her. Fill in the blanks however you please.

Whether it’s a celebrity fantasy like Kim Kardashian, Angeline Jolie, Megan Fox or Jessica Alba; or it’s the girl next door; the girl at work; the best friend who you want to get to know in the “other way” – the same question keeps coming up.

“How do I get a girl like “that” to date a guy like me?”

Which is usually followed by a whole bunch of reasons your “mind” makes up which disqualifies you from dating a woman like this. In fact, the mind is a very powerful thing. And, even if a woman like “that” was interested in you – with that current mindset either you wouldn’t see it, or you would sabotage the process so a girl like “that” would eventually lose interest in you.

Now, I’m not going to go on another rant about how important mindset and self esteem is when attracting and dating good quality women (or maybe I am). I would suggest that if you can’t relate to any of what I’m saying – it’s probably because you have grown beyond this point. Congratulations. For everyone else .. keep reading. Click here to read more »

You can visit this newly created page <here> to view other frequently asked questions about dating, relating and attracting women.

I get this asked all the time. HAF, are women less logical than men? And, how do you reason with their logic?

I believe that both and women can be irrational or illogical at times and it’s really dependent on “who is more logical” but more on “who is emotionally mature”.

The more emotionally mature a man or woman: the greater lines of communication; the more rational relationship behavior is; and the greater opportunity for real intimacy to arise.

A big part of this, is selecting a woman who does not LIVE in “high maintenance drama mode”. This ultimately, will have an impact on the way that you live your life and experience your relationship with any woman.

Part of this, is realizing that no matter how great you think this woman is: she may be using her emotional immaturity and drama to control you. So be aware of it and don’t fall for it.

Hope you guys enjoyed QandA week. Please feel free to write other questions you have below and I’ll answer the most popular ones next month.

Be in touch with you all again soon,

Hot Alpha Female.

P.S. Music by James Holland called “Hot Alpha Female” and you can listen to the full song <here>

The image is one thing and the human being is another.
It’s very hard to live up to an image, put it that way.
~Elvis Presley

Is it possible that ALL women could hate one word? I would say yes. Yet, it’s a word that women constantly use behind each others back and the real secret is that some women want to act in this manner with their man – behind closed doors.

So, “what is this word?” you ask. Are you ready for it?

Slut.

It’s a word that is probably more hurtful than calling her a bitch BUT “whore” comes in close second. What does a woman experience when this word is associated with her? Probably the same amount of horror you would experience if someone yelled out in a public street, “He has a tiny penis!” and started pointing and laughing at you.

It’s part of the fear of being called this by other women (and men) that causes women to act in specific ways deigned to help build an image of themselves which may be far from the truth. So, it means it can cause her to say one thing and appear to mean the opposite. Because of this word, women feel a need to maintain a certain positive image. Ever wonder what all the jokes are about when a woman has an argument that she is always right? Women feel an enormous pressure to be perfect, which implies being right all the time.

Many women fear that if they do not live up to a specific image, then they might be rejected and labeled as an outcast. This might impact their chances of finding a really good man OR getting help when they need it. This is a fear that runs in the background. It’s part of a basic instinct reaction to survive in a social environment. Click here to read more »

This video is tackling the question, “Do I have to Lie to a woman to attract her?”

Well, firstly what do you feel a need to lie about to woman? Why would she not be attracted to or turned on by the truth. I would say it’s the fact that people are dishonest today which are killing their chances with women.

Being the truest to yourself and your intentions will blow some women out of the water and attract more women into your life that you can handle all at the same time.

Keep a look out for the next video coming out week answering the question, “Are women less logical than men?”

Please write your comments down below. I would love to know what they are.

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See you in the next video,

Hot Alpha Female

P.S. Music by James Holland called “Hot Alpha Female” and you can listen to the full song <here> 

“The whole point of being alive is to evolve into
the complete person you were intended to be.”
~ Oprah Winfrey

Some of you might be thinking, “Ummmmm, that’s the only reason why I’m here” (hey, I had to use something to grab your attention didn’t I?) Before, I go on to explain why you don’t need a girlfriend, let me share some research I was reading the other day.

Apparently, a researcher concluded that when a wife dies, the husband is likely to follow soon there after. Yet if the husband dies, the wife is likely to live on.

Talk about being completely unfair! So, why does this happen? Well, another research project concluded that men and women tend to have different quality of relationships.

Meaning, women tend to have multiple emotionally intimate relationships – so, they will confide in their husband, their friend, their cousin, the guy next door etc. Whereas men tend to emotionally rely on their wife for emotional intimacy – and only confide in their wife for the most part.

Talk about emotional fidelity.

So in lay man’s terms what does this mean? Your girlfriend, partner, wife has more emotional outlets which she can express her feelings and share her thoughts, whereas men usually rely on their intimate partner to confide in. Click here to read more »

Today we are answering the question, “Is it ok to be direct to a woman?” I cover the apocalypse opener (which is a very direct pick up line) and the reasons why being direct can work in your favor.

Apocalypse opener explained <click here> OR if the link above doesn’t work then try this one <here>

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Look out for the next QandA coming out this week: “Do I have to Lie to attract a woman”

I’m looking forward to your thoughts and comments,

Hot Alpha Female

P.S. Music by James Holland called “Hot Alpha Female” and you can listen to the full song <here>

“An emotionally immature woman has no sense of awareness of what she is doing. She is on autopilot. She is in constant reaction to her emotions to her needs and wants.”
~Hot Alpha Female

Alright, I really do need to talk to you about something. There seems to be a huge fixation getting the likes and attention of a particular woman or that hot chick. If you have read my other posts <here>, <here> and <here> you will know the warnings I have about many hot chicks. I’d say I was sorry about bursting your bubble, but I’m really not. I don’t want you guys to make the same mistakes most other guys make.

There are reasons why guys are attracted to women who look hot. Some of the reasons have to do with symmetry being a possible indicator of fewer genetic problems. Other reasons may have to do with youthful qualities about the face or body appearing to be associated with fertility. Whatever the reasons, I would strongly encourage you to think about your decisions with your BIG head, not your little head.

Most of you will come to conclusion of: “I like this chick and I want her now!” And, don’t give it much more thought than that.

There are women who are average looking who can be wonderful partners or dates. But, let’s get real. Even average looking women can cause problems. So, let’s talk about screening out women who might fuck up your life. Hot or not.

Click here to read more »

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Have you ever had a woman say something like “I’m fine”, or “it’s ok”, or, “nothing’s wrong”, or “never mind, I’ll get it”. These kind of passive aggressive comments can leave you confused as to what they mean and what to do about them.

Is everything actually ok? Is everything fine? Did you really do nothing wrong? More importantly how do you handle a chick when she says something like this and CLEARLY something is wrong.

In this video, I give you a plan on exactly how to handle it and how to discern the reason why women act the way that they do.

In the meantime, I hope you enjoy my TERRIBLE imitation skills.

Hot Alpha Female

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P.S If you have any questions you want addressed you can ask them below and I’ll take a look at them for the Q and A video next time!